In this era when everyone talks about love, not many people die for love; In the reality of stormy weather, more people choose to be patient in pairs.

One,

My college roommate, Lao Feng, looks sweet, generous and independent. In recent years, I have seen some of the world in college.

Senior year is approaching graduation, and everyone is busy revising the graduation thesis, but we, Lao Feng, have fallen into the whirlpool of love with lightning speed.

She told us that she and the monitor were in love.

The story should have a happy beginning, but the monitor's predecessor came back to find his old love.

It's getting complicated.

It may be difficult for anyone to resist the internal fire that attacks the heart by eating grass before sharing. However, Lao Feng calmly said to our sisters, "Don't worry, it's still a long time, and I won't let you down." I believe he can handle this matter well.

Fortunately, the monitor's boy really stood firm, did not entangle with his old love, cut the gordian knot, and gave Lao Feng a reassuring account.

Then, like this, we lived in the world of mortals and graduated with a hangover.

After graduation, Lao Feng successfully entered a bank and worked as a small teller, and his life was smooth and smooth. The monitor stayed in his hometown, worked in a private enterprise and lived a nine-to-five life.

Long-distance relationship mode is on.

After graduation, I have been in frequent contact with Lao Feng, chatting with each other about life, work, feelings and occasionally gossip.

Because in a different place, we always gather less and leave more. Because of the work of Laofeng Bank, there are few holidays, only the squad leader runs back and forth between the two places every weekend; Or if Lao Feng took leave successfully, he went to the monitor's hometown.

At the end of the first year in a different place, the monitor led Lao Feng home to see his parents. After seeing it that night, Lao Feng chatted with me on WeChat and told me that the monitor's parents were simple rural people who were not fluent in Mandarin. Because of the different regions, she can really feel the sincerity and love of her parents, which makes her feel warm.

In this way, they ran back and forth for more than two years.

Over two years passed quickly. One day the monitor sincerely said to Lao Feng, "Let's get married."

In fact, as early as their first year together, Lao Feng told her mother about her boyfriend. Just because Lao Feng's parents heard about the work of the monitor and were in the countryside, they married in another city. There has been no following.

Therefore, this is also the reason why Lao Feng has never brought the monitor to see his parents. I know, she is waiting for a more mature time.

20 15 At the end of September, Lao Feng WeChat told me that she was going to take the monitor home to meet her parents on National Day. She has been with him for more than two years and has experienced ups and downs together. Although he only mentioned in front of me once when to take him to see my parents, I understand what he meant. If I don't take him home to see him again, I will feel sorry for him.

I'll call her back as soon as you think the time is right.

On the night of National Day, my friends and I made a boring appointment to drink and chat together ... until midnight, when we got home, it was almost twelve o'clock. I was about to take a shower when WeChat rang. It's Lao Feng.

I haven't had time to ask her parents how they met her future son-in-law today. She has sent the second paragraph. She said my parents still don't agree with us.

Lao Feng's parents always thought that Lao Feng's job in the bank was a stable and decent job for everyone. The two old people also spent most of their lives in state-owned enterprises. He is also a decent man and gave birth to a daughter like Lao Feng. He doesn't want her to marry far away and thinks she shouldn't find such a boyfriend. If you want to find the minimum material conditions, you must meet the standard of having a house and a car in the urban area, and it is best to have a unit, otherwise there is nothing to talk about.

And the squad leader can't even achieve at least one of them, so this marriage is almost impossible to achieve.

I asked Lao Feng, what are you going to do like this?

Lao Feng said that no matter how difficult it is, he and I will get married. I don't care about material things. I want to marry someone who is mentally suitable.

Looking at this short sentence on the screen, I was deeply moved and couldn't speak for a while.

I think it must be the feelings that have experienced the storm, or the things that the man has done deserve her to be so firm, so that a woman can say such a sentence full of thousands of words.

However, the facts also prove that her firmness is right.

A few months later, it is the beginning of 20 16. Lao Feng still chats with me on WeChat as usual. This time, she told me that after the monitor went to her house, he went back to tell his parents about going to Lao Feng's house and his parents' hopes.

Then, his parents called her and told her that they liked her very much and thought she was sensible and kind. The key is to see the feelings between her and their son and not want them to be separated because of avoidable problems. I also hope that she can become their daughter-in-law, a member of their family, and ask her if she can let them always take their son to her home to meet her parents. Let their parents communicate these problems that your younger generation can't solve.

I told Lao Feng that I have heard you say many times that although his parents are rural people with their backs on loess, they are very reasonable. What are you going to do about his parents' request?

Lao Feng said that some old people are so compassionate to the younger generation, which makes them moved. After a few days' rest, they will let their families come to my house.

To this end, Lao Feng also went home early to do his parents' work first.

Lao Feng hung up the phone and told me that his parents had met and that he had grasped the key point to prevent two young people from getting married. There is no dispute, which makes her and the monitor take a deep breath.

A few weeks after parents met. The monitor's parents sold the house they bought in the county town before, and used last year's family income to make a down payment for their young people to buy a suite and a car in the city. And the two have been living in their hometown in the countryside.

Everything that the man's parents did, Lao Feng and Lao Feng's parents saw in their eyes, and Lao Feng's parents didn't say anything. Because Lao Feng works in a bank in the city where she lived since she was a child, and because the parents of the monitor have proved by their actions that they want Lao Feng to be a member of their family and their daughter-in-law. Lao Feng's parents also tried their best to find a good transfer relationship for Lao Feng, so that Lao Feng could be transferred to the city where the monitor is located, so that he would not be away from home.

In the final analysis, a large part of the harsh conditions of the woman's parents actually stem from the fear that her daughter will marry and suffer, and she can't bear to watch her children suffer. I think all parents in the world should hope that their children can be happy all their lives.

201August 26th, 6. I woke up this morning, still sleepy. Brush out two identical circle of friends, the monitor and Lao Feng's, and attach their marriage certificates. The content is as follows:

Classmates fall in love, and we are tempered.

Long-distance love, we are tempered into steel.

Today, we finally achieved a positive result.

Let's praise this couple who have gone through a lot of hardships.

Comment on "Congratulations" with compliments. I got up, opened the curtains, and the early autumn sun shone on my face; I fell into the morning fragrance, and my heart was warm.

Perhaps for most people, this is more like a contest between reality and love. Actually, it is not. In this era when everyone says love, what we should see more is the spirit of dying for love.

Second,

——Ringo, a male friend who chatted more congenially after work, is tall 1 m 8 and handsome; Living an eight-to-five civil servant life in a good unit.

But I was black and blue in a love.

It was also because of that emotional injury that he began to be pessimistic about love. What we often say when chatting is that love is hopeless. I was in a bad mood a few days ago and made a circle of friends. His comments left the deepest impression on me.

He said: "It is better to forget the rivers and lakes than to care for each other."

I remember that he and his ex-girlfriend also took wedding photos and chose an auspicious day to hold an engagement party. Just didn't get the certificate; All the friends and relatives around him know that he is happy. Then, their marriage, yellow. It's the divorced woman. The specific reason, never ask, for fear of reminding him of sad memories.

In my opinion, this is a painful blow to anyone.

It is said that love hurts and time is medicine.

But Ringo hasn't recovered from the injury until today.

In the next year or two, he didn't fall in love again.

Although many kind colleagues, relatives and friends introduced him to many good women. He is just perfunctory out of feelings, but he is indifferent.

One noon a few months ago, he sent me a message. The first sentence is: "I dreamed of her last night. In my dream, I was very happy and returned to the days of falling in love. "

However, the dream was short, and I woke up after midnight. It turned out to be a dream, and then I sat alone until dawn; I've always been caught in such a painful cycle recently.

In addition, my parents are old and want to have grandchildren as soon as possible, and they are constantly being forced to get married. In addition to repeated work day after day, their lives are bound by the shackles of serial forced marriage, and life is really endless.

I said, you can't forget her. You can't start your new life. She can walk away without waving, leaving you sad in the same place. Why do you want to abuse yourself like this? You can try to meet the right woman.

He didn't answer me.

In fact, I understand that at our age, we all had some emotional experiences. For those who don't feel or love, you can't convince yourself to live forever. You can't accept opening your eyes every morning and seeing that unloved face. You can't accept kissing and making love with people you don't love. So there will be a lot of leftover women and men.

It is not easy or lucky to meet the right person, neither too early nor too late, among thousands of people.

We haven't contacted Ringo for several days because they are all busy with work.

One day, he suddenly sent Weibo to me and said, "I'm getting married."

I'm surprised and happy. Surprised that he is really lovelorn? I'm glad that he finally came out and found his lover.

Then, I received another message from him: "The person I want to marry is not because of love."

I am ecstatic.

Ask him, have you thought it over? Do you want to spend your life with her you don't love? Are you sure you can stand all her good and bad after marriage?

He replied that he didn't think so much, and who he was with was his life. She loves me very much. "

I never came back to him.

I think there are thousands of forms of love in real life, and I can choose. So, there is no right or wrong.

I can't imagine marriage without love; But at least he made this choice. I believe that is not impulsive, but calm.

Patience in pairs is a kind of helplessness and an ability.