China is a country of traditional etiquette. Since childhood, our minds have been instilled with the idea of "respecting the old and loving the young". Today, however, for those of us who live in a new era and society, "respecting the old and loving the young" has already gone beyond the scope of "respecting the old and loving the young". In addition to respecting the elderly, we should also respect everyone around us: no matter whether they are old or young, rich or poor, beneficial or unfavorable to themselves ... we should respect them equally. Because while we respect them, they will give us the same respect. I know the story that "a drop of charity is exchanged for a gushing spring", and I am willing to use this story to "respect others", because I think a person is an emotional animal, and when he is rewarded, he will definitely think of giving.
Respect for others in life is bit by bit, all the time. Perhaps, respect is just an encouraging look for a friend who is struggling in trouble; Perhaps, respect is just a glass of light water handed to travelers trudging in the desert; Perhaps, respect is just a kind greeting to lonely wanderers in a foreign land; Perhaps, respect is just a shy smile when receiving the test paper sent to you by the teacher ... respect is actually very simple and often happens in our casual actions. However, it comes from your love for others, society and the world. Because of love, the world is vast; Because of love, people's hearts are broad. A gesture, an action, a look, a smile ... everywhere is covered with the seeds of respect.
Respecting others is also being kind to yourself. We often hurt others and ourselves inadvertently. Because others will also say "casual" words; Will also make "insignificant" moves. We have lost the performance of respecting others, and others have no reason to respect us.
Love, tolerance and understanding constitute a vast ocean, which is called "respect". People live in such a vast ocean, enjoying the pleasure of body and mind, and creating one immortal myth after another. When people live here, there can be no spiritual barriers or communication barriers, and everyone respects each other. Because it is full of love, tolerance and understanding. ...
I once heard a story that a businessman suddenly felt pity when he saw a pencil salesman in rags. Without thinking, he stuffed 10 yuan into the pencil seller's hand and walked away without looking back. After a few steps, he suddenly felt that it was wrong to do so, so he quickly returned and apologized for forgetting to take the pen. I hope you don't mind. Finally, he said solemnly, "You are both businessmen like me." A year later, in a warm and grand social occasion, a salesman in a suit and tie met the businessman and introduced himself gratefully: "You may have forgotten me long ago, and I don't know your name, but I will never forget you. You made me regain my self-esteem and self-confidence. I always thought I was a beggar selling pencils until you told me yourself that I was a businessman like you.
I didn't expect such a simple business statement to make a person who is not without inferiority suddenly build up self-esteem and make a person in trouble regain self-confidence. It is with this self-esteem and self-confidence that he saw his own value and advantages and finally succeeded through hard work. It is not difficult to imagine that if there were no such words of respect and encouragement at the beginning, even giving him several thousand yuan would not help, and there would never be a huge change from self-admission to self-confidence. This is respect, and this is the power of respect!
Respect is a kind of cultivation, a kind of character, an equal treatment of others, and a full affirmation of others' personality and value. No one can be perfect. We have no reason to judge others with lofty eyes, and we are not qualified to laugh at others with indifferent eyes. If others are inferior to ourselves in some ways, we can't hurt others' self-esteem with arrogance and disrespect; If we are inferior to others in some places, we don't have to replace our due respect with inferiority or jealousy. A person who truly knows how to respect others is bound to face the strong and weak in all undertakings, all the luck and misfortune in life with an equal attitude, a normal heart and a calm mood.
Respect is a spring breeze, a clear spring, a warm sleeping pill and an inspiring tonic. It often complements sincerity, humility, tolerance, appreciation, kindness and friendliness, and is incompatible with hypocrisy, arrogance, harshness, ridicule, malice and snobbery. Give respect to successful people and show admiration, praise and pursuit of others' success; Giving respect to those who fail is sympathy, comfort and encouragement to others after their failure. As long as there is respect, there is true feelings in the world, and there is hope in the future. After success, there will be continuous progress, and after failure, there will be a comeback.
Respect is not blind worship, nor disgusting flattery; It is not unprincipled humility, nor is it condescending without self-esteem. Knowing the importance of respecting others does not mean learning how to respect others. In this sense, respect is also a science. When you learn to respect others, you learn to respect yourself, and you also learn and master a major meaning of life.
Let's savor and explore slowly on the road of life.
Only when people respect each other can they get along well.
Respect is affirmation to others, friendship and tolerance to each other. It is a lubricant of friendship, a harmonious regulator, and fresh air that we can't live without for a moment. "Chairman, how dare you propose a toast?" "Respect for the elderly, you should!" * * * and national leaders are open-minded about their teachers, which is respect; Facing Ms. Xu Guangping, Premier People's Republic of China (PRC) generously called "Auntie", which is also a kind of respect. .
Respect others, we win friendship; Respect others, we gain sincerity; Respect others, and we ourselves are respected; Mutual respect will make our society more harmonious.
Respect can not only make people feel happy and breathe smoothly, but also change strange or sharp relationships, just like Lian Po and Lin Xiangru.
Xiang Xiang and his story will be immortal: Lian Po was dissatisfied with Lin Xiangru and made difficulties everywhere. But Lin Xiangru has the overall situation in mind and has considerable respect for Lian Po. Finally, it won Lian Po's heart. They became friends and helped King Zhao. There was no way to take Zhao away. The mutual respect between Lin Xiangru and Lian Po has made countless generations pay homage to the good story for thousands of years.
There is a saying called "Give me a peach and repay it with Qiong Yao", which means that if someone gives me a peach, I will repay it with Qiong Yao. Respect is even more so.
Whitman said: "disrespect for others means disrespect for yourself", and "without self-esteem, there is no moral purity and rich human spirit. Homlinski also said that respecting others means respecting yourself. What is the difference between people? Only by respecting others can people admire them. Should we admire them and enhance our own connotation at the same time?
Martin? Luther King is worshipped because he has the same respect for all races. In their minds, everyone is the same. I think in our daily life, should we treat everyone with an equal heart? Beggars have their own difficulties, and even if they can't help, they shouldn't condescend? Cleaners are people who care about money and beautify our city with their own labor. Don't pollute our environment even if we don't have time to help them? They are all like us. Respecting them means respecting ourselves.
In that case, how can we respect others and be respected by others?
Respect requires putting down airs, showing sincerity, giving up small profits and being measured. Confucius pays tribute to Lao Dan, and the most sacred teacher of the Chinese nation is more brilliant;
Respect is neither unprincipled concession nor unprincipled flattery. Respect is the reciprocal communication between the two sides and the mutual comity between the two sides. If the other party has lost the minimum respect, we will lose the minimum self-esteem if we compromise, give in and please. Comrade Mao Zedong said: "If people don't attack me, I won't attack; If people attack me, I will be a prisoner! "
Each of us lives in this society and in a big family. We hope that others will fully affirm our personal existence, our achievements, our personality and their respect. So, how can we get the respect of others? In short, learn to respect others. So, how can we learn to respect others?
First, learn to appreciate. Appreciation is a positive and optimistic attitude towards life, and it is an excellent quality based on being good at discovering and abandoning bad psychology such as jealousy and pessimism. We should learn to appreciate the beauty, health, clear voice, beautiful bones, rich knowledge and culture of others ... appreciate the rich experience of the elderly, the youth of the middle-aged people, the youthful vitality of the young people, and the innocence of the young people. In short, as long as we are willing to appreciate it, we can always find reasons to appreciate it. As long as we learn to appreciate, we learn to respect.
The second is to have a good mentality of "three people, there must be a teacher". Around us, in the collective we live in, there are many models to learn. The beauty of others' appearance, spirit, language and quality are all good examples for us to learn from. Other people's profound knowledge, agile thinking, eloquence, outstanding talent, exquisite art, perfect personality, rich love and dedication are all worthy of our admiration and study. Only by keeping a modest attitude at all times and establishing the concept of "a threesome, there must be a teacher" can we learn to respect others, learn from others with an open mind, learn from each other's strengths, and then enrich and develop ourselves, so that our artistic life is full of artistic atmosphere.
The third is to learn to use common civilized terms. People are emotional animals, and human emotions are largely conveyed through language as a communication tool. So learn to use common civilized expressions. For example, "Hello", "Can I help you", "Sorry", "Never mind" and "Goodbye", don't look at these short civilized expressions. If you learn to use them, you may learn to respect others, and others will certainly respect you. Say "hello!" Expressed sincere greetings, blessed you, and brought others and your feelings closer many times. "Can I help you?" It shows your friendship and your ability. If you have any difficulties with others, you are willing to extend your warm hand. A "sorry" is to redeem one's unintentional fault, or a sincere apology for one's own fault, which not only shows respect for others, but also shows one's frankness. A "never mind" is forgiveness and tolerance for others' mistakes, and it also shows your open mind. "Goodbye" at parting can leave a good impression.
The fourth is not to curse, not to curse. Swearing not only reflects one's own uncivilization, superficiality and ignorance, but also seriously hurts others' self-esteem. If we hurt others with swearing and swearing, others will fight back at us, and we will lose our self-esteem.
The fifth is not to disturb others' study, work and rest. When others are studying, working and resting, we try not to disturb them. We knock on the door or shout a report before entering the room, and then go in after getting permission from others. These are concrete manifestations of respect for others.
The ancients said, "I respect people one foot, and people respect me one foot." In other words, as long as we learn to respect others, others will certainly respect ourselves more. If you want to be popular everywhere, you want to be respected by others, and you want to make your life more perfect, please learn to respect others from today on!