Excessive superiority is also a kind of inferiority. Is your sense of superiority excessive? -Parents' online psychological network

A few days ago, a video of "My takeaway brother was insulted for being late for delivery" in Weibo came from the top, which triggered a heated discussion. Netizens have left messages saying that "life is not easy, so why bother others?" Please be kind to yourself and others, and feel wronged for my takeaway brother.

The takeaway brother was insulted. What kind of psychology does the abuser hold?

Excessive superiority is the root cause.

Superiority is a kind of nature or state that shows contempt or conceit. Generally speaking, it refers to a psychological state in which people are often superior to others physically (body shape, appearance, etc.). ) or psychology (intelligence, knowledge, etc. ) and so on. It is a kind of self-awareness. Most people actually have different degrees of superiority, such as professional superiority, academic superiority and looks superiority.

There has always been an unwritten professional standard in the service industry, that is, customers are God. To make it clear is to avoid offending customers, and what customers say is right, which also makes some people feel superior.

The occupation of "takeaway brother" belongs to a relatively low-level occupation in the eyes of some people. Because I paid, I am your God. It is natural for you to serve me, and I will do whatever I say.

Excessive superiority is also a kind of inferiority.

Austrian psychologist A. Adler regards superiority as an alternative inferiority complex. He believes that the overall goal of mankind is to pursue "superiority" in order to get rid of inferiority and gain superiority. He attributed the whole life motivation function of human beings to the compensation function of getting rid of inferiority complex.

People who feel inferior generally have two kinds of psychological activities. One is the direct inferiority complex, feeling that they are inferior to others everywhere, so they are timid and don't like to talk. The other is an excessive sense of superiority, which covers up one's inner inferiority and anxiety by belittling others and raising oneself. Therefore, people with excessive sense of superiority often show this psychological state in an inappropriate way (such as arrogance, stubbornness, self-appreciation, etc.). ).

How to overcome excessive superiority

A proper sense of superiority is also beneficial, which can improve your self-confidence, show your confident temperament and dare to show your elegance. However, excessive sense of superiority will make people become arrogant, and their emotions will fluctuate too much, which may also affect a person's interpersonal relationship and future development. So, how to overcome excessive superiority?

1. Calm down and straighten yourself. No profession in the world is different, whether it is a sanitation worker or a blue-collar white-collar worker. They are all working for others, making a living and working hard for life.

2. Ask for advice with an open mind, ask more and learn more. Believe that every line is the best creed. When you do well in one field, don't forget that others give orders in another field you don't know. Ask for advice modestly, improve yourself and enrich your life.

3. Know others and understand others. Sometimes it's not easy to put yourself in others' shoes.

I especially like the message from that netizen. Everyone who works hard for life should be respected. No matter what you are doing, no matter how difficult it is, as long as you live hard, as long as you live hard, you are a person worthy of respect.

Life is not easy, please be more understanding and tolerant.