Setbacks are inevitable in a person's life. Don't bemoan why you are so unlucky. You will always encounter disappointment or failure. In fact, everyone will encounter setbacks, just big and small. Perhaps many students have learned this sentence: "God will assign great responsibilities to Sri Lankan people, and they will suffer from their will, work hard on their bones and muscles, starve their bodies and empty their bodies.". In other words, if you want to do anything successfully, you must pay a price, and setbacks and failures are part of the price you pay. It is not terrible to encounter failure or frustration. The key is how you deal with setbacks. Don't be disheartened and depressed when encountering setbacks. So, what is a setback? How should we face setbacks? Psychologically, frustration refers to an individual's nervous state and emotional reaction when he encounters obstacles and is disturbed in the process of engaging in purposeful activities, which makes his motivation unable to be realized and his needs unable to be met. It is a subjective feeling, which varies from person to person. Because people have different purposes and needs, the same activity may cause different subjective feelings to different people. For example, a scholar's wish is to make academic achievements and get more academic achievements. If he publishes fewer papers, he may feel frustrated, but he will never feel frustrated because he can't play cards and cook. Frustration is also closely related to the success criteria set by individuals. Everyone has different ambitions, so the degree of frustration they feel is different. If some students are not demanding of themselves, as long as they can be admitted; However, some students feel that if they don't reach 100%, they won't do well in the exam and will feel frustrated. There are two main reasons for frustration: one is objective reasons, such as others deliberately making things difficult and the weather is extremely bad; Second, subjective, such as personal physical defects, poor intelligence level, internal motivation conflicts and so on. Some subjective and objective reasons leading to setbacks are beyond our control, so when failures and setbacks are caused by objective reasons, don't blame others, but dare to accept them. At all times, many successful people have experienced countless failures before they finally succeeded. Jonas Sack is a great scientist who discovered the polio vaccine for children. His discovery saved many people suffering from polio. Because his discovery was made through 200 experiments, someone asked him: Your last discovery is the greatest, so what do you think of your previous 200 failures? He replied, "I have never failed 200 times in my life. In my family, we never think that anything we do is a failure. What we care about is, what kind of experience do we get through what we do? What knowledge have you learned? I succeeded in the 20th1experiment. Without the previous 200 experiences, I could not have succeeded in the 20th1experiment. " The motto of Madame Curie, a famous scientist, is "Never despair". Before discovering radium, she experienced hundreds of failures, but never gave up hope and efforts, and finally achieved eternal success. Xie Jun, a China woman chess master and three-time world champion, won the world championship twice, but lost in the title defending battle of 65438-0996. She was devastated. She once doubted her ability and wondered whether she should continue to choose chess. But she is still not defeated by failure. She thought that she should calm down and get up from where she fell. As a result, after three years of hard work, I finally defeated my opponent and won the world championship for the third time. The upsurge of "going abroad" is unprecedented. Many students who apply to go abroad in Beijing hardly know one person-Yu. Beijing New Oriental School, which he founded to train students to take TOFEL and GRE exams, has become the largest English school in China to train overseas students. Every year, many students pass the remedial classes of this school and finally apply to foreign universities with excellent results. However, in the early days of starting a business, due to poor conditions, there were only a few teachers, and he had to go to the roadside to post advertisements in person, and he also encountered various difficulties, but he also persevered and made unremitting efforts, and finally reached today's glory. The motto of New Oriental School is "Seeing hope from despair, life will eventually be brilliant". Some people may say that since setbacks are related to the established standards of success, will there be no setbacks if we set a low standard? But this is a coward's behavior. The strong should dare to meet challenges and competition. Then, in the process of facing the challenge, you may succeed or fail. Then, when we encounter failures and setbacks, what kind of attitude do we face? Try to treat setbacks rationally and calmly, and learn to clean up yourself. First of all, it should be clear that everyone can't always succeed in anything because of his own ability and objective conditions, and setbacks are indeed inevitable. Therefore, when we encounter setbacks, don't blame others, and don't feel sorry for yourself, thinking that we are useless, so when we encounter setbacks, we will be depressed and depressed. This practice will only make you a loser forever. Since setbacks are inevitable, when we encounter setbacks, we must first be calm and steady. The next important thing is to learn to clean up yourself, that is, to analyze the reasons for failure. After finding the reason for the failure, we will consider what to do next, and then regroup and prepare for the next challenge. For example, when you do badly in the exam, don't just stare at the score. The key is to analyze what caused the failure of the exam. If you didn't do well in the exam because you didn't study hard and didn't make full preparations, then make full preparations before the next exam; If I have tried my best, but there are still questions that I can't do, I still haven't done well in the exam. At this time, don't just deny yourself, especially don't deny yourself with the words "I am so stupid", because these three words are undoubtedly a fatal blow to your self-confidence, and don't beat yourself down. If you can't do the problem this time, ask your classmates or teachers to find out. This is the harvest. As students, there will always be problems that we can't learn. Even learned people have things they don't know. Remember: do your best and have no regrets! As long as you try your best, there is nothing to regret. Enlightenment, do your best, no regrets! Second, enhance their psychological endurance. The so-called psychological endurance refers to the ability of individuals to get out of the predicament actively and independently when encountering setbacks and avoid psychological and behavioral abnormalities. Positive psychological endurance comes from individual psychological resilience. The so-called psychological resilience, refers to the individual to find a goal, and long-term persistence towards this goal. In this process, we will not be anticlimactic, give up halfway, and never give up until we reach our goal. The strength of a child's psychological endurance may be related to his future achievements and development, while the strength of a nation's children's psychological endurance may be related to the future rise and fall of a nation. So where does the child's psychological endurance come from? The answer comes from setbacks, which can cultivate children's strong character and positive psychological endurance. Psychologists have done psychological experiments on children's delayed gratification. The so-called delayed satisfaction, as the name implies, is to delay the satisfaction of demand. The experimenter gave the children some favorite foods or fun toys, but asked the children to eat or play after the experimenter came back. Before the experimenter came back, most children didn't insist on eating food or playing with toys, but psychologists tracked the children who got delayed satisfaction and found that these children often became great achievements when they grew up. This is because these children have strong psychological endurance, can control themselves, resist temptation, and endure the frustration caused by temporarily unsatisfied needs in order to get greater satisfaction in the future. Someone once conducted a survey on Nobel Prize in Literature winners, and it was found that more than 50% of them had a bumpy and unhappy childhood. Edison once said, "The most obvious sign of a great man is his strong will. No matter how the environment changes, his original intention and hope will not change, but he will eventually overcome obstacles and achieve the expected goals. " The most obvious sign of a great man in revelation is his strong will. No matter how the environment changes, his original intention and hope will not change, but he finally overcame the obstacles and achieved the expected goal. -Edison III Enhance your ability and self-confidence. We have made it clear that in the face of setbacks, it is important to analyze the causes of failure in order to face new challenges and difficulties in the future. But we also know that if a person always encounters failures and setbacks, it will undoubtedly be a heavy blow to his self-confidence. Then this requires us to consciously strengthen our ability in peacetime, tap our potential as much as possible, so as to lay a good foundation for our success, and every successful experience, big or small, will enhance our confidence, so that we will try more challenging things, exercise and improve our ability in more fierce competition and more difficult circumstances, thus forming a virtuous circle. Successful experience and strong ability make us not be at a loss, discouraged and lose hope in the face of setbacks, but have the confidence to work hard and try. The ancients said, "Nine times out of ten, life is adversity". We don't expect a smooth sailing day, but hope to have a life without regrets!