1. What is positive discipline?
Exactly speaking, active discipline is a professional parental training system, which aims to cultivate children's excellent social character and life skills such as respect, responsibility and cooperation. This training system is based on jane nelsen and Lin Lott's global best-selling series of books "Positive Discipline", and helps children develop the above-mentioned important social character and life skills by creating an environment full of respect and encouragement for child caregivers (including parents, teachers, nannies, teenagers and other related personnel) and children.
The latest scientific research shows that from the moment when babies are "forced" to establish contact with others, children's feelings about establishing contact with communities, families and schools far exceed their "wrong behavior". In order to successfully establish contact with others and become a member who contributes to others and society, children must learn the necessary social character and life skills. Parents can teach these excellent qualities and skills to their children, and children can also learn through their parents' demonstration. The birth and development of the professional training system of empirical subjects is based on the contribution of these scientific research achievements.
Active discipline is a method of disciplining children (PD method) that neither punishes nor dotes on them. Only in a cordial and firm atmosphere can children cultivate self-discipline, responsibility, cooperation spirit and their ability to solve problems. Positive discipline thinks that the five criteria of effective discipline are:
Does it help children feel connected (find a sense of belonging and value)
Have you gained mutual respect and encouragement (kindness and firmness)
Whether it is effective for a long time (from birth, children are making decisions that can form their character and life goals, and how to deal with the insecurity and pressure they feel: who they are, what is the world like, and whether they want to survive or develop)
Whether to teach children good social character and life skills (respect, contact with others, problem-solving ability, cooperation and skills to contribute to family, school and society)
Whether to help children discover their own abilities (encourage children to control and use their own personal abilities and autonomy constructively)
Second, about positive discipline tools.
The fundamental goal of the parent training system and classroom management mode of active discipline specialty is to develop a relationship of mutual respect. Active discipline teaches adults (parents, teachers and other relevant caregivers) to use a kind and firm method, which is neither punishment nor connivance. The concepts and tools of positive discipline include:
Mutual respect. Adults show "firmness" by respecting themselves and the needs of the situation, and "kindness" by respecting the needs of children. And help children learn to respect and accept differences and the ability to look at problems from the perspective of others.
Discover the beliefs behind children's behavior. An effective discipline model will guide children to change their beliefs by understanding the reasons behind their behaviors, which is far more effective than directly trying to correct their behaviors.
Effective communication skills and problem solving skills. Let children learn to seek common ground while reserving differences, find the same goal, learn to cooperate with others, and let others be willing to cooperate with him.
Teach children good social character and life skills (neither punishment nor connivance).
Focus on solving problems, not punishment (retrospective responsibility).
Encourage (not praise). Encouragement focuses on hard work and improvement, not on successful results. Encourage and help children to establish long-term self-esteem and self-driven empowerment, as well as an internal self-worth evaluation system.
Third, the characteristics of the professional training mode of positive discipline
Experiential teaching. Create opportunities through experiential activities to help adults and children practice new skills and learn happily.
Classroom management mode is highly consistent with parents' professional training system. Parents, teachers and other caregivers can provide a safe and consistent environment for children to grow up.
Affordable training prices and continuous support ensure that community members can easily teach each other positive discipline methods and skills.
The certified lecturers of active disciplines around the world can cooperate with your community and school to spread and promote the concepts and methods of active disciplines.
Fourthly, the development history of empirical discipline.
The parents' training system and class management mode of active discipline specialty originated from the individual psychology theory of alfred adler and Rudolf Drex. As early as the 1920s, Dr. Adler introduced the concept of parental education to the United States. He advocates that children should be respected, and emphasizes that doting and conniving children does not encourage them, but will lead to social and behavioral problems of children.
At the same time, classroom management technology was first put forward in Vienna, and was introduced to the United States from drexel in the late 1930s. Drex and Adler believe that "democracy" means school teaching and family education in a kind and firm way.
In 1980s, after Lin Lott and jane nelsen attended the seminar hosted by john tyler, Lin Lott began to train interns in experiential teaching, and compiled the first edition of Instructor's Guide for Teaching Parents Positive Parenting Methods. At the same time, Jane Nelson is the project director of Accept (Adler Consulting's concept of involving parents and teachers). ACCEPT is a project funded by the federal government and is entering a very good development stage. With the support of this project, Jane Nelson wrote and published the first edition of Positive Discipline at 198 1.
1987, ballantine discovered this book and became its publisher. Nowadays, positive discipline has become the "golden rule" for parents to discipline their children all over the world. This book has been translated into 16 languages and sold more than 4 million copies in the United States and 4 million copies outside the United States.
From 65438 to 0988, jane nelsen and Lin Lott began to publish Positive Discipline for Teenagers, and began to teach parents positive discipline methods and classroom management skills through experiential activities. Later, they jointly published "Positive Discipline in Classroom" and developed a guide for teachers and children to experience positive discipline.
Since then, active discipline has developed rapidly, and a series of books and trainings on active discipline have begun to cover different ages, different family environments and many special situations (such as active discipline for single-parent families and children with special needs).
Positive subject provides more and more parents and schools with positive subject popularization and education through the "certified lecturer" system. Active discipline encourages more community members, parents and teachers to participate in the training and become CPDPE (Certified Active Discipline Parents Educator) to share the ideas and methods of active discipline for familiar groups.
Today, active parenting classes have been carried out in 68 countries around the world, and active parenting has been successfully used as a classroom management model by many private, church and public schools. The positive discipline demonstration school project has also developed steadily all over the world.
Verb (abbreviation for verb) What is the goal of positive discipline?
Positive discipline tools are not used to change behavior, but to support children's growth by creating a continuous encouraging environment. This encouraging environment has brought an additional gain, that is, children's behavior has changed.
Encouragement will bring changes to children. Only when they often feel care, support and help can they change their beliefs about how to get a sense of belonging. Encourage children to acquire two important life skills, one is the power to dominate their own lives, and the other is to enjoy the fun of contributing to others.
Positive discipline tools help children develop the belief that "I am capable and I can contribute", which is the essence and significance of belonging. This is why all positive discipline tools emphasize the importance of encouragement, which also explains that behavior changes follow, not exist in advance or earlier.
De Lecus said, "Children need encouragement, just as plants need water." By encouraging and teaching children, we can help them to become the values, qualities and life skills necessary for a better self; However, we need to avoid a misunderstanding that encouragement can turn roses into tulips. The goal of active discipline is not to help parents turn their children into other people, but to help children become better themselves. Therefore, adults (parents, teachers and other caregivers of children) must know that positive discipline tools will not change children's beliefs immediately, even if they are really effective sometimes.