Starting from Sun Roujia's personality characteristics before and after marriage, this paper describes the tragedy of besieged love. Gentle and gentle Jou-chia finally married Fang Hung-chien as she wished, but it was a pity that the rain and dew of love were insufficient. This marriage is just a ceremony of life. Jou-chia became an autocrat after marriage, and Hung-chien struggled in the cage of marriage, but it was two people who suffered. Keywords: personality; Gentle; Control; Strong outside and dry inside; Tragedy; Besieged city 1. On Sun Roujia's personality characteristics (1) from Jou-chia: tenderness, beauty and kindness. Mr. Qian Zhongshu took this name. Literally, it is soft with rigidity, giving people a touching feeling that Lin Daiyu is "as quiet as a delicate flower shining on the water and as moving as a weak willow": Jia, in Shuowen, means "Jia is beautiful". Such a gentle, beautiful and kind woman is probably an angel in every man's mind. She longs for it and is willing to go through fire and water. However, Sun Roujia's image in Fortress Besieged is different from his name. Sun Roujia is not beautiful, plain-looking, with an old ivory face and eyes too wide apart, which always makes her look surprised, like a little girl who meets people for the first time. It is inconspicuous in the crowd, and even if it is close at hand, people will not pay close attention. In the book, Sun Roujia, whose love failed, was met by Fang Hung-chien on his way to a different place. After meeting for the first time, Zhao and Fang Hung-chien were chatting and laughing in the room. Zhao said, "You want me to introduce you, don't you? That's easy! " Fang Hung-chien said, "To tell you the truth, I didn't really look at her. She didn't even see her face clearly. " On the one hand, it is because Fang and he experienced the most pure and beautiful love (although the book begins with the ambiguous and impulsive feelings of Fang and Miss Bao on a cruise ship, it is impossible to know whether Fang had an unforgettable emotional experience during his study abroad, but from the courtship letter written by Fang Hung-chien, the fragrance and temptation of the first love of the paper overflowed everywhere. After that, he was still in the stage of staying at a respectful distance from love, and was not in a hurry to start a new love, so he paid little attention to the women around him; On the other hand, he looks mediocre, without purity and beauty, without Su's lofty and knowledgeable. She is just a tiny one among ten thousand people in Qian Qian, just like the girl next door who opens the door, and can be seen everywhere. It is not worthy of a man's eyes to attach to or even stand a glimpse, and it is doomed to be submerged in the vast sea of people. As the saying goes, looks are born. I can't go back to my mother's stomach to rebuild it. No advanced cosmetic technology and ingenious makeup technology can make ugly women beautiful. For plain-looking girls, they can only accept it helplessly. Many readers have the impression that Jou-chia is too clever. Jou-chia is naturally not content with the status quo, and has her own opinions under the silent and tame appearance. Women can't be beautiful, so gentleness can always attract more men's attention for themselves. In the fifth chapter, Jou-chia and Fang Hung-chien met and chatted for the second time. The style of those little girls is Jou-chia's measure. Maybe she secretly knows that she, as the only woman in the team, has been treated so coldly and indifferently compared with the warm welcome and concern, and she will start to act. She began to eavesdrop on the conversation between Fang and Zhao on the first board, and kept the name Su in mind. After being bumped into by two people returning to the cabin, her clever greeting and concealed excuses made people tremble, so calm and natural, and hid the embarrassment and a little shame of being found so well. It seems that she is not as deep as usual. Fang Hung-chien talked about flying fish, but Miss Sun had never heard of it. Hsin-mei asked her if she had ever seen a big whale, which was naive. The light shone on Miss Sun's eyes as round as Giotto's "○", which deepened Hsin-mei's suspicion. Miss Sun said, "Uncle Zhao, Mr. Fang is lying to me, isn't he?" Hsin-mei made a contemptuous sound in his nose. For Fang, who is simple-minded and unsophisticated, Sun's measurement is successful. However, it is not so easy for Zhao to get attention and affection by pretending to be cute and naive. Back in the cabin, Zhao said, This girl is very slippery. I was taken in by bringing her here-Miss Sun's mouth is like a whale. You idiot are like a boat sent to the door. ..... A college graduate would be so naive? "From the very beginning, Zhao found that Jou-chia's seemingly weak appearance hides invisible calculations. But Fang didn't care much about Zhao's words, which doomed the siege. Gradually, Fang noticed that Jou-chia in the team was a vulnerable group and intended to help her. For example, on the way from Ningbo to Xikou, Jou-chia's little green silk umbrella got wet, and Hung-chien took good care of it for her. The branch waiter brought it to squeeze the water and put it in front of the tea stove to dry. Jou-chia was walking on the rattan bridge when the listener said, "Only we are timid." Then, uncharacteristically, she took out a man's courage and boldness and walked ahead of Fang. Her thoughtfulness and courage have increased Fang's affection for her and made her feel warm in the layers of sweat pores. It can be seen that Jou-chia is a smart woman who knows how to let men know her different side at the right time. On the way to college and school, although Jou-chia often came to the teachers' dormitory to chat with Fang, Fang Hung-chien did not fall in love with her. So how did they get engaged, the road to the besieged city? Such a person is not as good as Miss Bao in appearance, but not as good at learning as Su. What is worse than being innocent and lovely is how to manage her own light love step by step? The last thing you can say in love is ambiguity and gossip. The breakdown of a relationship is often attributed to this. Similarly, the inexplicable combination of a relationship often comes down to this. When Fang Hung-chien was young, he often made fun of Miss Fan, whom he overheard sharing a room with. "Lu Zikai's pursuit of her or this winter vacation. It is good to communicate every day. " When, it hurts. He never fell in love with her. Where did that heartache come from? Perhaps men are good-looking animals and have always been regarded as the protagonists in Jou-chia's love stories. Suddenly, when he was replaced by a person with worse conditions than himself, a sense of shame arose. Even if you have never loved or owned it, it is rumored that Sun Roujia subconsciously must be yourself, and you can choose others at any time without your own permission? In Hung-chien's mind, the correspondence between Miss Sun and Lu Zixiao was like a mouse biting something on the back wall, which was disturbed all night and could not be driven out. He ventured to write to Miss Sun and advised her to be cautious in making friends. In Hung-chien's view, although Miss Sun has her loveliness, she is not really beautiful, but unstable and barely charming. However, when he tried his best to think about Jou-chia's shortcomings, he found her temper pleasing. Fang Hung-chien couldn't stand the temptation. Sun Roujia's gentleness, loveliness and charm from time to time made Fang Hung-chien lose his mind. Miss Sun came to talk to him, and he was extremely happy. Speaking of the bad words Miss Fan said, Jou-chia insisted, "I must know. Mr. Fang, tell me. " When all smiles were accepted and sweetly stubborn, all the tender protective feelings of Hung-chien were aroused by her. If you don't love Miss Sun, why bother? Do you love her?-a little. Fang Hung-chien could not help asking himself again and again. On the day of the engagement, Hung-chien was still in a fog, unable to see his heart clearly. Why did it come to this step that was completely unexpected at the beginning? If on the first day they met, someone told Hung-chien that you were getting engaged to Sun Roujia. He wouldn't believe it if he was killed, but it did come to this today. Where is Jou-chia? I have achieved my goal. Are love and happiness really far from false gentleness and means? Fang Hung-chien doesn't love himself, so do you love Fang Hung-chien? Maybe it's not love, maybe it's his status after studying abroad and his high diploma, maybe this love can't find a more suitable sustenance ... Maybe the ending of the story is that the two are engaged, which is an ordinary, complicated and sophisticated engagement party. Love that was once hard to touch has now become a pillow person, and beauty and hope will be defeated by reality at the same time. In Jou-chia's fantasy of sweet love, a dense net falls from the sky ... (2) Controlling Jou-chia's marriage means control in Zhouyi, and Qian Zhongshu lost the name, which refers to Sun Roujia's unreasonable arrogance and strong control psychology after marriage. Contradictions began to appear from the beginning of knowing Fang Hung-chien's family. Some people say that marriage is not a combination of one person and another, but a combination of one family and another. The marriage of two new men and women is followed by two families who have not yet stepped out of feudal ethics. The two in-laws met, invited guests to each other, visited each other, and exchanged their contempt. No one is satisfied with who, just hate saying simple and slow, saying hate just trite, both sides think behind each other's backs that the other is not rich. Jou-chia gradually realized that perhaps marrying Fang Hung-chien was not as good as she thought. Fang Hung-chien's weakness soon made Sun Roujia complain. Jou-chia went out for the first time and said, "Take good care of a dress. Even if it is destroyed, I don't know whether it can be washed or not. I have never seen such an unruly child. " Give Fang Hung-chien no face at all. A well-meaning party is accompanied by careful persuasion. Jou-chia said, "What a nuisance! I am not happy to be your wife! " At that time, everyone knew who was actively pursuing each other. Maybe Jou-chia was a little angry when she thought about how much she wanted to be Fang's wife at that time, but shouldn't she have more love and tolerance after such a big sacrifice? In the Sun family, parents have done their duty to raise their daughter and graduate from college, and have no mind to take care of her affairs. Jou-chia has a close relationship with her American student menstruation. The couple both hold important positions in a large cotton mill. Mr. Wang is the chief engineer and his wife is the director of the personnel department, so Jou-chia also found a job in the personnel department. Mrs. Gu thinks my niece is the wrong person. She frankly despises Hung-chien's ability and qualifications. My aunt's preference for Sun Roujia has evolved from a superior love to authoritarian interference; At the same time, Fang Hung-chien was forced to warn him not to bully Sun Roujia, so that his love for Jou-chia was full of affectation. Mammy Mary's diehard loyalty to Jou-chia and dissatisfaction with Hung-chien split a family into two halves, which led to greater misunderstanding. Jou-chia, who is in an advantageous position at home, is proud! For Hung-chien, whose salary is less than half of his own, Jou-chia wants to gain the dominance of this marriage by softening and controlling. After quarreling several times, I'm getting tired. Sometimes Jou-chia would say, "Hung-chien, I'm going out. Will you allow me? " Hung-chien had no choice but to forbid it-"I have the freedom to come and go, and I will give you face and invite you, but I will make you jealous and eat candy." Hung-chien disarmed again and walked out of the door, so numb that he didn't feel cold, only his left cheek was burning in consciousness. In my mind, my thoughts are full of confusion, just like the snow-covered sky blown by the north wind. He walked on tiptoe, and the street lamp that stayed up all night handed his shadow to each other one by one. He seems to have another self saying, "It's over!" It's over! "When love loses its freshness, it is only insignificant; When love is not romantic, but ordinary, will you accompany me for a lifetime, sweets? Second, the siege tragedy, whose fault? (1) Sun Roujia: It is actually one of the skills to tame men to lose oneself and make people feel sorry for Sun Roujia's weak, naive and docile appearance. Feudal ethics requires women to "smile without showing their teeth", advocates that "women are virtuous without talent" and advocates that women "keep their husbands as their profession". Sun Roujia understands men's obsession with women and makes himself miserable. She flinched to cover up her bossy, jealous, selfish and mean face. Her process of becoming a male accessory is so well-intentioned. It can be seen that although Sun Roujia is a modern woman with higher education, she is still bound by traditional culture and has many weaknesses of old-fashioned women. She thought that by marrying Fang Hung-chien, she could rely on mountains to eat, stay with her husband all her life and be a wife with peace of mind. But I didn't know that Hung-chien used to be an invisible man. She said, "It's no use if you don't hate him." "I have no skill, but I have a big temper. "Husband is a woman's career, which means that Sun Roujia has been pursuing Fang Hung-chien in a gentle disguise before marriage, but after marriage he hopes to firmly grasp the party as a dictator and plan for his future stable life security. But she doesn't understand that love is not obtained through calculation and control. Jou-chia always goes the wrong way before marriage. Hung-chien did not fall in love with her. Even if he loves her, he only loves her in disguise. Jou-chia got farther and farther after marriage, and finally walked into the dark abyss. Which is the real Jou-chia? After watching Fortress Besieged, I still don't know where the real Jou-chia is. This is Jou-chia's tragedy, and this marriage inevitably becomes a tragedy. Sun Roujia never lived for herself in love. She only lives for Fang Hung-chien and tries to shape herself into what he likes. Although she received western education, the thought of freedom and human rights can't change her feudal ethics that men are superior to women. She kept circling around Hung-chien and gradually lost her true self. However, on the road of love, no one is right or wrong. Miss Bao regards love as a pleasure. Sue's love for is contradictory and vain. Tang Xiaofu's love can't stand the wind and rain, too immature and too delicate. Sun Roujia's love is half material and half emotional; Half is to rely on and half is to control. What should Ming Dow do under this feeling that I can't tell her clearly? In real life, how many girls, like Sun Roujia, feel inferior because they are ordinary, unhappy because they lack knowledge, and complain because their families are ordinary? At least not in Sun Roujia. An ordinary girl ran around with men in that war-torn era, and she couldn't move without courage? Instead of hiding at home and crying in a cold corner, she bravely walked on the road of self-reliance and self-improvement. For love, although inappropriate means have been used, it is understandable to actively pursue happiness after all. Lu Xun is a China native who is "sad for his misfortune and angry for his indisputable". As for her, I think readers should also look at her and her love with Fang in this way. References: Qian Zhongshu, Fortress Besieged