This paper expounds the connotation of rebellious psychology, analyzes the reasons why teenagers have rebellious psychology, and probes into how to eliminate the adverse consequences brought by rebellious psychology. Keywords: teenagers; Rebellious psychology; Response 1. Summarize the rebellious psychology of adolescent children, and the notable feature is: "change". Physiologically, children begin to develop; Psychologically, it is also changing. Parents will find that they don't know when their children are disobedient, and they may even "oppose" their parents. If you want to face east, he will face west; If you want to go west, he will face east. This phenomenon is called "rebellious psychology" in psychology. Rebellious psychology refers to a psychological state in which people take opposite attitudes and words and deeds to each other's demands in order to maintain their self-esteem. Rebellious psychology is a kind of psychological state that often appears in the process of teenagers' growth, and it is a prominent psychological feature of teenagers of this age. Because teenagers are in a psychological "transition period", their sense of independence and self-awareness is increasing day by day, and they are eager to get rid of the guardianship of adults. They object to adults treating themselves as "children" and pretending to be adults. In order to show that they are "different", they tend to be critical of everything. It is precisely because they feel or worry that the outside world ignores their independent existence that they have a rebellious mentality, thus using various means and methods to establish the equal status of "self" and the outside world. Although rebellious psychology is not unhealthy psychology, it is abnormal psychology when it reacts strongly. Although it is different from abnormal psychology, it has some characteristics of abnormal psychology. If it is not corrected in time, it will be very unfavorable to the growth of teenagers. Rebellion is a psychological activity when the objective environment does not meet the needs of the subject, and it has strong resistance. Teenagers are in the stage of receiving family, school and social education. When they know things and look at problems, they often have cognitive biases and are prone to disagree with their parents' intentions. When the intentions are inconsistent, in order to maintain self-esteem, they will adopt the opposite attitude and words and deeds to the other party's requirements. Second, there are many reasons for teenagers' rebellious mentality, among which improper parental education methods are the main reason for students' rebellious mentality. (1) Traditional thoughts influence some parents. China's long-standing paternalism still exists among some parents. Parents lack democratic awareness of their children's education. They always think that children are immature and must obey themselves absolutely and cannot have their own opinions. Otherwise, they will be "disobedient" and "hostile". Therefore, children will not or rarely regard their parents as their confidants, fearing that they will be influenced by their parents after doing something wrong. After many middle school students think that they have done something wrong, what they dislike most is their parents' accusations, and the reason for their disgust is their parents' bullying and stubbornness. After adolescent rebellious psychology research education theory entered adolescence, with the expansion of contact scope and the increase of knowledge, they enriched their inner world and formed their own values, which were sometimes different from their parents' values, opposed by their parents and not understood by their parents. So they looked for songs among children of the same age, and their parents became less close. At this time, if parents don't understand the children's psychological and physiological changes, they will simply and stiffly force their children to have rebellious emotions and behaviors. Children in this period, although their self-awareness has developed, their self-control ability is still very poor, and they often violate discipline unconsciously. They like to argue with others, but they often have insufficient arguments; Likes to doubt, but lacks scientific basis; Like to find opinions, but not sure; Like to criticize others, but easy to be one-sided. (2) Parents' misunderstanding leads to improper educational methods. Some parents lack common psychological knowledge and are eager to achieve success in their children's education, often ignoring their children's self-esteem and psychological endurance. Especially when children are at fault, instead of analyzing mistakes and discussing remedies with them, they scold or even beat them, making them feel isolated and rebellious when they make mistakes. There is also the parents of Xiaojun mentioned earlier. They think that as long as they are subjectively good to their children, they can not pay attention to educational methods. Parents often have two psychological States when disciplining their children: one is to regard their children as private property and have absolute authority over them; Second, parents regard their children as the reappearance of their own ideals, hoping that their children can realize their own ideals, but they don't. Therefore, parents' ideal is to instill their own life experience into their children in an attempt to let them live according to their parents' ideas. Parents should be disciplined and children should be independent. So contradiction is inevitable, and resistance is inevitable. There are various forms of resistance, some don't talk to their parents, some don't obey their parents, some run away from home, and even embark on the road of crime. (3) Lack of two-way communication between parents and children leads to ideological contradictions. With the growth of high school students, their sense of independence is getting stronger and stronger, and they demand their own way of doing things and don't want to be controlled too much. Some parents do everything for their children's protection, so that children's desire for independence and parents' improper kindness and care will lead to ideological conflicts and contradictions. Maybe some parents seldom talk to their children because of their busy work, and just make some strict rules to restrain their children's behavior. Therefore, as children, high school students do not have a harmonious and warm family environment, lack communication with their parents, and are prone to rebellious psychology and behavior. After entering adolescence, they think they are not children but adults, and their desire for independent activities is getting stronger and stronger. On the one hand, they want to get rid of their parents and make their own decisions; On the other hand, we must rely on our families. Children in this period, due to lack of life experience, do not have a completely correct understanding of self-esteem, and strongly demand that others treat themselves as adults. If parents still treat them as children at this time, they care about them in every possible way and remind them repeatedly, he will get bored, feel that he has hurt his self-esteem, produce rebellious psychology and sprout antagonistic emotions. If parents discipline them in front of peers and the opposite sex, their "rebellious psychology" will be stronger. (4) The educational methods of school teachers are also one of the reasons for students' rebellious psychology. Some teachers don't understand the psychological characteristics of high school students, condescending, guiding students to think and do what they want, and don't communicate with students at all, which is easy to cause students' rebellious psychology. For example, teachers must pay attention to "a bowl of water is flat" when dealing with students' specific problems. No matter whether they are excellent students or poor students, they should try to treat them equally, regardless of thickness. If we are lenient to gifted students and harsh to poor students, it will make students psychologically unbalanced, which will be manifested in the negative opposition of being disheartened and broken, causing psychological conflicts, thus causing "zero effect" or even "negative effect" of educational effect. Therefore, in the process of education, teachers must adhere to the principle of fairness and justice, make fair and reasonable conclusions on the basis of in-depth practice, investigation and understanding, and grasp the real situation, and pay attention to the correct guidance of class group public opinion, so that the problems handled by teachers can be widely endorsed and supported by students. In addition, some improper rendering of mass media is also a factor leading to rebellious psychology. For example, some film and television works try their best to beautify the rebels' personal behavior, exaggerate the rebels' ability and advocate individualism. Many high school students appreciate the "rebellious heroes" described in TV and cartoons. Rebellious psychology is not conducive to the formation of children's outlook on life and physical and mental health. It will lead to morbid personality such as paranoia, apathy and unsociable, which will make teenagers listless, passive in learning, will decline, belief will be shaken and disillusioned. The further development of rebellious psychology may also be transformed into morbid psychology or criminal psychology. Third, the main methods to eliminate adolescent rebellious psychology (1) Fully understand that rebellious psychology is a normal psychological feature of adolescent high school students. Don't think that some students' rebellious behaviors are deliberately aimed at themselves, or even think that they are ideological and moral problems. In fact, as long as parents and teachers can share their views on things with students wholeheartedly and peacefully, and be sensible and rational, the rebellious psychology of high school students will soon disappear. (2) Equal and democratic education is the main means to eliminate rebellious psychology, which requires teachers and parents to fully respect their children when educating them, have equal and friendly conversations with them, and never act arbitrarily. The survey shows that 62.64% of senior high school students hope that parents and teachers can educate themselves in an equal and democratic way. When they make mistakes, they hope teachers and parents will give them understanding, help them understand the causes of the mistakes and guide them to learn from them. Educate us patiently and give us enough time to repent; I don't want to give them too much blame, they are still students after all. Parents should see their children's growth, respect their self-esteem, establish close and equal friendship with their children, and let them participate in family management; Believe that children have the ability to handle things independently, support them as much as possible, encourage and comfort them when they encounter difficulties and failures, and praise them immediately if they succeed; Have the courage to ask your child for advice and admit your mistakes. (3) communicate with students more, on the one hand, listen carefully. Adults and children have different views. Small problems in the eyes of adults may be big problems in the eyes of children. You might as well listen to their opinions carefully before expressing your own. On the other hand, we should understand students' feelings. Talk to students more about their concerns, look at problems from their perspective, and consciously talk about their own views to help students solve their doubts. Only in this way can we really resonate with the students' hearts, and the rebellious psychology will naturally disappear. Psychology believes that information exchange and inheritance between people need to be carried out on the basis of good psychological identity. Psychological identity is easy to hear, enter the brain and enter the heart, forming a "* * * vibration" effect. On the other hand, there will be blind areas of thinking, resulting in psychological barriers and affecting its effectiveness. Therefore, in order to prevent and eliminate students' rebellious psychology and form psychological identity, teachers must love students, stress democratic style, create a good educational environment and care about students everywhere, so as to win their love and support. Especially for those students who often make mistakes, we should get close to them emotionally, guide them from interest, help them from study and care for them from life, so that they can truly feel the teacher's amiable, respectable and credible, thus eliminating the gap and rebellious psychology between teachers and students, making students willing to accept the teacher's education and persuasion, and gradually correcting their misunderstandings and bad behaviors. (4) Guide students to fully realize that high school students' rebellious psychology is a psychological weakness at this stage, because they are prone to emotional impulses, immature in seeing problems, and lack of comprehensive and objective understanding of things, so don't always insist on treating problems completely correctly or emotionally, or even always disagree with others' views. Guide them to constantly enrich their knowledge, improve their insight into society and improve their ability to distinguish right from wrong. Take more good advice from others, learn to be tolerant, broad-minded and far-sighted, don't go into a dead end, and learn to analyze and solve problems calmly and objectively. (5) The Important Role of Family Education As can be seen from the causes of rebellious psychology, the defect of family education is a major aspect. Therefore, school education should also be combined with parents' family education, communicate with parents more, understand each other's performance in school and family, and give encouragement and praise in time. In fact, every student is eager to be affirmed by adults, and then point out the shortcomings appropriately and put forward the hope of guidance, so that children will be happy to receive education and grow up healthily in the direction expected by school parents. Parents need to be respected by their children. Most of them regard their children's happiness as their own life. Their advice is often a summary of their own life experience and has certain reference value. As children, they should often talk to their parents about their thoughts and activities. When their choice is different from their parents' wishes, they should negotiate to solve it and present facts to prove that their choice is correct. Refer to [1] Yuan Meiling. How to adjust students' rebellious psychology. Teaching Research, No.3, 2009. [2] Li Yanbo. A study of students' rebellious psychology. Inner Mongolia Education, No.7, 2009. [3] Niu Tao. Exploration and thinking of middle school students' rebellious psychology. Theoretical research edition, issue 12, 2008. [4] Lin Yonghai. Teenagers' rebellious psychology. Encyclopedia knowledge, No.8, 2007. [5] Li Shuhua. Influencing factors of teenagers' rebellious psychology and educational countermeasures. Vocational Technology, 2008