In this section, the author mainly expounds this problem from the matter of beating and scolding children.
Generally speaking, corporal punishment is a common punishment in raising children.
Some parents think that corporal punishment, such as spanking, is much more useful than preaching, which can let children know clearly what not to do. Other parents are firmly opposed to this practice. Corporal punishment will make children realize that when other methods fail, they can be solved by force.
It is difficult for children to feel the love of their parents through corporal punishment. According to many parents, it is also a last resort to beat and scold children, because there is no other way to make them do something beneficial to themselves. In order to show that beating and cursing really worked, they also mentioned that some children thanked them afterwards.
Dr. Luxembourg, who has four children, deeply understands the hardships of being a parent. However, he doesn't think corporal punishment is a good way to educate children. First, sometimes children refuse to do something beneficial to them, but they don't want to give in to the pressure of their parents. Second, corporal punishment may have an immediate effect, but it doesn't mean that there is no other way to achieve the same effect. Third, corporal punishment will have a bad influence on children's body and mind, and similar indifference or alienation may occur.
I have no problem with this part. I have never been married and have never raised children.
But I know one thing: parents are the originals of printers, and children are copies.
Generally speaking, the temper and personality of children and parents are in the same strain, so things like beating and scolding children and corporal punishment should be considered first, even if they are really unbearable sometimes, and it is best not to do them.