(A) to adapt to the lifestyle of the university
1, learn to take care of daily life
For example, learn to get up on time, exercise, make your own bed, clean your own room, wash your own clothes and take care of yourself. In the process of practice, it would be better if you can communicate with your classmates, because the interaction and learning between classmates can promote the improvement of self-care ability to a certain extent.
2. Learn to "manage money"
After new students enter school, many parents give their children living expenses for one semester at a time. Students hold so much money at once, without the supervision of parents, which leads to too much blind impulse consumption and lack of overall arrangement. Sometimes, it is not uncommon for students to spend half of their living expenses and half a year's living expenses on one entertainment within one week after entering school. Some students have no spending plans and often have "economic crises". Therefore, college students should establish the concept of financial management and pay attention to consider: in life, which expenses are necessary, which expenses are completely unnecessary and which are dispensable. Money should be spent on the cutting edge to avoid unnecessary consumption. In addition, we should arrange our daily consumption according to our parents' financial ability.
3. Cultivate good living habits
College students are full of energy and are in the stage of long body and long knowledge. Good living habits are an important basis to ensure the success of the university stage. In order to achieve the goal of physical and mental health, we should pay attention to this problem, cultivate good living habits and prevent the formation of bad living habits from entering universities. For example, it is necessary to arrange work and rest time reasonably and develop the habit of going to bed early and getting up early; Appropriate physical exercise and recreational activities should be carried out; It is necessary to ensure reasonable nutrition supply and develop good scientific eating habits; We should also correct or prevent smoking, drinking, indulging in video games and other bad habits.
(B) to adapt to university study
1, consciously and actively learning
Changing passive learning into active learning is the key link to adapt to the university learning style. The characteristics of university study are: professional students have more free time, so they need strong planning ability, self-study ability, self-control ability and autonomy; There are open libraries, open teachers' resources and open academic lectures in universities, which provide an open learning environment for students. Some freshmen feel really comfortable going to college. Teachers don't check their homework and don't have to study by themselves. Many students suddenly relax from the intense study in high school and enter the university, spending more time enjoying the comfortable life of the university than studying. In fact, the connotation of university study is multifaceted and high-level. You can not only learn all kinds of professional knowledge, but also learn knowledge outside your major. You can also broaden your knowledge and cultivate your abilities in language expression, literature and scientific research. However, all these require students to study actively and consciously.
2. Learn to explore learning
It is impossible to learn by rote in middle school, because universities cultivate the ability and skills to apply knowledge, so we should learn to use university learning methods to learn and manage time scientifically. For example, you can invite experts and professors for counseling, or you can invite seniors with excellent learning experience and methods to teach. In addition, you should find a learning method that suits you. Because each of us has different cognitive styles, the learning methods used to learn the same learning content should also be different. Only by finding a learning method suitable for your own way of thinking can you get twice the result with half the effort.
Small scale test
Question 1: Someone bought a horse for $60, sold it for $70, then bought it for $80 and sold it for $90. How much money did he make?
Question 2: Someone bought a white horse for 60 dollars and sold it for 70 dollars. Then he bought a dark horse for 80 dollars and sold it for 90 dollars. How much money did he make?
3. Cultivate self-study ability
Understand that the success of college studies depends not only on hard work, but also on good learning methods and self-study ability. "Learning to learn" is the primary ability of talents in 2 1 century, and college students' autonomous learning ability will go through three different quality levels from "can't" to "can learn" and then "can learn". The educational feature of 2 1 century is lifelong learning, which will accompany one's life. Self-study ability is the advanced stage of ability structure, and acquiring self-study ability will benefit you for life.
4. Establish new learning goals as soon as possible.
Freshmen should set new learning goals as soon as possible after entering school and make a good study career plan for three years. For example, what is the learning goal of a university? Some students may be college graduates, some students may be looking for a good job, and some students may just mix diplomas. No matter which goal it is, college students should carefully position themselves according to their actual situation, make a detailed three-year study career plan for the university, and be good at dividing big but not specific goals into small, precise and detailed goals. Only in this way can you feel a sense of accomplishment and fulfillment in college life and study.
(3) Adapting to interpersonal relationships in universities
1. Respect each other's differences and seek common ground while reserving differences.
Freshmen are strangers to each other and feel fresh. Every student is curious about other students. So at the beginning, the students were very polite, modest, tolerant, caring and considerate. With the increase of time together, we can get to know each other more comprehensively, and we can not only find many advantages of our classmates, but also find each other's shortcomings and deficiencies. When other people's words and deeds don't meet their own requirements, we should learn to seek common ground while reserving differences, admit that individuals have their own living habits and values, and don't take personal likes and dislikes as the standard, let alone impose our own standards on others, and don't compare new friends with good friends in middle school. Let's think about it from another angle: how do others view my "strangeness"? In this way, we can better understand and respect others. Tite-for-tat and intransigence will not only help, but also make things more rigid. Of course, there is no need to compromise if a classmate's behavior really interferes with himself. Besides, sometimes others don't know that his behavior has hurt others. Simple forbearance will only make your heart more painful, and others don't know it. At this time, you should put forward your opinion politely. In addition, you can adjust your lifestyle appropriately.
2. Keep an open mind and actively communicate with classmates.
The psychology and behavior of communication are dominated by the fundamental attitude, and the correct attitude when communicating with classmates should be to be honest with others and make others feel safe; Being honest can make people enjoy a sense of respect and have a pleasant association with you; Being tolerant and open-minded will make people feel rewarding and will take the initiative to associate with you. In our daily life, we should take three measures: greeting classmates, talking with classmates and helping others. When helping others, don't be too concerned about whether others can repay you.
3, master the basic skills of interpersonal communication.
Learn to communicate with others, and the establishment of good interpersonal relationship is inseparable from good interpersonal communication. Good interpersonal communication is the key to open interpersonal communication, the sword to resolve misunderstandings and conflicts between people, and the lubricant to enhance interpersonal feelings. The loneliness and depression of freshmen are often related to their inability to communicate with others and establish new friendships in time.
You can learn interpersonal skills from the following aspects: actively interacting with people can not only strengthen mutual understanding and enhance emotional communication, but also avoid suspicion and misunderstanding; Appreciate others sincerely, let others feel their own value, and repay their praise with gratitude and friendliness; Being ready to help others and giving them material or spiritual help can quickly shorten the distance between people and quickly establish intimate relationships.
When communicating with people, we should pay attention to the scale of communication, learn the way of talking with people, listen to each other's speeches and pay attention to the details of communication. When giving advice to classmates, we must use our brains and pay attention to methods and skills. For example, don't give advice to others in front of everyone, so as not to be embarrassed and lose face.
4. Adapt to the new teacher-student relationship
In middle school, teachers and students get along almost day and night, and the frequency and quality of communication between teachers and students are very high. There is not only communication between teachers and students in study, but also communication in life. Therefore, teachers really become good teachers and friends of students. However, university teachers usually leave after class, and it is sometimes not easy for students to ask teachers for professional knowledge. Some teachers hold leadership positions or undertake scientific research tasks in addition to attending classes, so their time is very precious. Therefore, if you can't communicate with the teacher actively, the teacher may think that you don't have such a request. To this end, we should learn to actively communicate and cooperate with teachers through multiple channels. Communication with teachers can be not only face to face, but also through the internet, telephone and letters.