What is the significance of double-headed marriage? Double-headed marriage is a marriage mode chosen by many young people today, and it is also a marriage mode that many only children have come up with. Both parties have two children, one with the father's surname and the other with the mother's surname. Let's share with you the meaning of double-headed marriage. Let's find out.

What does it mean to get married at both ends? What does it mean to get married at both ends?

In reality, the only child is the majority, and the marriage problem has become a controversial issue for both men and women. The man wants to marry the woman, and the woman wants to invite her husband home, so they argue and argue, and the two sides talk endlessly, arguing as a bee. Later, a wise man came up with a way to kill two birds with one stone in a new era, that is, two ends have a wedding room and two ends get married. Simply put, getting married at both ends is neither a man marrying a woman nor a woman adopting a man. Men and women get married at both ends, and husband and wife go at both ends.

How about getting married in Jiangsu and Zhejiang?

Although the news reports described the "second marriage" as a new thing, in fact, such a marriage model has already had a considerable foundation in the local area. Due to the developed regional economy, most families have certain economic strength, but there are many only children, and both sides are facing practical problems such as providing for the elderly and raising children. Therefore, this marriage model, which downplays the concept of marriage and emphasizes family equality and living together, has gradually become popular.

Supporters believe that this way of marriage, the man does not have to pay a bride price, and the woman does not have to accompany him, which dilutes the exchange of interests in marriage, solves the problems of property inheritance and surname of both parties, and can also take care of old-age care and child-rearing, which is very equal; The opponent is full of hidden worries. They think it is unhealthy to rely too much on family of origin's marriage. To put it bluntly, it is just a beautified version of "eating the old". Moreover, the lack of stickiness between husband and wife may eventually lead to "two dizziness".

To tell the truth, both sides have their reasons, but they are too idealistic. Looking through the comment area of the news, even the locals have various understandings of "second marriage". Some people say that the husband and wife still live together, and some people say that they have returned to their hometown ... Obviously, this is not a fixed molding model, and each family can be flexible according to their own needs. So it is too early to say whether it is progress or retrogression, and what impact it will have on the traditional family model.

From the perspective of sociology, the essence of marriage is contractual relationship, and all forms are just shells. A happy and harmonious marriage must be based on love and the will of both parties, and the status of husband and wife is equal. On the basis of following these basic principles, each family has its own choices and solutions at different time periods, such as how to live after marriage, whether it is good or not, and how to adjust and change.

The "second marriage" is closely related to the local economic situation, customs and family structure. It is very special and should not be denied easily, and it is difficult to copy. As some netizens said, this is just the product of folk wisdom. Then, the problems arising from this can only be solved by folk wisdom.

What does it mean to get married at both ends? Is it women's freedom to get married at both ends?

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Some experts and lawyers also affirmed the emergence of double-headed marriage from the aspects of "being conducive to the stability and harmony of the family", "properly solving the realistic and psychological needs of both men and women" and "avoiding disputes over surnames and upbringing".

Among the reasons for praising the "modernity" of their marriage, it is an important link to improve the status of women. Indeed, from a practical point of view, women can get part of the right to be crowned in two marriages, and at the same time get the inheritance right of their parents' property, so they have more right to speak in the new family formed after marriage.

But this is not an active choice based on the concept of equality between men and women, but a by-product of the family planning policy, which is extremely temporary and unstable. This fairness, which is still based on the traditional patriarchy, is unstable.

Under the golden dust of fair marriage mode, what can't be concealed is the deep-rooted reality of the concept of carrying on the family line. It can be seen that experts who support the two marriages are talking about the ideal operation result of this model. They intentionally or unintentionally ignored the natural loopholes that the model itself could not fix.

To some extent, two marriages are a gamble. The question is, are you determined to win over those who have accepted two marriages without reservation?

If the couple finally have two children of the same sex, or if the children with agreed surnames are boys, then on the surface, everything can remain calm. If the woman doesn't want to have a second child or a boy with two children takes her surname, then this fairness will be broken sooner or later. Since two marriages make marriage more like a joint venture, it is inevitable to break the contract.

In fact, in recent years, in the research and papers about "second marriage", there are more or less cases of marriage breaking up due to the negotiation of the right of crown and surname. In the final analysis, in the two marriages, women's own fertility wishes were still not taken into account.

Even if there is a so-called happy and win-win outcome, the' child' with the woman's surname is essentially trying to complete the function of continuing the male family incense under the patriarchal family structure, not out of equal treatment between men and women.

The rise of women's status under the dual marriage mode is undeniably related to the status of the only child. Under the dual marriage mode, a woman's status can not be separated from her family background, or it can be clearly said that this power is borrowed from her father. Instead of relying on their education level, their professional achievements and their dominant position in family income.

From those two marriages, it is enough to see that only when there are no men in the family will the daughter become the heir of the family as a substitute. When there are male descendants in the family, the legitimacy of female inheritance will be erased immediately.

If women do not fundamentally jump out of the mirror city of patriarchal culture, but hope to improve their status from such a "new invention" as "second marriage", then what they finally get is only an illusory reflection.

The joys and sorrows of two married families

According to China Women's Daily, in recent years, a new form of marriage-double-headed marriage-has quietly emerged in Jiangsu and Zhejiang provinces. This kind of marriage does not belong to men marrying women, nor does it belong to women recruiting men to adopt children.

After getting married, the young couple still maintain a certain "stickiness" to their families of origin, and usually live in different houses. They usually have two children. The first one takes the father's surname and is mainly raised by the man. The second takes the mother's surname and is mainly raised by the woman. In the second marriage family, there is no concept of grandparents, and children call their parents grandparents.

In fact, in Jiangsu, Zhejiang and Shanghai, the marriage of most one-child families started like this about 10 years ago. This is nothing new, and it is not worth making a fuss about. I didn't expect many netizens to be surprised. This is what surprises the local people: is everyone's marriage and family lifestyle still in the past tense?

Getting married at both ends "has advantages and disadvantages."

The development of "second marriage" is actually more in line with the requirements of modern people who want to pursue equal relations between men and women and comfortable living space. It will change with the times.

Compared with traditional marriage and family, two marriages are more like having a child together. You raise yours and I raise mine. At present, this marriage mode is more popular with families with only one child, especially those with only one daughter.

For the one-child family, parents prefer to see their children keep close contact with themselves after marriage;

There is no bride price and dowry, which reduces the occurrence of disputes to some extent;

The two children have their own surnames, which also avoids disputes over surnames.

However, there are also some imperfections in the two marriages.

On the one hand, it is generally difficult to achieve complete equality in marriage and family, and there are still many contradictions between two married couples whose economic level cannot keep up;