In recent years, people's ideas about children's education have changed greatly. Respect for children's rights, wishes and freedoms, and taking children as the main body have become the mainstream. In addition, the proportion of only children in China families is increasing. People regard children as the apple of their eye, lest they be ignored. Especially in the voice of "appreciation education", the word punishment seems to have disappeared in speeches and books.

However, children's problem behaviors have not decreased. On the contrary, some children make teachers and parents feel helpless and difficult to educate. In fact, families and kindergartens still have punitive behaviors.

I have seen a smart and strong girl with my own eyes. My mother takes her to piano lessons. As long as one bullet is not good, I will slap her mother in the face. Her mother always persuades each other, but the more she persuades, the more she cries, and often stops classes. However, when her father took her to the piano class, she behaved well and behaved normally. I asked his father about his adopted son, nothing more, just a small punishment.

The child is accidentally burned by hot rice, and he will be careful when he sees hot rice in the future; If a child bites something like soap, he won't try it next time ... and so on, which can be called natural punishment. This kind of punishment can let children know that some things can't be done.

If a child touches the power plug, or climbs the windowsill of a tall building, or runs around on the road, sometimes it doesn't work to reason, so appropriate punishment is obviously necessary.

If children often attack others, or make a hullabaloo about in class, and other methods have been exhausted, can they try to punish them at this time?

In modern society, if adults violate the rules of the law, they will be punished in various ways, including fines, imprisonment, labor reform and even death. Children's future world will also face the rules of these laws, so why not punish them for their illegal behavior from an early age and cultivate their sense of responsibility for their actions?

In fact, both families and kindergartens have punishment behavior. If we avoid talking about this kind of behavior and don't study how to use punishment under what circumstances and what kind of punishment should be banned, then the punishment behavior of treating children as "punching bags" rudely and arbitrarily in the family will not be eliminated, and the arbitrary behavior of children in some cases will make adults helpless. If on the one hand, teachers and parents use punishment to eliminate children's bad behavior, on the other hand, they are required to bear the responsibility of unfavorable education. Isn't this demanding?

2 the disadvantages of punishing young children

First of all, the punishment mentioned here does not refer to those rude and barbaric words that beat, abuse, reprimand and sharply degrade children. The punishment in early childhood education should not be the physical and mental destruction and injury of children by adults, but a kind of educational measure that should be reasonably imposed on children's bad behavior on the premise of caring for children, and should be carefully controlled.

The contents of punishment education can include: criticism and warning; Give a negative expression; Ignore; Punish them for stopping the games and activities that children like; Punish them for redoing or finishing the work; Punish him for sitting or standing aside; Temporarily deprive them of the right to play with toys and read picture books.

When we find that children have bad behavior, it is immediate to prohibit the recurrence of such bad behavior through punishment, but common punishment will also cause some adverse reactions of children. For example:

3. 1 Children's emotional response. Punishment can easily lead to a strong emotional reaction of children, and children with strong self-esteem can easily show resistance. Some children will transfer their resistance to others to vent. Timid children will cause fear, anxiety, escape, crying and other reactions, and may lead to self-isolation, lying, aggression and other behaviors.

3.2 exemplary role. Children can easily imitate the behavior of adults. If adults often or excessively punish children, children will treat others in the same way.

3.3 Arouse children's aversion to things related to punishment. The result of punishment can make things related to punishment cause disgust in children's hearts. If a child is punished for not studying well or doing something well, then any factors related to this punishment, such as books and classrooms, will cause the child's inner disgust. If children are punished by punishing labor, labor itself will form a sense of disgust in children's hearts.

3.4 Strengthen bad behavior. Punishment is easy to cause children's rebellious psychology, and when punishing a child in a collective occasion attracts the attention of other children, the child's bad behavior will be strengthened by the attention of others.

3.5 distance of punishment. Children who are often punished by their parents or teachers are prone to dissatisfaction, alienate teachers and parents, and lead to peer isolation.

3.6 Parents or teachers can easily form habits. It is worth noting that children's bad behavior will cause parents and teachers to be emotional, and punishment may quickly curb bad behavior, making it easy for parents and teachers to become dependent on it. Punishment is a negative way of education, which can only be used to prohibit or restrain children's bad behavior, but not to make children establish good behavior. When the child's bad behavior is stopped by punishment, teachers and parents should analyze and minimize the causes of the child's bad behavior, consider how to reward and strengthen the child's good behavior, and rationally and carefully choose and master the timing, method and scale of punishment. And pay attention to providing children with opportunities and methods to vent their emotions and relieve psychological pressure.