When childhood dreams have faded, you and I have to bear the erosion of years and become a passer-by in this ordinary world. We know that success in the secular sense is not that simple, but when we become parents, we always inadvertently impose this expected success on our children, hoping that they can find their own way.
Year after year, it goes round and round, becoming a cycle. Perhaps this is what Professor Ge Fei of Tsinghua University once said, "Children in China are single-minded, and people live in fear of the ordinary".
It seems that every Chinese family gives their children such high hopes, whether they expect their children to succeed or not.
What lies behind this is our fear of the ordinary. Poor families hope that their children can get rid of the shackles of life and give themselves a better future, while rich families hope that this hard-won wealth can continue.
The reason is that the ordinary has brought us too much humbleness and depression in life and spirit, and when we can't change this depression, we can only pin our hopes on our children.
In the cold winter, there are always people who have to walk through the streets for a day against the wind and snow, even if they can see a little white shadow in the east. In the hot summer, there are always people who make the scorching sun burn their cheeks for a day's livelihood, even if the sunset has already disappeared.
Day after day, year after year. But even with such hard work and hard work, all you can get is a full meal and a tile that can shelter you from the wind and rain. No one wants to sit in an air-conditioned room, drink tea and chat, but don't have to worry about life, but suffer from living.
Every parent loves their children deeply and doesn't want them to live the same life when they grow up.
They also don't want their children to copy their lives. When the spirit of getting ahead and honoring ancestors falls on children, they will have to accept a road that has been arranged since childhood.
But whether this road is successful or not, no one knows. Everyone has his own personality and his own emotions. Perhaps some children have succeeded and embarked on the life journey of "changing their destiny" arranged by their parents, while some children have gone further and further, and finally embarked on that ordinary road.
When they have experienced the hardships of life, they put this expectation of "change" on the next generation, and go on and on.
After the violent collision between Chinese and Western cultures, many people say that children in China have lost their nature and freedom. But when these people really become parents, they still embark on this road of fear. The ideal is full, but the reality is really backbone. Who knows how hard life is without experiencing wind and rain?
This is determined by our humanistic concept, as well as our social form and traditional education. We are different from western society. The western world always pursues the so-called personal freedom. They don't need to be responsible for their families or even the country, but China people are different.
We are the legacy of our family and country. From the moment we were born, we were destined to assume the responsibility of this family, whether to shine on the threshold or to get ahead and change our destiny.
This seems to be God's predestined responsibility. A country has a family. With responsibility, you will know how to take responsibility, so that you can have a planned life.
If the children of rich families want to get ahead in the competition and be better than others, what they can do is to enrich themselves desperately, take interest classes in their spare time and take special classes in their spare time. It seems that only by mastering all this can you control your life, and this so-called future has long been frozen in a subtle way.
Children from poor families, if they want to change their fate. Then the simplest and best shortcut is to study hard and try to climb up.
"The book has its own golden house, and the book has its own Yan Ruyu". Under the quality education, the college entrance examination seems to be increasingly unfriendly to children from poor families, but is there a better choice? It seems unfair, but it is the fairest in all competitions.
Therefore, our life has long been planned, and the planned life has long been deprived of the right to freedom. Gefei said that "China's children are single-minded", which is not inappropriate. This is the difference brought by culture. We can't evaluate who is right or wrong and who has a better idea.
The excessive emphasis on freedom in the western world has led to the chaos of their social order and hindered the development of nations and countries. Without the education of filial piety, there is a lack of corresponding sense of responsibility and personality publicity. With more room to play, they may be more likely to be "geniuses", but they still don't understand the feelings of home and country and the complex of homeland.
Chinese civilization has lasted for thousands of years, thanks to our family concept and the idea of defending our country. Although we suffered misfortune, we finally stood up and maintained our unique culture.
No matter what kind of storms we experience, no matter what kind of difficulties we are in, there will always be someone who will step forward and lead us out of the difficulties, stand on the world stage again and make our strongest voice.
Many people say that mediocrity does not mean mediocrity, and ordinary posts will also produce extraordinary heroes, but who can distinguish between mediocrity and mediocrity?
In this world of mortals, most people are ordinary, and what they do day after day and year after year is also mediocre.
Ordinary life makes us fed up with capital exploitation and hysterical life. Everyone is desperately living, but not very happy, but this is also a reality that we have to face, and this reality has contributed to the so-called single personality.
This so-called single personality, that is, I hope that with my own efforts, I can eventually become a master, or make a name for myself, or go down in history, and write my own history as a winner. For most people, the definition of success and mediocrity is so simple, and this simplicity stifles the nature of childhood.
In fact, success has the distress of the successful person, and there is also ordinary happiness in the ordinary world, depending on what you define life.
Looking back, most people finally returned to the ordinary, back to the mediocre years.
In that case, why not give children more space and let them show their personality more? But without regulations, you can't be Fiona Fang, which needs parents to deal with.