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As the basic unit of society, family is bound to be restricted by many established rules.

"Respect each other as guests, grow old together" clarifies that couples should also have etiquette to be happy for a lifetime. "Father and son are in harmony and the family is unbeaten, brothers are in harmony and the family is not harmonious, sisters-in-law are fighting for harmony, and husband and wife are in harmony and the family is prosperous", which shows that "harmony" is the key and this "harmony" is also a "ceremony".

Family members are the main body of family life and the concrete operators of family etiquette. It can be said that family etiquette is member etiquette to some extent, and member etiquette mainly refers to the etiquette norms between members, such as the etiquette between husband and wife, the etiquette between parents and children, the etiquette between brothers and sisters and so on.

First, the etiquette between husband and wife

Husband and wife relationship is the main body and core of family interpersonal relationship, and it is the basis of blood relatives and in-laws relationship. What etiquette should husband and wife pay attention to?

1, mutual love and understanding

The most precious thing is understanding, the most lovely thing is understanding, the most rare thing is understanding, and the most sad thing is misunderstanding. Husband and wife can't be unified everywhere, and quarrels are inevitable. When quarreling, people are emotional, easy to use foul language, say "excessive words" and do "excessive things", so there are four taboos for couples to quarrel: no foul language, no settling old scores, no moving back to parents' house and no personal attacks. Just like affirming each other's strengths or achievements, if you can remember each other's birthdays and send a small gift in time, it is an additive to the warming of the relationship between husband and wife.

2. Avoid male chauvinism and don't be self-centered.

In the traditional culture of our country, it is considered that "men are superior to women", which directly affects some husbands. They are used to playing down a peg or two, giving orders to their wives, ignoring their self-esteem, being rude and unreasonable, and even fighting. There are also some women who have grown up in pampering and developed the habit of being self-centered. When they are married, they always want to rule their husbands and ignore their in-laws. In this case, the relationship between husband and wife is difficult to be harmonious.

3. Discuss more when things happen and pay attention to the details of life.

Husband and wife should trust each other. Whether it is a family decision or a party's personal work confusion or plan, it should not be decided by one person. After marriage, many people pay special attention to their external image and look sloppy, thinking, "Who are you dressed for?" In fact, as always, paying attention to your appearance is not only a kind of love for each other, but also makes you more confident and wins the respect of others in various occasions.

4.* * * Share housework.

A husband should not put all the housework on his wife, and as a wife, he should not be a sissy and put everything he can do on his husband. You can divide the housework in different ways, so as to be orderly, busy and not chaotic. Even if your husband is busy, helping his wife do some small housework at an appropriate time shows that you care about her and have a sense of responsibility for the family, which will undoubtedly make your feelings more tacit.

And Deng summed up the "eight mutual" experiences in dealing with the relationship between husband and wife: mutual respect, mutual love, mutual learning, mutual help, mutual accommodation, mutual understanding, mutual comfort and mutual encouragement, which is worth learning for every couple.

Second, the etiquette between parents and children.

Parents are the first teachers of the children. Parents' cultural literacy and personality hobbies have a considerable impact on the development of children's self-control, thinking flexibility, thinking level and curiosity.

1, children's education etiquette

Parents must first do: when the children are present, parents should not quarrel; Don't cheat children at any time; Parents are humble and considerate to each other; Parents and children maintain a close relationship; Parents should try their best to answer the questions raised by their children; When children's friends visit their home, parents should show their welcome and respect. Don't say the child's fault in front of his friends; Pay attention to observe and praise the advantages of children.

Father's love for mother's love will lead to disaster once it becomes doting. Necessary criticism of children is also a means to create a good family environment and educate children to grow up healthily. But the criticism is that we must pay attention to methods and choose the right time; Don't criticize children blindly without knowing the truth of the incident. Silence is much better than saying the wrong thing. Don't criticize your children in front of outsiders.

Parents should try to shorten the generation gap and squeeze out time to accompany their children; Mutual understanding and understanding; It is necessary to improve the transparency of the family, make the problems public, and let the children know their parents; Encourage children to stand up again in setbacks; Cultivate children's self-care ability.

Teaching by example is more important, and parents' words and deeds play a subtle role in children.

2. Children's etiquette to their parents

First of all, we must respect filial piety. Everyone was brought up by their parents since childhood, and devoted a lot of efforts to their parents. When parents get old, children should be kind and repay their parents, not only with material support, but also with spiritual comfort. Therefore, even if you are not with your parents, regular greetings are very necessary. Moreover, in the eyes of parents, children are always children, so even if parents nag again, they must never disturb or even contradict.

Secondly, don't interfere in parents' affairs. Parents have their own social, human and interest expenses, as well as their own thoughts and feelings, and children should not step in. Especially when widowed parents remarry, children should consider their parents' own happiness, support understanding and not interfere rudely.

Also pay attention to some small things. For example, when you are with your parents, you should help them do more housework and chat with them as much as possible. When parents celebrate their birthdays, if possible, prepare a small gift for them and have dinner together. These seemingly insignificant things are the best comfort to parents' lost and lonely hearts.

3. Etiquette between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

As the wife of her in-laws son, a daughter-in-law should show understanding, respect and filial piety in front of her in-laws like a child, regardless of you and me. On the other hand, as in-laws, you must treat your daughter-in-law as a son, and you must never have the idea of "outsiders". You should give them the same respect, care and understanding as children.

If a son-in-law wants to have a good relationship with his parents-in-law, he should at least pay attention to two aspects: one is to give more and take less, and the other is to praise his wife in front of his mother-in-law. The son-in-law first shows his filial piety to his parents-in-law and his wife's love, and of course he can win the sincere care of his parents-in-law for his son-in-law.

Third, the etiquette between brothers and sisters

When dealing with the relationship between brothers and sisters, the most important thing is to strengthen unity, care for each other and respect each other.

1, to do a good job of unity, we should pay attention to generosity and humility.

The so-called generosity, one must tolerate others, and the other must be kind to others. Don't listen to what you don't like, what you see is bad for yourself, and don't listen to what others say. Since we are brothers and sisters, we should be lenient with them even if there is anything wrong. There is no need to compete with brothers and sisters, let alone be jealous and sow discord.

Dealing with brothers and sisters will inevitably involve material interests. When it comes to the economic and material problems between brothers and sisters, in order to promote the unity between brothers and sisters, we should be modest and worthy of our elders and younger generations.

2. Love each other.

Brothers and sisters are born from the same root. The love between them should be unconditional and unrequited, not only material benefits, but also spiritual and emotional communication.

For this kind of love, we must be grateful. Especially for the purpose of caring, we should be brave enough to accept criticism and accusations.

Step 3 respect each other

Some people think that since brothers and sisters don't need to be so unfamiliar, they can say whatever they want. The so-called "the speaker has no intention, but the listener has a heart" is often something that seems to hurt others' self-esteem. As a result, it branded a bad brand on family relations.

This requires that when we talk to our brothers and sisters, even if it is our duty and education, we should pay attention to a way and a proper euphemism to show the minimum respect for each other.

Fourth, between neighbors.

"Indoor modernization, outdoor dirty; It has nothing to do with yourself, and the red light hangs high; Upstairs and downstairs, I don't know whose surname; Holding a mobile phone and not talking when meeting has become a portrayal of many neighborhood relationships. But we have a saying that "a distant relative is better than a close neighbor". Neighborhood communication is the most frequent among all kinds of family communication. Subjectively speaking, most people want to do a good job in neighborhood relations. But objectively speaking, quite a few people don't know how to do a good job in neighborhood relations, and maybe not.

1, about your habits

Consciously care for public health, consciously participate in community public activities, and contribute to maintaining a good living environment.

Help each other and keep your promise. Neighborhood should do their best to help what they can. When others are in trouble, they should take the initiative to help them. Don't gloat and see jokes. At the same time, neighbors should keep their word, and don't brag about what they can't do, so as not to miss other people's events. Things borrowed from neighbors must be returned in time. If the return time is delayed due to negligence, you should apologize to others.

You should consider whether your hobbies and living habits will disturb others. For example, do you have the habit of singing karaoke at night, and it will exceed12pm once you sing; Do you always spill washing water or other unclean sewage on the sidewalk used by the neighborhood as soon as you go out? Do you have the habit of walking and talking loudly when you come home in the middle of the night, and so on. These seemingly insignificant things are the most likely to hurt the harmony between neighbors.

Learn to be polite and tolerant. Be polite to your neighbors, be approachable, and don't treat them as strangers. Take the initiative to greet others after meeting, don't be harsh on neighbors at ordinary times, and communicate more when getting along; If you can't talk it over, keep a friendly attitude at a distance. Criticizing others is a bad habit. Take a "reasonable restraint" attitude towards the unreasonable demands and practices of neighbors and solve them reasonably and properly.

2. About occupying corridors and other public places.

In case of special circumstances, it is necessary to occupy corridor space and temporarily put some items. You must communicate with your neighbors on the relevant floor first. It is necessary to explain the reasons and the time taken to gain their understanding. You can also post a "notice for people's safety" next to the item to explain the situation; Secondly, we should pay attention to what can be put and what can't be put, for example, don't put fragile, flammable, corrosive, perishable and smelly items, and don't put them if they affect the upstairs and downstairs. Finally, don't occupy the public space of the corridor for a long time, which is not in line with the neighborhood etiquette norms and is not conducive to fire prevention and theft.

3. About keeping pets

Keeping pets should pay attention to two details: First, pay attention to hygiene. Some pets, especially cats and dogs, often defecate everywhere. Owners bring their own plastic bags or old newspapers. And wrap the pet's excrement in the trash can to keep the public place clean and beautiful. Second, pay attention to safety. When you go out to walk the dog, you should tie a rope to it, and don't let it bark, chase or bite. When you meet old people and children, you should be especially careful not to scare them.

4. About children

Children are lively and active, and may like to jump or play with toys. They didn't realize how much influence the sound of passionate "performance" would have on the neighbors downstairs.

As parents, we must consciously "plan ahead" in advance to avoid unnecessary interference to our neighbors: choose indoor slippers with light and soft soles; Spread foam or towel blanket on the floor to prevent children from making too much noise when jumping or playing with toys; If children want to racket ball and play table tennis, take them outside to play; Usually educate children to develop a good habit of putting things lightly at home and walking lightly.

5. About neighborhood visits

If you are invited to visit, you should choose the right time. If you make an appointment for a specific time, of course. Don't say the specific time, and avoid people's meal time and rest time. If it is Saturday and Sunday, it should not be disturbed before 10 am.

Ring the doorbell when you enter the door, and knock gently when you don't, even if the door has been opened for you. The purpose of this is to tell the other party that you are here, so that the other party is psychologically prepared. Don't rush in and surprise others.

If you are bringing your child as a guest, you must educate your child not to be naughty or tamper with other people's things at home.

If the other person is an elder or a first-time guest, you can't sit first without a host. If there are elders at home, take the initiative to say hello to them.

When the host offers tea and candy, he must express his gratitude. If the elders are talking, you should not only listen attentively, but also not interrupt.

If the host looks at his watch, yawns or something, or it's almost time for dinner, he will get up and leave as a guest.

If you are inviting people to dinner, you should prepare in advance, and don't rush to prepare at dinner time, which will make people feel disturbed.