Zhang and Dai Langye, prime ministers of Qing Dynasty, were both from Anhui. The two families live next door, both want to build houses, and there is a dispute over land. Mrs. Zhang wrote in Beijing, asking Prime Minister Zhang to intervene. After reading the letter, the prime minister immediately wrote a poem to persuade the old lady: "A letter from a thousand miles is just a wall. Why not let it go three feet?" The Great Wall of Wan Li is still there today, but I haven't seen Qin Shihuang. When Mrs. Zhang saw that the book was reasonable, she gave in three feet. "。 Ye Jia was deeply ashamed when he saw this scene and immediately gave up three feet against the wall. In this way, a six-foot-wide roadway was formed between the courtyard walls of Zhangye's house, which became the famous "six-foot alley". What Zhang lost was his ancestral homestead, but what he got was a good reputation of a harmonious neighborhood and a lasting reputation.

After reading it, I was deeply touched. You may have heard of it, or you may have experienced it yourself: a friend is flushed because of a gossip; Children fighting between neighbors causes adults to bicker, and they don't communicate with each other; Because of family chores, husband and wife sharing the same room, old and strict separation, and so on. In fact, when we calm down and think about these things carefully, we always feel a little ridiculous or even absurd. Since taking a step back can turn an enemy into a friend, why not? People who can survive will not blindly strive for strength, but would rather take a step back and make necessary self-sacrifice when necessary. We should understand that the road of life is not a straight road, which requires both hard pursuit and self-discipline. You should fight and let go.

To be tolerant of others is to be kind to yourself, and tolerance is also a virtue. Many people think it is not easy to forgive those who hurt themselves. Actually, I don't think it's easy either, ha! But there is a book that says, "The heart is a container. When there is more and more love, hatred will be squeezed out. " We should not blindly and deliberately eliminate hatred, but should constantly fill our hearts with love. In that case, why don't we take a step back, let go of our anger and be kind to ourselves?

As the saying goes. Take a step back and broaden the horizon. Be patient for a while and be calm.