These methods are more effective than taking medicine.
Adolescent children are difficult to deal with, and it is the late-maturing brain that is at work.
Parents need to know what the brain is and how it works in order to understand their children's endless emotional and behavioral problems.
The frontal lobe is the slowest developing part of the whole human body. According to 1988, the average age of human prefrontal cortex to develop 80% functions is 22 years old, but now this age has been delayed to 30 years old.
There are many possibilities for this age delay, one of which is widely recognized. In the past few decades, the time spent watching the screen has greatly increased, which has a great impact on the development speed of the prefrontal lobe. Now more and more psychologists believe that true adolescence will not end until around the age of 30.
30 years old is only an ideal state, provided that a person has not experienced too serious or persistent psychological trauma since childhood, and the study pressure is not so great as to affect the development of the prefrontal lobe, otherwise it is entirely possible that this part will not develop well until the age of 4 or 50.
More than 50% of teenagers commit suicide, and the consideration time should not exceed 10 minute; More than 70% of teenagers commit suicide, and the consideration time should not exceed 2 hours.
From this shocking data, we find that many teenagers finally choose to take some extreme measures, which is a very temporary decision, which has a lot to do with the failure to develop the executive and judgment functions of the prefrontal cortex and the ability to suppress impulses.
Therefore, parents should know that the child has poor grades, procrastination, impulsiveness and confusion, but he is really not a bad boy. The prefrontal lobe is not well developed, which is a physiological factor to be considered. Fighting children is definitely not a good idea!
Good interpersonal relationships, exercise and sleep can activate brain potential.
1, good relationship
The state of children's cerebral cortex during work and study, we will see that the cortex obviously lacks functionality and activity.
Some children will lose their grades because of the tension between classmates or teachers and the tension between family members. Being in a harmful relationship for a long time not only affects a person's psychological feelings, but also has a great influence on the cognitive and thinking functions of the brain.
2. Exercise can activate the brain
The proportion and area of brain activation before and after exercise are completely different. When children don't want to do their homework and have problems with their judgment, it will be helpful to go out for a walk.
3. Sleep and trim the brain.
When we sleep at night, the brain will play a very important role: similar to "pruning" in gardening, we will "cut off" everything we see during the day that is not so necessary for human development.
Pruning is like making room for CPU. Only when the brain frees up enough space can it run more programs and stimulate greater potential.
Use the working rules of the brain to adjust the psychological state.
You are doing your math homework. Your cerebral cortex is very active when you are working and doing it. You feel very tired. At this point, you will retreat to the limbic system. You will open your mobile phone and brush WeChat. Sometimes you feel that chatting with friends is warm and activates the limbic system related to love. When the limbic system is active, it will push you to work from the bottom up, but many times your self-regulation ability is not so mature and the external resources are not so sufficient. Brain function "retreats" to the midbrain, and you want to drink milk tea, or
If midbrain stimulation works, we can go up to work and study again, but we may also fail and continue to slide down to the brain stem area. Chicken soup for the soul suggests taking a deep breath when your emotions are out of control. This process is self-regulation at the brain stem level, because only when you start breathing evenly and the brain stem level is adjusted, can you return to the cerebral cortex and reach a state where you can do problems and face life choices.