There may be more than one reason why I have been single. But in my opinion, the most fundamental reason is that I don't recognize and accept myself. Or, I care too much about what others think of me. This is especially common in modern society, because the whole society seems to hold a passive attitude towards the word single, especially women. For example, if you are a single man, it is easy to be regarded as a "workaholic" who pursues his career; However, if you are a single woman, you are likely to be regarded as a "yellow-faced woman" or a "leftover woman", and even become the object of forced marriage pursued by parents and relatives.

However, in modern society, celibacy is no longer bound by traditional ideas. Being single is not an unacceptable sign, but a way of life. So I must be aware of this, fully accept and understand my living condition, and learn to respect, appreciate and experience the benefits brought by this condition from my own perspective.

On the other hand, I must admit that I am not the only one in this world. In any case, it is necessary to establish relationships with others and it is extremely important in the journey of life. Everyone around me can be the wealth and resources of my life, whether it is my career and ideal, or my hobbies, entertainment circle and social circle.

Therefore, if I have been living alone, it is not because of fate, but because I lack some efforts and courage to start a new relationship. In this process, I need to be curious, open-minded, open-minded and actively integrate into different groups. I can join some interest groups, participate in outdoor activities, sign up for volunteer activities and so on, and make like-minded friends through these channels.

Finally, I don't think a healthy single state means a complete denial of your partner or love. If you really like someone, then of course you can try to establish a relationship. The key is that I need to understand and accept the life stage and situation of myself and each other from the heart, and appreciate and understand each other as much as possible.

In a word, I don't think being single is terrible. What is terrible is our prejudice and limitations on ourselves and others. When we fully accept our single status, actively carry out various relationships, and find a truly suitable partner according to our own wishes, perhaps the person who suits us best will quietly appear at an unexpected time.