I used to hold such a silly grateful heart, thinking that my kind and beautiful little sister deserves to be taken care of severely, and I will remember others' kindness when I recover in the future. However, after several waves of condolences that made me miserable, I have to admit painfully that chatting with patients is also a technical job.
Six months ago, I suddenly developed an immune system disease. Thanks to modern technology, I received hundreds of phone calls and WeChat condolences, most of which were out of love. However, many times I really want to scream at the sky. What have I done wrong, and I have to suffer so much during my illness?
If the human body is an extremely sophisticated instrument, then at this stage, the medical level of human beings may only disassemble this machine without knowing its specific operation mode. All they can do is tinker. Facing the complicated and exquisite human body composition, modern medicine is still a growing teenager, and so are doctors. It is really more difficult for ordinary people to fully understand a disease.
But it happened that some studious people, after learning that I was sick, expressed deep dissatisfaction with the general immune system diseases, repeatedly questioned the specific name of the disease, and had a cordial and friendly medical discussion with me. From the etiology to the treatment plan, from the attending physician to the rehabilitation training, every question was accompanied by a large number of academic screenshots. If I were not lying in a hospital bed, I really thought I was in a large-scale scientific research site. What's more, I put the disability rate and complications mentioned in a paper.
As long as the patient is not self-destructive, he must have made a 360-degree all-round search for his disease under such advanced scientific and technological conditions, but this does not mean that he also has the desire to discuss with you. After all, no doctor tutor wants the case played on PPT to be himself, and as a patient, he really won't know more than Baidu Encyclopedia. It is cruel to let patients discuss themselves in popular science.
As a person, I have an immune disease. If I go to the reproductive department or some diseases that I don't want to be known, I may pretend to have been to Mars to protect my little self-esteem and privacy in the face of this curious concern.
I have been ill for several months, and I am afraid of the steps of nurses' rounds. What I am most afraid of is the condolence call from my elders.
Is little XX sick?
Yes, the address here can be seven aunts, three uncles and so on.
Stay up late playing mobile phone again? I told you, young people should not always hold that mobile phone and stay up at midnight. There is a lot of radiation. This kind of radiation is not good. I heard from your neighbor Aunt Wang that her sister's classmate's cousin got leukemia because of cell phone radiation. Don't you think you are sick, too? . .
Little XX, are you losing weight and not eating again? I told you before, don't lose weight, don't lose weight Look at what you eat every time, we Xiaohua eat more than you (Xiaohua is a nine-year-old cat). Now all girls have to lose weight, and their legs are as thin as hemp stalks. Can they not get sick? But who said that my face was fleshy this Spring Festival, and I almost caught up with Xiaohua's big face.
Little XX, do you not cook every day, but eat junk food such as mala Tang and instant noodles? I haven't exercised much. No wonder I'm so weak. I tell you, it is impossible not to eat well. I have to walk at least10,000 steps every day. You see, since I danced in the square dance, my waist and legs have stopped hurting. You young people just lack exercise. I'll omit 10 thousand words here.
At the beginning, as an indomitable little fairy, I resolutely didn't want to get sick because of the disobedient pot. I would patiently explain to every caring and accusing face. Sleeping late for three meals, not liking frying and greasy, exercising regularly every day and defecating on time are no different from the living habits of healthy ordinary people. However, it seems that I didn't hear the cry in my heart, and I still repeated my own regimen. In short, if you are ill, you must have done something wrong. You are lazy.
I admit that living habits are closely related to my health. However, I have reflected on it many times in the torment of life is worse than death, and I really don't need to guess which link has gone wrong repeatedly. I have always thought that diseases have a lot to do with genes and luck. Some people go to bed late and eat too much, but some people can't escape the sneak attack of fate with strict self-discipline. When everything has happened, there is nothing wrong with moderate concern. However, repeated nagging and accusations really just want people to pretend that their mobile phones are out of power and stay away from the world.
If the above two ways of condolence are still few, then I am afraid that the chat that many people will use will make me feel the most painful when I am sick. I call it "chicken blood condolence liquid".
After I got sick, I couldn't turn over, walk or take things for a long time because the disease invaded my joints. One of the most common words of many friends who come to express their concern is to be strong, which is often accompanied by suggestions that you should strengthen exercise, so lying down every day is unacceptable. I used to be like this, thinking that telling patients that you should be strong is an encouragement. However, after I got sick, I really realized that the person I love is stronger. I just want to be a delicate fairy and hug myself in love.
This society loves positive energy, and everyone wants the hero of the story to be brave and admirable. However, the disease brings not only physical pain, but also the fear of not seeing the future. No one who has really experienced the pain, weakness, nausea, insomnia and other pains caused by drugs is not strong, constantly refreshing the limits of patience, trying to live for people and things that they can't bear, and I don't know how many times I have had the idea of ending early in the suffering of illness. If I'm not enough,
Every word in the disease has become a silent request and rope. I dare not cry, dare not make trouble, dare not shout pain, for fear of ruining their expectations. I can only bite my teeth and pretend to be fine. But I really want to complain, cry, and say that I am so sad and I don't want to be so strong. Disease seems to be enchanted, and life turns a person into a child. I miss my mother's warm and comfortable uterus and gentle exhortation. Honey, I know you're upset. Just bear it a little longer, and everything will be fine.
People like to use arguments to prove the correctness of their views. Generally speaking, it is an example. Isn't one enough? It doesn't matter. I have many more, and there is always one that can successfully block your heart.
During my illness, I once complained to a close friend about my physical pain and worries about the future. He listened to me silently and replied that your pain was really nothing. I'm telling you that my aunt got xx disease a while ago. Every month, chemotherapy is much more than yours, and she often twitches, so she can't take care of herself. At least you can control the treatment and action, which is good enough.
After listening to his speech, I don't know whether to be depressed or lucky. I am depressed because I lost in the disease competition. There are too many people whose pain far exceeds mine. I'm glad I'm still so depressed. But God knows, I'm not here to take part in such a competition. I really just want to talk and be comforted I don't want to know if there is anyone worse off in this world than me. I don't want to care about the world, food and peace. I just want to care about myself and forgive me for being such a selfish fairy at this moment.
Nausea, spit. The above is a brief strategy on how to drive patients crazy. Please keep it. In fact, there are only three principles to comfort patients. As long as you follow the principle that when you are sick, you are the biggest, the best and everything will be fine, there will be no patients who can't be comforted, talk less and listen to appropriate encouragement. I sincerely hope that everyone will be safe and happy.