0 1, face and feel your emotions.

Most emotional problems are problems because people resist their own emotions. When our inner feelings intersect with the external real world, and the two are mixed together, which leads to the imbalance between the external and the internal, we often have emotions. At this time, emotions are more of a reminder, reminding us to solve the causes of imbalance, rather than letting us entangle in emotions themselves.

If the impedance is excessively removed, the real problems will not be faced, and the internal needs will not be listened to and solved. When the problem is not solved, emotions will constantly remind you, which means that emotions will become stronger and stronger, and your anxiety, anxiety and anger will become more and more difficult to suppress.

02. Analyze your emotions

People have two sets of thinking systems, one is automatic thinking and the other is rational thinking. These two sets of thinking systems alternately affect all aspects of our lives, and emotions belong to the former. Emotional system has its own set of information processing mechanism, which is automatically connected with our cognitive ability.

Our emotions will only respond according to the standards of our own cognitive system, and each of us has many unreasonable beliefs in the cognitive system. Therefore, we must first find out why there are such emotions. What makes us think and feel.

When our emotions come, we should understand that there is nothing wrong with them. They need to be expressed and released, and everyone has emotions. Don't suppress your emotions, learn to understand and accept them. Once we often suppress our emotions, all the emotions you refuse, escape and suppress will eventually erupt in a more violent and destructive way when you reach the threshold of emotional suppression.

No matter how "bad" we are, emotions themselves are not a problem. What really bothers us and makes us feel bad is the feelings that emotions bring us and our understanding of negative emotions. Only based on the above understanding and cognition of emotions can we learn to manage our emotions and live in peace with others.