In order to study the influence of early education on people's life, an American psychologist once selected 50 successful people and 50 people with criminal records in the United States to write to them respectively, asking them to talk about the influence of their mothers. Shortly after the letter was sent, psychologists received many replies, and two of them talked about the same thing: when they were young, their mother gave them apples. Among these two letters, one is from a famous person in the White House, and the other is from a prisoner who is still serving his sentence in prison.

The letter from the prison said: When I was a child, one day my mother brought some apples, red and green, of different sizes. I can see at a glance that the middle one is big and red, and I like it very much. I really want that big red one. At this time, my brother said what I wanted to say first. My mother glared at him unhappily and scolded him: "A good boy should learn to leave good things to others and not always think about himself." So, I had a brainwave, changed my mind and said, "Mom, I want the youngest and the biggest for my brother." Mom was very happy to hear that. She kissed me on the cheek, praised me as a good boy, and gave me the Red Apple Award. I lied, but I got what I wanted. From then on, I learned to lie. Later, I learned to fight, steal and rob. I did whatever it took to get what I wanted, until one day, I was sent to prison.

The letter from the White House said: When I was a child, one day my mother brought some apples, red and green, one big and one small. My brother and I are both eager to get the big one. Mother took the biggest apple in her hand and said to us, "This apple is the biggest, the reddest and the most delicious. Everyone wants it. " Ok, now let's play. I divide the lawn in front of the door into two parts, each of you is responsible for pruning, and whoever works fastest and best has the right to get it. "We all agree with my mother's suggestion, because we all want the biggest, reddest and most delicious apple. Only in this way is the fairest. So after my mother designated the lawn for us, we competed, and everyone wanted to do the fastest and best. After the game, I won the biggest, reddest and most delicious apple. I am very grateful to my mother, who made me understand the simplest and most important truth: to get the best, we must strive for the first place. How much do you want, how much effort and cost you have to pay for it. It was my mother's education that brought me to this day step by step.

In these two letters, the mother, as the child's first teacher, made a huge difference between the two children because of the different details of Apple: one made the child learn to lie; One teaches children to be honest and know what fair competition is. As a result, the two children had different lives from then on. The way the first mother divided the apples was actually a foreign version of "Kong Rong Rang Pear", which seemed to be nothing wrong, and its plot was even very similar to that of many parents.

What is the crux of the problem ? When the child makes the expected choice in front of us, we don't consider whether the child's choice is the true idea inside; I didn't expect that in addition to teaching children humility, they should also learn to compete fairly.