First, there have been talents in the country, the country and the people since ancient times, which are closely related to family education.
The first environment that everyone comes into contact with after birth is family, which is an important place to shape character, morality, will and emotion. Therefore, regardless of parents' moral quality, educational level, sentiment cultivation, work and life experience, educational methods, family economic situation, the perfection and imperfection of family structure, and the health status of members and neighbors and friends will have a far-reaching impact on their children's physical and mental health and whether they can become talents to varying degrees.
Tolstoy, a famous Russian writer, said: "The essence of educating children lies in educating themselves, and self-education is the most important way to influence children." The personality cultivation and image of parents are the core of family education. Parents' psychological quality, words and deeds have a profound and subtle influence on their children's psychology. Many facts have proved that successful family education does not necessarily depend only on the cultural level and material conditions of their families. It depends on whether parents and family members are educating themselves while educating their children, and on their image in the children's minds.
Second, today's era is an era of high-frequency competition.
In a commodity society with a large amount of information and a rapidly changing knowledge level, the consciousness of social members is also undergoing earth-shaking changes. Family is the cell of society. Under the inevitable guidance of the tide of "big waves scouring sand", the family has made a qualitative leap, and all consciousness that is not conducive to social development or can't keep up with social changes will be forcibly abandoned and eliminated.
Today's children are in the fierce competition in the new century. They need brand-new ideas, a strong sense of competition, a high degree of independence, a sense of steel, profound knowledge and a spirit of selfless dedication. Only in this way can they keep pace with the times, but the current actual situation is very worrying, especially in rural areas where family education is too trite. A considerable number of parents are far behind their children in terms of ideology, quality and cultural quality, which not only fails to play a positive role, but also greatly enhances their children's negative reactions due to outdated concepts. As can be seen from the above questions:
First, it increases the pressure of school education management. For example, some parents are prejudiced against their children and prefer boys to girls. Some parents think reading is useless or poor, but they don't study ... No wonder some students play truant or some students drop out of school or go home without studying, which undoubtedly adds trouble to the national nine-year plan.
Secondly, it increases the burden on society. Some parents are born infertile, live without teaching, and live without raising. Under the guidance of laissez-faire education, parents are just busy with their own affairs, ignoring the education of their children and letting their children's bad words and deeds go unchecked, which leads to children's neglect of restraint and misconduct in society and affects social stability.
Third, bring crisis to the family. Many parents have remnants of the feudal educational thought that "everything is inferior, only reading is high". As long as children are worried about studying, they will become officials. Even if they succeed, they will pay more attention to intellectual education and ignore moral education. Some children will be reprimanded by their parents for failing or hopeless exams, but commit suicide or embark on the road of crime, which brings unbearable bitter fruit to their families.
Fourth, it ruined the children's future, because some parents pursued indulgent education, arbitrary education, unbalanced education of "each blowing his own horn", disrespectful education of teaching children an improper attitude, pollution education of "cultivating seedlings without cultivating the soil" and talent-destroying education of "encouraging signs", which made children taste the bitter wine brewed by their parents and themselves. Publish a paper. There are countless tragedies at home. This is because family education needs constant analysis and research. As parents, it is especially necessary to make some comparative checks on educational concepts, educational contents and educational methods. In order to make you a qualified parent, you can cultivate more talents who are beneficial to society and adapt to social development.
Third, children can be educated from the following aspects.
(A) with a high sense of social responsibility
Educating children well is no longer a private matter of a family, and children are no longer the private property of parents. They are the future of the motherland, a major event related to the future and destiny of the nation and the country, and a major event related to whether children can stand in the contest of future generations in the global village. The serious lessons from ancient times to the present prove that children with poor health will be inferior products; Children's lack of knowledge will become waste products, and their moral quality will become dangerous goods. If parents do not start with scientific management, improper education will inevitably lead to children dropping out of school, unemployment and stumbling, which will not only directly harm the national interests, but also increase the burden of school and social education, and even bring great harm to children's young minds. To this end, parents should not only consider the interests of individuals and families, but also the interests of the country and the nation, have a high sense of social responsibility and live up to their mission.
(2) Encourage children to be ambitious and ambitious.
The art of family education says, "Our words are full of enterprising will, and they will inspire others." . "If we act like heroes, they will become warriors." Through the education of parents, we should tell them their own exemplary behavior and the typical deeds of Tessa, a hero at all times and all over the world, and influence their behavior, so as to generate ideological motivation and better shape themselves. Publish a paper.
(3) Do what you can, step by step.
As the saying goes: "Parents always want their children to be more promising and talented than themselves. Especially in today's reform and opening up, the competition for talents is fierce, and it is often more urgent for parents to let their children become talents as soon as possible. Because expectations are high, haste makes waste. Parents should teach students in accordance with their aptitude. "Teenagers' physical and mental development, like other things, has rules to be found. Violating the rules will not only hurt children's hearts, but also dampen their enthusiasm. It is more practical to teach students in accordance with their aptitude, according to the time and place, and gradually raise the requirements according to development. Some unattainable practices can only be regarded as a joke.
(d) Improving children's living and learning abilities.
The art of home education says, "Don't just stand or point. You expect your children to conquer heights and climb, and they will catch up. " . Publish a paper. ""lead by example. "That is to say, children should be influenced by their exemplary behavior, and some rules should be formulated to make their lives regular: take their children to run or outdoor activities early, arrange breakfast to ensure that their children have enough energy to attend classes all morning, urge their children to make appropriate rest adjustments at noon, ensure better study in the afternoon, and let them watch some TV programs related to learning in the evening to increase the breadth of knowledge.
While mastering the law of life and study, we should pay attention to practical teaching, cultivate students' will quality, cultivate students' temperament and form good study and life habits.
(5) Create a warm and comfortable learning environment for children.
The art of tutoring says, "What we are is more powerful than what I say, and children are watching our lives." The living conditions of most families are much better now. They should have their own space, their own room, their own independence and their own scientific work and rest system. Don't use some hobbies, especially some bad habits to interfere with or inadvertently influence their parents.
To sum up, it can be seen that family education is a university question, which is progressive, invisible and repetitive. Especially, contemporary children are ungrateful to others, do not cherish things, do not restrain themselves, and do not invest in things, which further increases parents' resilience and patience in educating their children. Parents should not rush for success. They should take advantage of the new era, new trends and new changing situations to care about their children's mental health.