Family education is an inseparable and important part of the whole education system, which is related to the improvement of the overall quality of the Chinese nation and the healthy growth of children. Family education refers to social activities in which parents consciously cultivate talents according to social requirements and exert certain educational influence on their children through their own words and deeds and family life practice. Therefore, the role of parents in the family is very important. They are children's first teachers, even lifelong teachers.

Keywords: family education, the healthy growth of primary school students

Second, the influencing factors of primary school students' family education

Problems in family education Family education and school education should go hand in hand, but many parents lack correct educational ideas and scientific educational methods. Many family education and school education are not coordinated at a basic point, and they cannot form a full effort. Some even contradict each other and offset each other, thus greatly weakening the role of school education. At present, some tendentious problems in family education deserve the attention of parents and educators. Therefore, teachers often feel that the school has worked hard for a week, and the negative education of the family is hard to resist for a day. Based on the current situation of the above two kinds of family education, the following family education problems have emerged: (1) Parents expect too much from their children. As a good wish, it is beyond reproach. The problem is that some parents take it for granted that their children are designed too high based on their own subjective wishes, turning this desire into an unchangeable pressure and imposing it on their children. They arranged a "growth" path for their children. They acted according to the established rules, did not listen to their opinions, and did not meet their legitimate demands. This is against the law of children's physical and mental development and educational principles. (2) Pay more attention to intellectual education than moral education. Many parents put all their energy into their children's intellectual development. Some parents think that the task of parents is only to cooperate with the school to do a good job in their children's study, and their eyes are only on the scores. As long as you study hard, you can ignore everything else, ignoring the cultivation of children's ideological and moral cultivation and behavior habits, and ignoring the psychological characteristics of children and adolescents. They ignore the law of study, blindly increase homework, bind children with books and problems, and stipulate that they are not allowed to read literary novels, watch TV and do housework. As a result, children have high scores and low energy, poor hands-on ability, self-care ability and labor concept, withdrawn personality, fragile feelings and poor learning effect. (3) Only attach importance to material life and neglect spiritual life. Many parents pay more attention to their children's material needs, increase their economic investment in raising their children, spend ahead of time, invest a lot in their children's food, clothing, housing, transportation and play, care too much, protect too much and spoil them. Some parents are keen to use material and money to stimulate their children's enthusiasm for learning. As a result, they have encouraged their money worship and hedonism, and lost many precious things such as hard work, self-reliance, hard work, unity and friendship, dedication and sense of responsibility. Some parents ignore the influence of their words and deeds on their children. Educate children to study hard, study hard, but soak themselves in mahjong, tobacco and alcohol, wasting good time; Require children to respect and honor themselves, but not respect and honor the elderly; Children are required to be polite, but the children open their mouths to scold their mothers, call names, and so on. Some families play mahjong, poker and drink. There are also a few parents who have a bad relationship with their husbands and wives. They quarrel, separate and divorce all day, and their children are left unattended. (5) In terms of educational methods, we emphasize beating and cursing, but ignore reason. Some parents began to let their children go with the flow, whether they were taught or not, and let them develop freely. When a child has problems in morality and study, it is rude. Take reprimand and corporal punishment or ignore it. Some parents think that educating children is a matter of learning when they are in school. They are whatever they learn, as long as they don't break the law. Parents can't cooperate closely with the school, which leads to many educational misunderstandings and causes psychological and physical harm to children. Third, the countermeasures of family education The education of students is an extremely complicated and meticulous systematic project, which requires the close cooperation of schools, society and families. The first to sixth grades of primary school are the foundation of a person's life-long study, work and life, and the beginning of cultivating a person's good living habits and work attitude. As the saying goes, "parents are children's first teachers", and family education is both cradle education and lifelong education. Therefore, family education plays an important role in the growth of students.

Third, how to create a good family education.

The family education of primary school students directly affects the cultivation of their comprehensive quality. (1) Pay attention to moral education and the establishment of a harmonious family. In this regard, it is particularly important for parents to set an example. As parents, we should set an example for our children who are responsible for their family and life, and influence and educate their children to form good moral character. Creating a good family atmosphere and bathing children in a harmonious, civilized, healthy and relaxed family atmosphere can help children form a good personality and a strong sense of social responsibility. (2) Pay attention to cultivating children's interest in learning. Let children love learning and learn consciously. Family education is the supplement and extension of school education. Parents should cooperate with teachers to urge students to finish their homework and check it strictly to ensure the quality. For problems that children don't understand, they should be guided to think independently and complete independently, so as to improve their independent thinking ability. Outside school, let children choose their own interest classes to increase their personal charm. (3) Pay attention to children's all-round growth. At present, most children are only children, and most parents are afraid that their children will suffer hardships, in order to let their children concentrate on their studies and prevent them from doing housework. In essence, this is harmful to children's physical and mental health. If children want to become useful talents when they grow up, they must pay attention to their all-round development, not only study hard, but also let them do what they can, and cultivate their self-care and self-reliance ability, and step by step is a person with high scores and low abilities. (D) Close contact between home and school, and attach importance to the formation of educational synergy. Only when school education and family education work together can our education get twice the result with half the effort. Therefore, schools should make full use of home-school linkage books and parents' open days, and comprehensively guide family education from the perspective of modern education and quality education. Parents "trust children" and "appreciate children", appreciate all the efforts made by children, including a little progress and failure, so that children feel that their parents will always be his backing. Schools and families cooperate closely, give feedback in time, find out the gap, and really combine schools and families organically to produce a strong educational synergy. The healthy growth of students is the result of close cooperation between school education and family education. Paying attention to family education is the necessity of modern education. Every child's growing environment is different, and the formation of personality is different. In the process of growing up, it is a subject that every parent must seriously face and discuss in depth, that is, constantly summing up, teaching students in accordance with their aptitude and creating family education methods suitable for their children. Student Case Analysis Name: Xiao Wang Gender: Male Age: 8 years old Family: only child 1. Student situation: This student is an excellent student in the class. As a class leader at work, I have certain class leadership ability and problem-solving ability. He can lead his classmates to work together, has strong ability to do things, and helps the teacher to complete the daily class work. He is the teacher's right-hand man. In interpersonal communication, he can get along well with his classmates. No matter at noon or after class, students like to surround him and draw pictures or play games with him. He is the idol of all his classmates. In terms of personality, he is a lively and lovely child, who loves to joke and play, and is good at showing his own advantages. In learning, his Chinese and math scores are among the best in his class. He studies actively, is willing to think, speaks actively in class and has a strong ability to absorb knowledge, which is inseparable from his good family education. His father is a primary school principal and his mother is a middle school teacher. Before entering primary school, he knew a lot of Chinese characters and basically mastered the addition and subtraction within 1 0,000. Usually, as soon as he gets home, he will finish all kinds of exercise papers after class, which lays a good foundation for his study. However, he only wants speed in his homework and exams, and can't check the truth calmly, so he always makes small mistakes, which leads to poor homework quality and exam results can't truly reflect his true level. Second, the case example 1, the school held a skipping contest, and the results were not satisfactory during the practice, so he called on everyone to work hard and compete for the first place. 2. After finishing homework or difficult classes at noon, many students will gather around him to watch him draw or play chess with him. Students will inevitably have some disputes in the game. He can solve disputes and handle problems properly. Once, both groups wanted to play checkers, but the two pieces in the class were gone, so he offered to give up his pieces to the other group to play. 3. The punishment for class students to do something wrong is to deduct a five-pointed star. On one occasion, he was not disciplined at noon. After finishing his homework, he didn't sit in his seat reading or drawing as required. Instead, I walked around the class and talked to other students, so I criticized him and gave him a five-pointed star. I was deeply impressed by his words: "Hum, it doesn't matter. Anyway, I have many five-pointed stars, and I can make it up right away!" " At noon every day, this student must be in the top five in the class when he finishes his Chinese math homework. He was anxious to finish his homework as soon as he finished eating. I once asked him why he was in such a hurry to do his homework. He said, "I want to compare with others!" " However, judging from the situation of correcting homework, the quality of homework is not high. For example, words are often misspelled in Chinese homework and math homework is often miscalculated or misunderstood. Judging from the examination, he didn't get the first place in the class in the language unit examination, and his correct rate didn't even reach 90% in a mathematical multiplication oral calculation exercise (from the usual classroom teaching, he is the most skilled in reciting multiplication formulas and practical application calculation in the class). 5, his own business First of all, he is a little impatient with his classmates' inquiries. Some students in the class always want to ask him when they have questions about their homework, but he seems reluctant to help them out, so he always says this to the study committee. According to the requirement, an underachiever must recite his multiplication formula. At that time, he was doing his homework, so he said impatiently, "Go back and recite it for twenty times and come to me again!" " One day at noon, he was asked to hand out his homework. He said, "I'm doing my homework." I want to compete with others and let others deliver it. "Third, education advice 1, establish a correct concept of learning and cultivate a good habit of careful inspection. Now children are at the bottom of primary school, and their homework is basically done at school, so the burden is not great. But with the growth of grade, the amount of homework will gradually increase. Slowly, the completion of homework will be regarded as a task in children's minds, which will not only weaken students' interest in learning, but also distort the concept of learning. Moreover, he does his homework only for speed and not for quality, and will gradually develop a bad habit of carelessness, which will have a great influence on his future study. Teachers and parents should teach more, urge more and persuade more, and help him develop good study habits through careful examinations. 2. Guide children to correct their attitude towards praise and criticism. The student is the top student in the class, but the top students are usually praised more and criticized less. Because he is still in the low stage of primary school, he can accept criticism or even ignore it, showing an indifferent attitude. In the advanced stage, top students usually show frustration with criticism. It is particularly important to guide students to treat praise and criticism correctly from an early age. Don't be proud when praising, don't be discouraged when criticizing, and let him know that praise and criticism are just a means. Praise is because he did the right thing, and he should continue to defend it. Criticism is because he did something wrong, not personal denial. He can't ignore it. It doesn't matter if he knows what's wrong. 3. Correctly handle the relationship between classmates and avoid pride. Children in Grade Two have no sense of hierarchy. With the growth of grade, they will gradually realize the class hierarchy, which is the most obvious one, that is, underachievers. So the division of friends is also based on this hierarchical relationship. At this time, the top students will swell because of their excellent grades, and they are often praised by teachers, so they look at the middle students and underachievers with colored eyes, and even don't want to have too much contact with them, which will have a negative impact on children's outlook on life, world outlook and values. Teachers and parents should pay attention to the combination of praise and criticism to avoid pride. Guide children to correctly handle the relationship between classmates, observe the bright spots of each classmate with the eyes of discovery and learn from him, and help students who have difficulties in study or life enthusiastically and patiently. 4. Home and school are closely linked to form an educational synergy. Because the parents of this student are also workers in the field of education, they should be very aware of the importance of home-school cooperation. I believe that parents will actively cooperate with the work of the class teacher, and let the school know all aspects of the students at home through home-school linkage, modern communication means and home-school exchange visits. The school will let the children let their parents know their children's performance in school, forming a joint force between home and school, and * * * will educate the children well. IV. Summary The above is my case analysis. The family education environment of this student is still very good. I believe that with the joint efforts of family and school, this student will thrive and have a bright future.

Concluding remarks; Children's education is not a person's business, nor is it a responsibility that a person can bear. In that case, children's growth depends not only on the constraints of the teaching system, teachers' management and students' consciousness, but also on the family environment and parents' education.