There is a 33-year-old man on the Internet. Since graduating from college, he has stayed at home all day eating and drinking without looking for a job, relying on the care of his elderly mother to maintain a normal life.
Once, my mother happened to have something to go out for three days. Before she left, she prepared the clothes that the children needed to change and put some food and drink in a conspicuous place. The room was cleaned before she went out.
Three days later, my mother came back from work to open the door and was shocked by what she saw. The room is in a mess, there is all kinds of rubbish on the floor, and clothes are everywhere on the sofa.
When the man saw his mother coming back, he said angrily, "You just came back now, and you are starving." After listening to a few words of distressed comfort, mother went to the kitchen to cook.
When a 33-year-old man can't take care of himself, he can't live without his mother like a giant baby. When the affection crosses the line, the mother-child relationship that crosses the affection makes many netizens vomit: deformed maternal love will harm the child's life.
Although children grow up, they depend on their mothers' care and hugs everywhere in their lives. This kind of person is usually called "Ma Baonan", which will have some adverse effects not only in family life, but also in social communication.
In this case, 30-year-old Ma Baonan still lives in his world with his mother. He can't live independently and doesn't even have a formal job. He has to rely on his mother's relief both financially and in life. How long can this life last with his mother's old age?
In the case, the mother worked hard for her 33-year-old son, but she didn't know that her behavior was slowly eroding the child's independence. When the family crosses the line, the child becomes a "giant baby", and the mother's behavior is only hurting him, not helping him.
After Ma Baonan entered the society, because he was taken care of by his mother for a long time, he would think that his mother was the closest person, and all other members of the opposite sex were inferior to his mother, which made it difficult for him to find his favorite object, even unable to get along with other members of the opposite sex, and he never planned to get married all his life.
What kind of education is the best for children's development?
1, cultivate children's adaptability
When parents love their children, they shouldn't spoil them too much. They should properly familiarize their children with a strange environment, such as letting them go to boarding school alone, so that they can adapt to a strange environment after leaving their parents' care and cultivate their adaptability.
2. Cultivate children's practical ability
Many parents love their children, don't let them work, and arrange many things for them in detail. Parents should let their children do some housework as much as possible, or let their children take some interest classes in pottery and flower arrangement, which can cultivate their hands-on ability.
3. Correct the child's misconduct in time.
Parents can't hide their children's behavior problems when they see them. They should correct their children's bad behavior in time and educate them. If it is serious, they can be punished appropriately so that children will not make mistakes again.
Children are the heart of parents. All parents want to leave the best things to their children, but blindly doting on them will only harm them. When children can't adapt to a person's life, no one takes care of them, and life has no setbacks, children will gradually become decadent.
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