Secondly, make eight consolidation methods according to stratification, because with the continuous enrichment of social experience, you will build more and more interpersonal relationships, which will become more and more complicated, and different people will have great differences in your role, so it is a very wise choice to deal with interpersonal relationships through stratification.

To establish friendship, we must start with friendship. By using the following basic skills, you can develop successful interpersonal relationships and build lasting friendships in the process.

It will be very helpful for you to read and write more books on interpersonal communication. Carnegie's and Napoleon Hill's books are very good, and so is the local Analects of Confucius and Tao Te Ching. The most important thing is practice! I won't repeat the contents of the book. The landlord can see for himself. Let me talk about my experience here.

Here are my suggestions. I hope opening the book will help.

Take advantage of weekends to participate in social activities, parties, etc. It is ok to cultivate hobbies and walk from the internet to reality in order to enrich your life. Then you will meet more people and naturally expand your circle of friends. At the same time, if you are destined, you can find a confidant or like-minded friend. These are just external.

It is very important to cultivate inner character. Some people say that chasing girls should be bold, cautious and thick-skinned In fact, interpersonal communication sometimes needs this. You don't have to be as charming as 007 to cultivate your good character, but at least you have to be attractive to others so that others will be willing to associate with you, so that your popularity will get better and better, regardless of men and women. This is more difficult to do. The point is to practice more and accumulate more in peacetime.

At the same time, it is also important to associate with friends with strong social skills. Usually, we should pay more attention to learning how they make ends meet in social interaction. What is used here is Mr. Lu Xun's takenism, taking its essence and discarding its dross for our use. Entrepreneurship needs a good team, that is, complementary learning, and the collective strength is endless. The same is true in social life. The strength of the team is always much stronger than that of you alone, and those who are closely related to Zhu Zhechi also have great influence.

Reading thousands of books is better than taking Wan Li Road, reading Wan Li Road is better than reading countless people, and reading countless people is better than guiding teachers. It is also very suitable in social aspects.

Rome was not built in a day. Read more books to improve interpersonal skills, but more importantly, practice. After all, practice is the only criterion for testing truth.

Don't be extroverted. When I first went to college, I was also my type in the dichotomy of human nature, and my circle of friends was narrow. But now my friends say that I am very personal and interesting. I was impressed at first sight. I like reading, traveling, playing ball, dancing and dating. Now that my circle of friends is naturally large, a good attitude is still very important. This is my experience, I hope it will help you.

1. Be friendly and flexible.

When you have a conflict with others, it is more egoism than the problem itself. It is essential to learn to be flexible rather than fighting in most aspects of life. There are many ways to achieve the goal. If one way is different, take another way. Building your goals on concrete and your plans on sand will help you get along with others better.

2. Show positive body language

If you are relaxed and confident, people will feel relaxed with you; If you are nervous, they have the same reaction. Therefore, the way you walk and talk is very important. We should consciously cultivate our awareness of good posture. When you send positive body signals, people will involuntarily respond better to you.

Keep a pleasant voice

No one will think that he speaks too loudly. In fact, this will make many people feel bored. If you want people to respond to you enthusiastically, you should make your voice sound like a smile. Whether they can see your face or not, they will react.

4. Express your beliefs appropriately

Your personal beliefs may attract some people, but not all of them. Although we hope that our lives can reflect our beliefs, and we are willing to share them with those who want to know how beliefs change our lives, we should express our beliefs appropriately. Learn to be gentle with others and never be rude and annoying. If you want to influence others, you should take them seriously and respect them, and they will respect you more.

Listen carefully

Successful people are good listeners. If you want to succeed, you must first listen to people sincerely and ask them questions sincerely. There is a proverb that goes well. "People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care about them." Looking into each other's eyes and listening to each other's voice can better express your sincerity and concern.

get ready

Sometimes, you are afraid to meet others because you are unprepared for this situation. Most people have had this experience. If you are not ready to talk or nervous, it is difficult for you to communicate with each other well. Getting ready is part of building a good interpersonal relationship.

7. Truth and credibility

People need to feel that they can trust us and believe that we will treat them honestly and think of their interests everywhere. We must always be honest, credible and reliable. If you treat people with sincerity and really care about their situation, they will feel and react. Sincerity can win you good interpersonal relationships.

8. Find the landing site

People are like islands. You are driving on the island, trying to find a port and a boat to dock. If you want to find a "port" to stop, you must find some advantages of people and take him as the starting point. In this way, you will have a * * * sound with him.

9. Build a bridge

Wise people pay special attention to building bridges with others, no matter how insignificant they seem at the time. Never make unnecessary enemies. There are important spiritual, logical and moral principles behind this principle. Learning the art and principle of bridge building will bring you rich returns. In any case, you should open your door to as many people as possible.

10. sympathy

Compassion means thinking of others, putting yourself in others' shoes and sharing their feelings. Compassion also includes learning to speak in other people's languages. If you want to enter other people's private world and understand their mode of thinking, you must cross obstacles and communicate with them in a language they can understand. Love others even if they have different opinions.

1 1. Stand firm

Although you should care about others, you can't let them control your life. For those who have a negative attitude towards life, you can seriously correct them at critical times. In this way, he may make positive changes.

12. Conflict mitigation

Conflicts between people are an inevitable part of life. You can't completely avoid them, but you can quickly resolve them with some simple skills. And make a quick response; Ignoring conflicts will ruin your relationships. Don't let interpersonal relationships suffer any possible harm because you don't want to react quickly.

13. Focus and solve problems

There is a problem in interpersonal relationship, and your goal is to solve the problem, not to win the war. Everyone has self-esteem, and everyone wants to be right, which is the normal desire of human beings. First you must ask yourself; "What do I want to achieve?" In other words, what changes must I make to make things better. Secondly. Try to understand what the other person wants, and finally, try to meet the basic needs of both parties.

14. Can you help me? the method of

When you feel that the other person is not interested in your plan, you can use "Can you help me?" In this way, introduce the other person into the problem-solving thinking, so that you can establish a heart-to-heart connection with the other person. This not only enhances the value of the other party, but also allows the other party to respond immediately.

15. Try "Duck Reaction"

Most people don't mean to insult or hurt us. Unfortunately, many times, some of our words or facial expressions will be mistaken for hostile criticism or words. So it's best to assume that the other party's suspicion is reasonable, assuming that the other party is not malicious, 100 is correct 99 times, and the remaining one won't hurt you. Just as water drops will fall from the duck's back, you should also let troubles fall from your back.

16. Develop a sense of humor

Humor makes people relax, and humor makes people relax their vigilance. When things don't go well, a sense of humor will reduce the intensity of the blow. After a certain stage, you can laugh, which is much better than getting angry or worrying about something that you can't control.

17. Sincerely express praise and appreciation

Praise others generously, not hypocrisy and manipulative flattery, but sincere praise and appreciation. Everyone has his bright spots. Look for each other's strengths and praise them loudly. Praise this kind of thing, people are eager in their hearts, but rarely taste it. If you are willing to praise people, they will like you, they will find it difficult to leave you and look forward to seeing you again.

18. Send out a happy mood

It is natural that people like to associate with people they like. If you want to cultivate good interpersonal relationships, you must be a magnet for happiness. Eyes and smiles are invitations for interpersonal communication and a gesture to ease the defensive mentality of the other party. So, be a happy magnet, because it is an important part of building interpersonal relationships.

19. Make him easier to change.

Change is really a painful process, so most people are afraid of change. If the ways and means you provide just make their dreams come true, they will easily resonate with you. As long as people do it for their own reasons, not for yours, then any change is possible.

20. Be good at telling stories

The best communicators in the world know that the most powerful way to make people accept something is to tell stories. Life is not about facts and figures, but about people, their feelings, behaviors, decisions and results. Therefore, learning the superb art of storytelling will create miracles.

2 1. Pray for them with people.

Prayer doesn't need to be profound and complicated. It's just a simple conversation between you and God. However, in difficult times, prayer is a good way to relieve tension and reconnect with the people you love. Whether it's the pressure that is about to devour your finances or your unnecessary anger at each other, even if things are going very well, prayer is the link that can improve everything. It is worthwhile to spend some time in prayer.

Of course, interpersonal skills are not limited to the above 2 1, but when you can implant these basic principles into your life, your interpersonal relationship and your work, you will definitely see positive and lasting robbery. When you constantly improve your interpersonal skills, you will establish a lasting and excellent interpersonal relationship, which is the whole of life.

Finally, I will give you three sentences;

Win the trust of others by your own reputation.

Win the respect of others by your own dignity.

Win the friendship of others by your own friendship.