be fond of the new and tired of the old

This is everyone's nature.

1, reveal the secret

One day, US President John Calvin Coolidge and his wife visited a farm together. When everyone strolled around, Mrs Coolidge asked the farmer, "There are so few cocks on the farm, why can they lay so many hatched eggs?" "

"Because the rooster here serves dozens of times every day," the farmer proudly explained. "Oh ~" The lady raised her eyebrows and pretended to emphasize, "Please tell this to the President."

Hearing this, the president jokingly asked, "Does the rooster always serve the same hen?" "Oh, no, of course not," replied the farmer. "They serve different hens." "Hmm ~" The president raised his eyebrows. "Please tell this to the President's wife."

Experiments show that, just like the farm visited by Coolidge and his wife, almost every mammal, male or female, will show higher and sustained sexual ability when identifying new spouses, which is the so-called Coolidge effect.

2. Application

Stranger partners can promote dopamine secretion more than familiar partners. No matter how much they love each other, "getting familiar" will gradually inhibit dopamine reward. Therefore, it is essential to maintain mystery or develop new fun in daily life.

So keeping intimate and ambiguous with different strange partners is the solution? The answer is no.

When dealing with intimate relationships with partners, polygamous individuals are usually more perfunctory and impatient than monogamous individuals, which not only leads to the extinction of social responsibility and sense of responsibility, but also makes them feel empty and lonely.

Therefore, the pursuit of nature is not necessarily the pursuit of happiness. Everything is moderate, which is memorable. When we are inseparable, we should keep a trace of mystery, and when we are wanton, we should keep a trace of moderation and rationality, so that the happiness we get will last longer and be more based on human dignity.