Although Fang is only thirteen years old, he "goes to the hall and goes to the kitchen". Because my brother is still young and my parents are busy with work, sometimes it is too late to cook. At this time, the first thing Fang did when he went home was to cook. She has been proficient in pots and pans since she was a child, and cooking a table of home cooking is not a job.
Being able to cook at an early age, helping parents share housework, and making Fang independent from an early age, such children can reassure their parents wherever they go.
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I think of one of my junior high school classmates-Han. Han's personality is very independent and strong, and he always answers questions actively in class. She has been cooking since she was a child. When I was in junior high school, I got up early every morning to make breakfast, not only for myself, but also for my younger brothers and sisters who got up late.
I asked her why her parents didn't make breakfast for their children. She said that her parents worked very hard and were very tired. In any case, she will get up early at school, cook by herself and let her parents sleep a little longer.
When I was in high school, we were in different classes in the same school. She studies science and I study liberal arts.
When I was a sophomore, the olive branch of the SM2 project of the Singapore government also extended to our school. Their goal is to recruit excellent science students from Chinese mainland to study in Singapore, and the Singapore government will provide tuition and living expenses. After one year's study, students enter universities in Singapore and work in Singapore for six years after graduation. After that, you can go back to China or stay in Singapore.
Han passed the exam with excellent results and went to Singapore.
In the inland town of 1998, for us struggling in the preparation swamp, Han's carp Yue Longmen is really enviable.
Many years later, after hearing her news, she stayed in Singapore to get married and have children, with a successful career and a happy family.
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My friend's child, Jessica Hester Hsuan, can cook since he was a child, but that's another story. My friend and her husband work leisurely, but none of them will get up early to cook for Xuan. Either buy some breakfast on the way to send the children to eat, or the children get up early to eat and leave two more bowls for their parents who haven't got up yet.
Usually, their kitchen is hardly used, so it is more common to order takeout to eat out. Sometimes, Xuan wants to eat some home-cooked food, so she has to help herself. My friend is very proud that Xuan can cook. She feels that she has taught her children well, which is also called "cultivating children's independent ability".
As we all know, Xuan came to my house to see how envious I was of the food I cooked for my children. She complained that my parents wouldn't cook such a delicious meal for me, so I had to cook it myself if I wanted to eat it. When I saw the child say this, there was a sadness in his eyes that was not commensurate with his age.
In the same year, Xuanhe's daughters were not very cheerful, and they liked to play with mobile phones, but had no hobbies. He is not active in the class and doesn't like to take part in any activities in the class. He is a relatively silent child.
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The story that Japanese girl Ahua can cook at the age of 5 makes many parents cry. Ahua's mother, Qian Hui, is seriously ill. In order to let her young daughter learn to cook, she was assigned the job of preparing breakfast at the age of five. She taught her daughter how to hold a knife, how to wash vegetables and how to cook. The first time I saw Ahua using a knife, my mother Qian Hui said, "It was scary, but I kept quiet and didn't reach out." .
Qian Hui believes that knowing how to cook means knowing how to live, and learning can be put in the second place. As long as you are healthy and able to stand on your own feet, you can live wherever you go and whatever you do in the future.
Qian Hui died in 2008. In the book "Children who can cook can live wherever they go" written by Qian Huijia, the idea of educating children is put forward: to love children, we must teach them the ability to live independently.
Ahua is doing very well now. She gets up at five in the morning to make breakfast. She said that this was her agreement with her mother, and the moment of cooking was "the happiest time in life!" " "After dinner, play the piano, study for a while, and then go to school. Qian Hui will laugh at her daughter's present living condition!
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The story of Ahua tells us that whether children want to cook or not must be based on the love and guidance of their parents. "Parents' love for their children is far-reaching. "Treating children as independent individuals, parents who love children will cultivate their children's ability to cook and do other housework early.
Willent, a scholar at Harvard University, spent more than 40 years following and observing 256 Boston teenagers. The conclusion is: when children are young, those who can keep good relations with all kinds of people are twice as many as those who don't like labor, earn five times more, and lose 16 times less unemployment. Their health is much better and their lives are full, because labor can enable children to acquire various abilities and feel useful to society.
As the core part of housework, cooking is more conducive to children's growth.
If the child can cook, training the flexibility of the hand in the process of cooking, the nerve bundle on the hand leads to the brain, which will promote the development and perfection of brain neurons; Mastering the cooking steps skillfully and learning to make overall plans will transfer this ability in various occasions.
If children can cook, they will make mistakes and correct them in the process of cooking, and find ways to solve problems by themselves, so that they can cultivate their self-confidence and overcome difficulties. German educator karl witte said when talking about how to educate his son Carl Jr.:
Many parents think that children can only do something at a certain stage. This view is actually incorrect. I never thought of it that way. What I value is to build Carl's confidence in his young mind.
If children can cook, they won't form the bad habit of "having food with their mouths open and clothes with their hands stretched out", and they won't rely on their parents for everything and become an "old man" spurned by everyone. Recently, the "26-year-old boy who was locked in his mother's house and still wore diapers" was probably a guy who didn't touch the spring water with his fingers.
If children can cook, they will experience the hard-won three meals in cooking and be more considerate of their parents' hard work; If a child can cook, he will have a deeper understanding of earthly happiness and love life more under the influence of earthly fireworks.
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It is not difficult to make children love cooking. Parents should be good at seizing opportunities. At the stage of children imitating adult games, we should actively guide children, starting from knowing the kitchen, and gradually transition to washing and cutting vegetables and using gas. When children are interested in cooking, parents should never say: What can a young child do? No need to help, just play. This casual action will dampen children's enthusiasm for learning to cook. When they grow up, children can only stand by and watch adults cook.
Cultivating children's habit of loving cooking is not developed overnight, and parents need to constantly strengthen it. However, parents should never treat their children as laborers. Just like Xuan mentioned above, mother's euphemistic "self-reliance education" is actually a responsible escape from herself.
Parents still don't regard cooking as an expression of love for their families, but an unavoidable job. How to make children feel love and enjoy cooking? Parents are still irresponsible and hasty in dealing with life. How can children be self-sufficient and confident, and how can they gain enthusiasm for life?
Cultivate children's habit of loving cooking, and don't use cooking as a means to punish children, let alone use material or money to strengthen it, but use praise and encouragement to strengthen it.
In short, all this stems from parents' love for their children.