The state of moral cultivation in behavior is the result of social influence, family education and personal cultivation, especially the behavioral ethics developed in the family since childhood.
The dictionary says: politeness refers to the expression of modesty and respect in speech acts; Education refers to the cultivation of general culture and morality.
Politeness and upbringing are not the same thing. Politeness is only one of the manifestations of upbringing. People who know manners may not be educated, but educated people usually know how to observe manners in their environment. For example, an educated farmer will observe the etiquette and manners in the countryside well.
On the relationship between politeness and upbringing;
Politeness is external and superficial, and can be put on by training and deliberately. Education is from the heart, and it is an inherent quality that combines environment, education and experience. In other words, a person is polite and likable, but he may be selfish and hypocritical inside. But a person's education is not only manifested in external behavior, but also shows that his connotation and moral quality are good.
At first, when it comes to education, we now know that it is only polite not to show sincerity in everything, but polite behavior may change its attitude after a period of persistence and become heartfelt, and politeness will be transformed into education. From this point of view, politeness seems to be the basis of education, and it is the training process to obtain the quantitative change of education.
A good education is a natural and heartfelt behavior. Being kind to others is a kind of nature, not compulsory learning. I am with farmers in Italy, Jamaica and the western United States. Although they are engaged in manual labor, they are naturally humble and polite.
Education and politeness are different and interrelated. The difference is that education reflects people's essential quality and moral level, and reflects a positive attitude and behavior towards themselves and others, while politeness is only an external behavior of humility and respect when people communicate with each other. Their connection is that educated people always use politeness when they get along with others. Therefore, we can neither say that people who are polite in social occasions and always speak ill of others in private are educated, nor that they are educated.
In other words, we need not only the beauty and perfection of internal moral quality, but also the courtesy and propriety of external behavior. The unity of the two helps us to establish good interpersonal relationships with others. Otherwise, others will either "avoid us" (if we are hypocrites) or "stay away from us" (if we are enthusiastic people who swear).
The core of education
"Cultivation" plays an important role in good interpersonal relationships, such as caring for others, respecting others, being measured, considerate, gentle, paying attention to details, caring for others, being broad-minded, completely convinced, honest and aboveboard.
The essence of education is caring for people. Because I care, I can pay attention to and accurately grasp the scale of communication, leaving necessary private space for others. We will overcome all kinds of inconveniences and make our behavior conform to the requirements of social morality; Pay attention to the use of polite expressions everywhere and strive to create a gentle and peaceful atmosphere.
There is a basic principle in interpersonal communication: treat others as yourself. You care about others, be considerate, thoughtful, sincere, decent, respectful and decent, and others will usually treat you in turn. Over time, you will be attractive to others, and your social communication and social identity needs will be fully met, so that you will create a good interpersonal environment conducive to sustainable development for yourself.
In this way, you have one of the most important external resources that a person can rely on: healthy interpersonal relationships.
Therefore, the concern in education is a great concern for people and themselves, which is helpful for interpersonal communication to enter a virtuous circle.
If education is a gorgeous dress, then people will become extremely beautiful with it; If education is a gorgeous flower, then if the world has it, it will become colorful …
However, how many people have really dealt with upbringing? With the progress of the times, education has become "lonely" with being ignored. It is conceivable that there are very few educated people in modern society.
As students, our pursuit of achievement is ignorant. Let's put ourselves in such a position to think: if a person has impressive achievements, but has no manners at all, the export is foul language and he completely forgets the word "education". So, is this person a veritable success without any flaws?
However, how can we become educated people?
As the saying goes, a gentleman talks but doesn't do it. If you fight with others all day, you are still far from success. For classmates, we should "unite and be friendly, and don't beat and scold". But what difference does it make if you don't do it? Therefore, to be an educated person, you should also "speak politely and don't swear", so as to show your "gentleman" character.
Educated people will not leave a "memorial" on the wall; Educated people don't spit or throw rubbish everywhere; Educated people will not destroy public property with fists and fists; Educated people save water and electricity; An educated person will take the initiative to help students with difficulties. ...
"There are others in my heart" is also a necessary accomplishment for educated people. Be considerate of others and selfless. If everyone is educated, then there will be fewer and fewer people who fight for power and profit all day long and do whatever it takes for profit, and the world will be more peaceful.
Students, let's give "education" wings, let it accompany you forever, let it play its instinct in the world!