Emerson said: "If you want to be a real person, you must first be a person who does not blindly follow. The integrity of the human mind is inviolable. " His words greatly satirize people who like to emphasize "seeing things from the perspective of others" to improve interpersonal relationships. But "looking at the problem from others' perspective" and "looking at the problem from your own perspective" are not completely contradictory, so Emerson's famous saying can be understood as follows: "Try to look at the problem from others' perspective, but don't lose your own point of view because of this." This is a sign of maturity, the confidence and courage to discover one's own belief and realize it.
Young people are sometimes afraid of being different. No matter how they dress, act, talk or think, they try to identify with their own circles. When some of my peers are accused by their parents, they always mention that their classmates also go to Internet cafes or get their ears pierced or fall in love, so that they won't look stupid. This is because "children" like to do the same things with their peers and care about what friends or playmates think of them. After all, we need to be accepted by our peers.
To expand the age range, when we are in a strange environment and lack experience, the best way is to meet the standards of ordinary people. Until we have enough experience and courage, we will act according to our own standards and beliefs. We always think that it is safe to follow the crowd, but it is also false safety, because at this time we are very simple and are more likely to be led by the nose, so people gradually become slaves to the environment. The real freedom of man is to accept all kinds of challenges and keep fighting.
If we are rational in thinking, we can call it "mature", so we don't need to squeeze into a large army any more. In the final analysis, people who go with the flow are often excluded by the team, while those who don't go with the flow for a while will be considered as eccentric and different people. It is not easy to stick to an unsupported originality or accommodate a supported principle. It really takes a lot of courage to be willing to stick to your beliefs in opposition.
Most people don't think they are actually the greatest experts in the world-in the world of people, families or careers, people do something just because some "experts" say so, or it is a fashion, and they just follow it for fun.
Therefore, what needs to be adhered to is not the position of others, but our own position, so as not to lose our way. After all, we don't need to think in the big stream, but we lack thinking.
Independent personality and thinking make us mature, some like seeds need independent soil.
Therefore, if you want to become mature, you must first follow blindly.
Don't follow the trend, don't blindly follow the trend. 600 words 2 Mandela once told us: "blindly following the trend is sometimes fatal to you, irrational and directionless." We have no reason, just like a boat with no direction in the vast sea. If we follow the wind, we will never reach our destination. So learn to be rational and refuse to blindly follow suit.
Lend you a pair of eyes to see reason. I wonder if you will close the page because of the gadgets on Taobao? I wonder if you are attracted by the gadgets sold by the roadside? People are group animals, and blindly and irrationally loving others is our fatal point. Let us treat them rationally with a pair of rational eyes. The rumor "salt" is a rumor. When the rumor that "salt" can also prevent radiation, a buddy bought 13000 Jin of salt. "Asking God is easier than sending God" is irrational and blindly follows the crowd, which cost him more than 10,000 yuan. When a fly who thinks he is smart blindly follows most flying flies, he rushes to kraft paper and heaven. If that guy had been more rational, he wouldn't have lost more than 10 thousand. If that fly had been more rational, he wouldn't have died. Yes, blind irrationality can only bring you disaster. So, learn to be rational.
Don't cling to superficial phenomena, it's just a temptation. Apples are red and big, which may be poisonous, ham is delicious, there may be lean meat, milk powder is sweet, and there may be chemical additives. Don't cling to superficial phenomena, treat them rationally, and you will achieve unexpected success. When Jacob Bohr was not infatuated with broken vases, he discovered the ratio relation, and when Yasunari Kawabata was not infatuated with begonia flowers blooming at night, he discovered the law of association. Shi Tiesheng experienced the cycle of life and death when he was not infatuated with Ditan flowers and plants. As long as you don't cling to the surface temptation, in-depth analysis and rational thinking, you can reap unexpected surprises.
Change your treatment, refuse to follow blindly and have a wonderful life. Tolstoy once said: "Reason makes people see farther and stand higher!" The height of a person lies not in the height of his body, but in the height of his heart. As Pascal famously said, "Man is a thinking reed." We may be weak reeds, but with reason and thought, I will be strong. Maybe you have been blindly following, maybe you have been infatuated, maybe you have been wandering for a long time, and you will find that everything you are obsessed with for the blind is fleeting. If you treat it rationally and refuse to follow blindly, life will be wonderful.
Don't blindly follow, sail and sail, don't be stubborn, and life is gorgeous. With a pair of discerning eyes, you can reap a wonderful life as brilliant as the summer flowers in Taipen!
Don't follow the trend or blindly follow the rumors of the end of the world, saying that three days of darkness and the destruction of the earth once caused the hot sale of candles and flashlights. The leakage of nuclear power plants in Japan triggered a storm of salt grabbing. It is precisely because people believe in rumors too much and blindly follow the crowd that a series of farce will be triggered. In the face of rumors and doubts, we should refuse blind obedience, stick to ourselves and have a long-term future.
Refuse to follow blindly, and distinguish right from wrong.
For conformity, we should not generalize, but analyze it in detail. What we really imitate must be correct in itself. If you want to refuse to blindly follow the crowd, you must clearly observe right and wrong and make the right choice. Wen Tianxiang devoted himself to serving the country, stuck to his faith when his friends betrayed his country and gave his life for the country, leaving a famous saying: "Since ancient times, no one has left his life, but his heart has left something behind"; Lu You advocated resisting gold all his life. Although he was repeatedly abandoned and severely attacked by the pacifists, he still insisted on his ambition and believed that saving the country was the right way. Therefore, "I dare not forget worrying about my country" closely links the fate of individuals and countries. They believed in their choices, distinguished right from wrong, and wrote one immortal chapter after another.
Only by refusing blind obedience and persisting in self can we achieve brilliance.
In Qu Zi's lament that "the world is cloudy and I am alone", we see his figure walking alone between heaven and earth; Under the moral integrity of Tao Yuanming's "five buckets of rice don't bend over", we can see his carefree life under the hedge of picking chrysanthemums; In Su Shi's realm of "no rain and no sun", we can see that he is open-minded. They refused to follow blindly, got inner words and comfort, and left a lasting farewell.
Refuse to follow blindly, and take it lightly.
Everyone should understand that each of us is a unique individual, and we should stick to our own views instead of following others blindly. Only by persisting in yourself can we achieve brilliance. Tang Xianzu, unwilling to accept the shackles of feudal ethics, created his masterpiece Peony Pavilion. Lu Xun did not want to accept the numbness and ignorance of Chinese people, so he gave up medicine and followed the literature, awakened the rebellious consciousness of countless Chinese people and stirred up China's backbone. Martin Luther King did not want to blindly follow and accept the fate of black people being discriminated against, so he quoted angrily and exchanged his own efforts for the reform dreams of countless black people.
When the frenzy strikes and you go in the right direction, don't hesitate, refuse to follow blindly, and stick to yourself in order to achieve brilliance and reach the other side of success.
It is a common social psychological and behavioral phenomenon not to follow the trend and blindly argue with the trend. Popular explanations are "follow the crowd" and "follow the crowd"; Everyone thinks so, so do I; Everyone does this, and I follow suit.
Some people hold a negative attitude towards "conformity". In fact, it has a dual nature: the negative side is to inhibit the development of personality, inhibit thinking, stifle creativity, and make people become opinionated and stick to the rules; But there is also a positive side, that is, it helps to learn the wisdom and experience of others, broaden our horizons, overcome stubborn opinions and blind self-confidence, correct our own way of thinking, and reduce unnecessary troubles such as misunderstandings.
Not only that, sometimes we have to "conform" to the existing axioms and facts. For example, "hens can lay eggs, cocks can't lay eggs"-this common sense that everyone admits, who can't follow it? In daily communication, nodding your head means affirmation and shaking your head means negation, which are just the opposite in a certain place in India. When you get there, if you don't "do as the Romans do", it is often difficult to move. Therefore, the social psychology and behavior of "conformity" should be analyzed in detail, and we can't think that "conformity" means that there is no opinion, "a grass on the wall, the wind blows a grass"
Naturally, in life, we should advocate the positive side of "conformity", avoid the negative side of "conformity", and strive to cultivate and improve our ability to think independently and distinguish right from wrong; When encountering and looking at problems, we should not only carefully consider the opinions and practices of most people, but also have our own thinking and analysis, so that our judgment can be correct and our actions can be decided accordingly. It is unacceptable to "conform" or "oppose conformity" in everything.
Don't follow the trend, don't blindly follow the trend. However, it is not too much to prove that this road is right. Blindly listening to authority often falls into a trap. It is better to seek truth from facts and look for it with your eyes.
Get rid of blind obedience and learn to innovate. There is a swamp, which is very dangerous. A man wanted to cross, jumped left and right, and found a way, but it didn't last long and he was soon stuck. The second man saw the footprints and thought it was a safe road, so he went down with confidence and finally got stuck in the mud. A long time later, another person passed by, looking at the dense footprints, thinking that so many people had passed by, naturally. So rest assured walked over. The result can be imagined. For many people on foot, this road is not safe. If you follow others' footsteps, if you blindly follow others, you will fall into a trap. Blind obedience will inevitably lead to a mediocre life. Zhang Wuben and Li Yi, who are regarded as immortals, are blindly worshipped by people, but when their glorious aura is taken off, they are just a few mortals. Therefore, don't blindly follow, learn to look at everything with innovative eyes.
Seek truth from facts and believe in yourself. Aristotle believes that the speed at which an object falls depends on its weight. People have believed for more than two thousand years. But two thousand years later, Galileo did not fear authority, insisted on his own point of view and put forward the theory of free fall. Galileo's success lies not in his boldness, but in his belief in himself and his statement of facts. How can the lotus mist smell? But when asked about everyone, only one person answered affirmatively and didn't smell it. I don't believe my nose, but I firmly believe in a common sense: apples are fragrant. This is the performance of not believing in yourself. If a person doesn't believe in himself, who can he trust?
Dare to practice and discover with your heart. When the lotus mist was brought to everyone, a person saw the clue and was puzzled: is this an apple? He has a pair of eyes that are good at discovering. Compared with him, the person who answers not smelly is a bit superficial. Dare to practice and find problems in life is the sublimation of realistic spirit. Newton was good at discovering and discovered the law of universal gravitation. Copernicus challenged authority and overthrew geocentric theory; Madame Curie has discovered radium for several years. Only by daring to practice and discovering with heart can we reach the other side of success.
People's common sense is not necessarily right, and authority and people are not necessarily on the right path. Seeking truth from facts and daring to practice is your own, and it is suitable for you. Why do you blindly follow others? Have a pair of eyes, let the facts speak for themselves.