A senior vividly described to me: "The relationship between graduate students and bosses is actually the same interest." I couldn't agree more.
When I was a graduate student, I saw some graduate students being squeezed by their bosses, but I didn't get any substantial benefits. I saw some graduate students hand out one thesis after another and scholarships under the guidance of their bosses. I just realized what my senior said when she first entered school, that is, choice is greater than hard work.
What is a picture cake? The boss talks about his life's struggle, hard work and hard work, but he doesn't talk about what students really want. This is an act of brainwashing.
What is pua? That is, the boss always beats himself, compares himself with others, creates anxiety, makes students feel at a loss, and feels that nothing can be achieved without the boss.
I think the above two situations are caused by my unclear understanding of my ability and value and my heavy heart of gain and loss. I want to keep a normal heart at all times, and don't be too ecstatic because of a few compliments from others, adding unnecessary pressure to myself.
Don't be depressed because others hit you, and don't want to work hard anymore. Everything has its own rules to find, recognize and pursue the lifestyle and state it wants, correctly match its own abilities and values, and don't be confused by the appearance of external things. You can calm yourself down, not being happy about things or feeling sorry for yourself.