earnest words offend the ear

Bacon, a great English philosopher, once pointed out: "The light one gets from others' slander is cleaner and purer than the light he gets from his own understanding and judgment." Yes, in life, people often criticize themselves and remind themselves that it is not a good thing to make fewer detours, fewer mistakes or not.

Good medicine tastes bitter and is good for the disease, that is to say, although the medicine is bitter, it is good for our recovery. We treat criticism in the same way. We should understand the truth that "advice when least heeded is helpful to action", treat criticism correctly, listen to other people's opinions or suggestions, find our own shortcomings or deficiencies, and correct them to make ourselves better.

Here, I thought of Jin Yong's attitude towards criticism. Wang Shuo published an article "I Watch Jin Yong" in China Youth Daily, which severely criticized Jin Yong's martial arts novels, and called Jin Yong's novels, Jackie Chan's movies, Qiong Yao's TV series and the four heavenly kings "four customs". In the face of criticism, Mr. Jin Yong calmly said: "It is not surprising that reputation is a common thing in life. Mr. Wang Shuo's criticism may be too demanding and beyond my ability. It is because I am weak and helpless. " He added: "I am very grateful to many readers for their love and enthusiasm for my novel. They are too good to me, that is to say, God is too good to me. Since I have enjoyed so much happiness, occasionally giving people a few words is a hit, and I will not be unhappy. "

This is Jin Yong's attitude towards criticism, and he should accept criticism with an open mind. Praise is encouragement, criticism is spur, praise is like sunshine, criticism is like rain and dew, and both are indispensable. We should accept well-meaning criticism with an open mind.

The purpose of criticism is to correct mistakes, and criticism is a good way to correct mistakes. When someone points out your mistake, don't think that person is targeting yourself, so you will be singled out for criticism. We should be good at listening to others' opinions, reviewing ourselves, finding mistakes and correcting them.

Good medicine tastes bitter and is good for illness, but advice when most unpleasant is good for action. We should accept criticism with an open mind

earnest words offend the ear

Some people say that friendship is a useful savings in life. This savings is to give all your help in a difficult situation, sincere help when you fall, and stern advice on the wrong road. When encountering all kinds of setbacks, it is often those in power who turn a blind eye to bystanders. Therefore, when you are in a quagmire of confusion, a sincere advice from a good friend is particularly important.

A gentleman's mistakes are like food for the sun and the moon. Everyone sees them, and what's more, everyone admires them. Then, if you don't know your own mistakes, how can you correct them and be respected? Here, you need a good friend to remind you that once you know your mistakes and correct them, your original personality will shine and you will become a gentleman. This is the essence of Confucianism and the benefit of good friends' disobedience.

Go back along the long river of history, at the south corner of the river, under Wu Jun's account. If it weren't for Lu Su's direct remonstrance, how could he be a general with both wisdom and courage? How come I met Lu Meng again and marveled, "I haven't seen you for three days, that is, I face each other. Why is Big Brother late?" How has Wu Can been invincible for many years? Without Lu Su's advice to persuade him to study and learn to be a soldier, China's history records only a foolish man. In the past, it was an insult to say that a general didn't know Chinese characters, but Monroe accepted and corrected his shortcomings, which changed his life and even changed the rise and fall of Wu for a period of time. This shows the value of irony.

Focusing on the contemporary era, there are also many wise men in modern society who can reflect on themselves every day. No group can live without the most basic masses. Under the same leadership system, different leaders will always have two completely different results. This law is universal among families, enterprises and even countries, and it either flourishes or declines and splits. In the journey of life, there can be no winners. After failure, only a truly successful wise man can see the root cause of being buried under objective factors and correct it. But most people only see the objective factors that rely on the temptation of the world of mortals, and find a natural excuse for the next failure. In European and American countries, people often have the habit of worship. They stood in a quiet church, recalled what they had done in the past week, prayed silently for the dissatisfied people, and sincerely repented if they did something wrong. In this relatively quiet environment, people in European and American countries have a higher quality to see the deepest essence of the situation and not repeat the same mistakes, which is also one of the reasons. This shows the importance of knowing your mistakes. However, because of the different environment, we seldom have such a time and place around us, so we need others to help us see through the heavy smoke of selfish desires, jealousy, stubbornness, laziness and other emotions in the depths of our souls, so that we can see the essence of things clearly, and other people's suggestions are undoubtedly the most effective and fastest.

Good medicine tastes bitter and is good for illness, but advice when most unpleasant is good for action. Others point out your shortcomings, although it is not pleasant to hear, but it is undoubtedly the most effective way to change us.

Test analysis:

Cut in from the perspective of the big tree. People make mistakes like trees, like others' flattery and hate others' criticism. In fact, good medicine tastes bitter and is good for illness, but advice at the most unpleasant time is good for action. We should put down our dignity and listen to other people's well-meaning criticism. Even cynicism, in this way, you will calm down, reflect on your words and deeds, gain benefits from reflection, correct your life course and improve your moral cultivation.

Cut from the perspective of magpie. Moderate encouragement and praise is necessary, but it is not a good thing to praise others excessively and unreasonably, even for one's own self-interest. For yourself, it is selfish and hypocritical; For others, it is to condone mistakes and make people avoid them, so that they become complacent and lead to rolling in the abyss.

Cut from the woodpecker's point of view. People who need to tell the truth in life need people who dare to give pertinent advice. Although the "noise" brought by the "woodpecker" in life is "painful", it can correct mistakes and save lives. Woodpeckers in life are often misunderstood and scolded. However, a woodpecker who sticks to the truth will not and should not give up his duties and principles because of unfair treatment.

Innovative thinking conception: "Criticism depends on the object and method". Woodpeckers were blamed for treating trees. It should reflect on its own behavior and methods to see if there are any problems. Look at it. It doesn't feel the pulse, ask for advice or even say hello. I kept pecking "bang, bang, bang" as soon as I came up. How can you not make the tree angry? In life, many times, we make the same mistakes as woodpeckers, criticizing students, accusing children and annoying them. Shouldn't we reflect?