In the process of educating students, many teachers often can't grasp the scale of "love" and "strictness" for students. They either love students too much, love them too casually, and lose the dignity of teachers, or they are too tight and too dead to let students "talk about teachers." How to grasp the appropriate "love" and moderate "strictness" for students, so that there is strictness in love and love in strictness is a problem worthy of teachers' study.
First, the teacher's "love": the catalyst for students' progress.
There are many kinds of love in the world, and teachers' love for students is a complex and noble spiritual realm. This kind of love is manifested in teachers' in-depth and meticulous understanding of students, sincere concern for students, full respect and trust for students, and strict requirements for students. Teachers' love for students is different from parents' natural love for children. It contains more social content and has a wide range of significance. Teacher's love is not only an attitude among individuals, a positive emotion, but also an evaluation. Teachers' attitude towards students often reflects some kind of evaluation of students' collective and even society. Therefore, students often associate teachers' care, love and trust with teachers' evaluation of themselves, and with their collective status and personality values. A word from a teacher can sometimes change a student's life. So the teacher's mood actually turned into an environmental factor, which has an unusual psychological component in every student's heart. This shows how important it is for teachers to love students and educate them well!
Education cannot be without love, just as a pond cannot be without water. Without love, there is no education. Experienced teachers will have this experience. When students realize that the teacher really loves him, cares about him and worries about him, whether you are patient help, serious criticism or even necessary reprimand, students will be willing to accept it. On the contrary, if teachers don't win the trust of students, then even if your educational goal is correct and your educational method is scientific, education can't achieve the expected effect, because in the process of education, students are not only the object of teachers' role, but also show a kind of "reaction" at any time, which is manifested in that teachers' teaching and requirements must be filtered or catalyzed by their emotions. If teachers and students can't trust each other, students will be indifferent to the teacher's teaching, and in serious cases, there will be resistance and confrontation. This kind of emotional contradiction, how to educate students?
Second, the teacher's "strictness": the indicator light for students' growth.
In the practice of educating people, some teachers' misinterpretation and misuse of strictness are thought-provoking. In their place, "severity" has evolved into corporal punishment and corporal punishment in disguise. It is no longer the category of "strictness is love", but it has fallen into the mud pit of "strictness is harm", and students' self-esteem, personality and self-motivation have been shattered by "strictness" first frost and wind and rain. I was traumatized. Psychological depression, over time, will form a rebellious mentality that regards "teachers" as enemies. This kind of "strictness" is of no help to people, and it is a hidden strangulation of students' personality development. The real "strictness" should be:
1. Strict without calendar: It is just and necessary to be strict with students at any time. Lack of strict requirements and laissez-faire are irresponsible to students. Severity refers to the teacher's tough, arbitrary and paranoid attitude, which will make children afraid and shrink back. Over time, students' dependence, tension, intention and other bad psychology. Will reproduce. Therefore, teachers should be strict with students, not demanding.
2. Strict and disciplined: "Discipline" means scope and discretion. Teachers are strict with students, but they should not exceed a certain range and should be strictly measured. The same mistake-I didn't do my homework. A student who has always had good grades doesn't necessarily have objective reasons, and it's hard for ordinary students to say. Teachers should not criticize such students simply and rashly, but should adopt different methods to strictly demand them. This is the case with this different method. If the teacher is strict and unqualified, he will criticize people indiscriminately, and the result will inevitably be bad.
Third, grasp the scale of love and strictness: the art and skills of teacher work.
Only when teachers always pretend to be students can students have you as a teacher, especially underachievers, and can they be inspired with courage, confidence and passion to move forward. But love is not strict, and the relationship between teachers and students is extremely harmonious. Is it bad to be friends? Playing around, laughing and cursing, overturns the most basic dignity of teachers, and will cause students not to implement or implement the requirements of teachers, because students think that I have a good relationship with teachers anyway, and I won't do anything if I don't do it or listen to them. In this way, a good class atmosphere cannot be formed. Teachers are always strict with their students and don't give them care and consideration. On the surface, students are obedient, even doing well, and can abide by various systems. In the eyes of ordinary people, they have a good class spirit and are a good class. But after a long time, students are as scared as mice when they meet old cats. Long-term passive depression of students will have adverse effects on body and mind, leading to weariness, dropping out of school, truancy and so on.
Therefore, teachers should establish a correct concept of "love and strictness", especially for underachievers. They should not be partial to some students and neglect or even discriminate against others, and draw a clear line to distinguish them, which will artificially lead to "exclusion". Because underachievers are dragging their feet to a great extent, and the transformation of underachievers can not be solved overnight, but it is long-term and difficult. Doing the work of underachievers can best reflect the teacher's "love" and "strictness".
First of all, respect students' self-esteem and avoid confrontation.
Every student has a certain degree of self-esteem, and the underachievers are often more intense and extreme. If teachers do not attach importance to underachievers or even despise them, it will easily lead to students' rebellious psychology, and the work will naturally become more and more difficult, and the relationship between teachers and students will naturally become rigid. Teachers must eliminate students' psychological barriers and confrontation points in students' brain cells, so that students can feel the teacher's love and strict requirements for him, thus narrowing the distance between teachers and students and making ideological work easier.
Secondly, he is good at discovering students' "bright spots" and inducing them to make profits.
Underachievers are people with poor grades, poor thinking and poor discipline. They are generally regarded as "hopeless" by teachers.
Third, establish a strict, sound and scientific management system.
In the transformation of underachievers, in addition to fully mobilizing students' positive factors, teachers must also establish a strict, sound and scientific management system for all, so that underachievers can restrain themselves and manage themselves unconsciously, thus achieving the transformation effect.
At the beginning of the new semester, at the first class meeting, I asked my classmates to make clear their learning goals and make a good study plan for this semester. The study plans made by underachievers must be carefully examined. First of all, the requirements should not be too high, but should be gradual. After each stage, I will let the students know the situation, compare the planned plan, and then climb the next goal.
Establish a "reading every day" activity. Reading every day means reading "Primary Code" and "Daily Code of Conduct for Pupils" for 2-3 minutes in the morning reading class or activity class. Don't underestimate these 2-3 minutes of reading, which can be described as a "wake-up call" for underachievers, so that students can always understand what not to do and what to do. It has a strong binding force.
The establishment of "One Help One" requires class cadres to hold regular theme class meetings to help each underachiever. Students help students communicate more easily in language, psychology and thought. I can learn the private situation of underachievers at first hand through class cadres and lay a solid foundation for transforming underachievers.
Carry out colorful after-school life, and intentionally let underachievers show their talents. Generally speaking, underachievers are skilled. As long as teachers are equipped with "critical eyes", it is not difficult to develop, so that students can feel the sense of collective honor in activities, which meets the requirements of healthy physical and mental development.
I believe that "if you are sincere, the stone will open."
At the same time, doing students' political and ideological work and having individual conversations with students is an art science and requires skills. When students make a mistake, they yell or push, drag and punish loudly, which often makes them rebellious and turn a deaf ear to the teacher's conversation. Teachers should convince students that "strictness" and "love" are the combination of emotion and reason, and never force their own views into students' minds, force them to accept them, and let them act according to their own intentions. This kind of behavior that goes against the psychological principles accepted by students is counterproductive.