"Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others" is a famous maxim. There is a saying in Augmented Xianwen: "Blame yourself with the heart of blaming others, and forgive others with the heart of forgiving yourself", which means demanding yourself with a strict attitude towards others and forgiving others with a tolerant attitude towards yourself. There is also a proverb in China: "Everyone is happy and friends are generous", which means that if people are United and harmonious, and Qi Xin works together, everything will flourish. Only people with an open mind and an open mind can make friends. Self-discipline and tolerance is one of the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation, and it is also a sign of a high quality. It is often said that "man and everything prosper together", and there are contradictions and differences between people. If each of them can "blame themselves with the heart of blaming others and forgive others with the heart of forgiving themselves", they can turn barriers into understanding and contradictions into friendship, and their careers will flourish. The so-called self-discipline and tolerance means following certain moral standards and codes of conduct, strictly demanding ourselves, restraining ourselves, cultivating sentiment, improving moral character, and treating others with a generous mind. People live in society and have to deal with all kinds of things around them all the time. Only by understanding the overall situation, taking care of the overall situation, bearing the burden of humiliation, regardless of personal gains and losses, strictly observing the law and discipline, being strict with oneself, being open-minded and tolerant of others, can we do things well and make our society truly harmonious. Today, while vigorously promoting the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation, building socialist spiritual civilization and creating a harmonious society, we should pay more attention to the cultivation of self-discipline and tolerance, starting from ourselves and starting from small things. National laws and regulations are the code of conduct that citizens should abide by in their production and life. Only when everyone abides by it can our society have a safe and harmonious environment. Otherwise, the whole society will be chaotic and everyone's life will be affected. Therefore, every citizen should be strict with himself, abide by the law, and abide by the Outline for the Implementation of Citizen Morality, which is the minimum requirement for citizen self-discipline. The ancients said: "Self-discipline should bring autumn wind, and life should bring spring breeze". This is a sentence in the motto, which means that you should be as strict as autumn wind, and get along with people as warm and warm as spring breeze. "Zengguang Xianwen" also said: "Blame yourself with the heart of blaming others, and forgive others with the heart of forgiving yourself." Is to blame yourself with the attitude of blaming others and forgive others with the attitude of forgiving yourself. It warns people to be lenient with others and strict with themselves; Don't care about others and don't indulge yourself. This is a state, a feeling and an open mind. Man's life is like a distant ship in the sea. In the long journey of life, satisfied and dissatisfied people and things are bound to meet. If everyone can be strict with himself or herself in work or life and be lenient with others. When others are found to be wrong, I think the parties concerned will be grateful if they can advise and correct others with a sincere, true and tolerant heart. I don't think there will be any good results if you teach others a lesson by pointing and blaming others when you find that they have problems. As the saying goes, "gold is not enough, and no one is perfect." Anyone who makes a mistake can't shirk responsibility, but should be brave enough to take responsibility; We should sincerely accept other people's criticisms and corrections, and correct our mistakes when we know them. No matter at work or in life, one can't just blame others, and always find fault with others there. Instead, we should look at our own shortcomings, find problems in ourselves, and never hide our shortcomings. That's the right way to reflect on yourself. We should keep our eyes open and relax. At all times, we should understand that there are many people who are better than us, and we should examine ourselves and trust others in many things. Trust others, give others space and trust, and finally help yourself! If we do anything and deal with any problems, we can have the mind and sincere attitude of "being strict with ourselves and being lenient with others", why is our society not harmonious? One's most difficult enemy to defeat is oneself. In fact, there are many things like cowardice, fear, timidity, expectation, being swayed by considerations of gain and loss, and indecision. . . . . . Too many problems are mainly about yourself. Just as there are loopholes in the system, so do people. Vulnerabilities are not patched, viruses invade, and the system is paralyzed. Therefore, be strict with yourself, be lenient with others, think about what you can't do, and why bother others. As long as you support your children, interpersonal relationships are not particularly difficult. In fact, it is not difficult to build a good relationship, which is easier said than done. Some relationships are very important. Don't give up easily and keep fresh. Too close or too far is not good. I can't break it. Always think about what you have done and what you will plan to do. Everything is established in advance, and it is abolished if it is not foreseen. There are some preparations and plans for doing things, and even if you succeed, you will not be arrogant; If you fail, you will have the courage and preparation to continue to improve. Do more serious work and don't waste time. Don't bother yourself, just do it diligently. Health first, career development first, sincerity first, seeking truth from facts first, applying what you have learned first, and being down-to-earth first. Recently, some students always talk to me about their confusion in communication. I gave them eight words: "Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others." Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others, which is indispensable for good communication. To be strict with yourself means to be strict with yourself with high standards, always be careful not to hurt others, take the initiative to take responsibility when problems arise, and take the initiative to self-criticize when quarrels occur. At present, to give convenience to others, strive to solve problems by yourself, and be lenient with others is to be able to tolerate all kinds of misunderstandings and grievances without resentment. Repay evil with good, and don't care if others repay evil with good. When dealing with people every day, there will always be questions about how to ask others and how to treat yourself. The attitude towards others and self-discipline can fully reflect a person's cultivation, and it is also an important factor to determine whether he can get along well with others. China's ancient way of doing things is very desirable. Tolerance is based on understanding and objectivity. It can make us see what we don't have from others, and make people take a kind attitude towards people's shortcomings and mistakes and fully understand them. This is the embodiment of one's knowledge and accomplishment. "If we don't have our own shortcomings, we won't be so interested in paying attention to the shortcomings of others. "In fact, this statement is worth pondering. Students get along day and night, live and study together, and it is inevitable that there will be some misunderstandings and contradictions in their communication. When this happens, we should first be strict with ourselves, think more about our own shortcomings, take the initiative to take responsibility, be "calm", enhance the friendship between students and seek understanding. At the same time, we should be tolerant of others and think from each other's point of view. Even if you are wronged, you should consider the overall situation, give priority to friendship and make reasonable concessions. This attitude of being strict with oneself and lenient with others is a "lubricant" in interpersonal communication, which can reduce many unnecessary frictions and disputes in life. If this is not the case, always wearing colored glasses to look at people is not pleasing to the eye, inappropriate, and incompatible with thoughts and feelings. A word is inconsistent, that is, "the tip of the needle is against the wheat." In short, a small matter may get out of control and even bring lifelong regret. As the saying goes, "the bottom of my heart is selfless, and people are complacent." "Facts have proved that as long as a person can jump out of the personal circle, he can be strict with himself and be lenient with others. Only in this way can he improve his moral level in correct communication.