In my hometown, the bride price money is basically fixed in the "yard" and cannot be changed once every few years. About six or seven years ago, the unified bride price in my hometown "Courtyard" was eleven thousand (one in a million). Now it's changed to 3 1800, which means "the groom's house, the bride's house and the matchmaker's house will send it together".
Other courtyards are 48,000 (safe and sound), weighing 3 kg and 32 liang (about RMB13.6-143,000 due to the difference between the old and new RMB), and all colors are green (5 yuan 10000, Hong Qian 1000).
A brother in the "yard" is getting married recently, and the bride price is 3.180,000. The woman is also from Jinan, and she doesn't have much opinion in this respect. At the time of "meeting and exchanging posts", the man's family gave 3,000 yuan, and the woman used this money to buy a dress for each of the four old people, and also bought a 1000 down jacket for her brother.
The bride price was 31.8 thousand, and the woman didn't move a penny. She gave everything to her brother. She said: Now the new house is being renovated. It's time to spend less. Usually, I get paid, and I can't spend a few dollars on food and clothing. It's no use asking for more than 30 thousand It is better to buy some materials directly to decorate the house now.
This is the daughter-in-law of Jinan.
Actually, it doesn't matter how much the bride price is in Jinan. This is basically a symbolic walking process. Marrying a prostitute is not selling a prostitute. If you had more money, you would be happy. It's all about face. Now that the house is so expensive, the man's family usually pays a down payment and pays it back together after marriage. You have to decorate and buy a car. These are all great expenses.
Generally speaking, the bride price has to be discussed by both families. Because this is not just a bride price, who will buy the furniture? Who will pay the down payment? Who wants this car? Who will pay for the decoration? A lot of things have to be solved.
I come from Sichuan. I dare not talk nonsense about whether the wedding bride price in Jinan is appropriate, but I know the wedding bride price in Sichuan. I will answer your question according to what I know for your reference.
There are three situations in Sichuan bride price. The first situation is that both the man and the woman are only children, and their family social status, personal resources and economic conditions are similar. As long as two young people love each other, they feel that it is not necessary to send a bride price, so the two families discuss it together and agree to avoid the bride price procedure.
The second situation is that the families of both sides are more traditional, pay attention to the customs handed down by their ancestors, and feel that they are disrespectful, disrespectful and lose face. This ceremony is necessary. Under normal circumstances, for good luck, the man will either send 66,666 yuan or 88,888 yuan. After the bride receives the bride price, some families symbolically accept a little and return most of it, while others don't detain it, according to the number of men. Of course, the money belongs to the bride, and neither family can intercept it.
The third situation is that both families have many children and the economic conditions are not good. In particular, the parents of the woman's family hope to help their brother or younger brother buy a house, a car and a wife by marrying a woman. In this case, of course, the woman's family wants the man's family to send as many bride price as possible, some of which are 654.38+ 10,000 or even hundreds of thousands at any time. However, it is difficult for the man's family to meet the requirements of the woman's family, and both are bride price.
I don't object to the bride price, but we must combine the actual situation of both sides, and don't ruin the happiness of the children's life because of the bride price, let alone affect the harmonious relationship between the two in-laws and the married life of the children because of the bride price, otherwise the loss will outweigh the gain, and we will regret it for a lifetime. I'm Nong Liang, from my home, for reference only.
I was born and raised in Jinan for more than 70 years, and I can also be called an expert in Jinan.
You ask about the bride price in Jinan, and I can tell you what I know. Jinan is divided into urban areas and rural areas. I have lived in the city for a long time, but I have never lived in the countryside. Therefore, let's not talk about the situation in rural areas, but only about the situation in cities.
In the early 1950s, Jinan launched a large-scale publicity and education campaign on marriage law. It can be said that the consciousness of anti-arranged marriage and anti-buying and selling marriage is deeply rooted in the hearts of the people. City people think that it is disgraceful and feudal for their daughter to be betrothed to a bride price, and regard her as a cash cow. This kind of thinking and practice has continued until now.
My wife and I got married in 76. From love to marriage, the bride's parents never mentioned the bride price, and our family never thought of giving it to her family. It's just that the wedding is arranged by my family, and the woman's family will send some dowry. I want to remind you that in recent years, not only women don't want bride price, but their dowry value is getting higher and higher, ranging from color TV sets, refrigerators and washing machines to small cars. I think this is hard to understand in rural areas.
Another example is fifteen or sixteen years ago, a young female colleague of mine found an air force soldier from a poor rural area. When getting married, the woman's family spends money on a treat. Afterwards, the woman's family bought a lot of oil noodles and sent them to the man's family. The neighbors of the man's family are surprised that there is such a miracle in the world. The woman's parents said that as long as they are happy in the future, this is more important than anything else.
The above is completely true. After reading it, please think: is it right to ask for a bride price? If not, how to solve this problem?
I am a girl from Jinan. I just got married in June of 5438+00, 20 years ago. In fact, I heard on the Internet that there are tens of thousands or even hundreds of thousands of places. To tell the truth, I've never heard of how much and how particular Jinan bride price is. The girlfriends around me didn't see anyone take out the bride price when they got married or attended the wedding. My parents never thought of enriching my wallet through bride price. Not only that, at the end of 15, my father bought me a house as a dowry. Although I didn't have a boyfriend at that time, I met him later. He has a stable job, a house and a car, and I just joined the work. With a house and no car, my parents sat together and chatted happily. After we got married, my parents and in-laws each took out 200,000 yuan as the start-up capital of our small family. From the moment we realized that our parents met, we formed a family now, and I was pregnant with a baby. I have never heard the word bride price. I feel that parents who really love their daughters will not embarrass their in-laws' daughters with high bride price, and husbands who really love their wives will not despise her for not giving them a bride price. Marriage requires two people to run together, not by high bride price.
There is a commercial river on the north side of the Yellow River in Jinan, with the price of Taiping bride price10.5 million or so, which has been weighed. It's really funny. Go to the woman's house 10 marriage. Every time I go to the woman's house for dinner, I have to pay 8888 yuan, and I have to pay 1000 yuan. You are going to marry girls from these two places, not to mention the garage. You have to prepare a 250 thousand or so
I am a foreigner. 8 1 admitted to Jinan University and stayed in Jinan after graduation. In 1986, I registered my marriage with my wife in Jinan. My parents-in-law not only didn't ask for a bride price, but also gave me furniture, a wedding room and so on, and arranged a wedding. How much do you think the wedding bride price in Jinan should be? !
To change customs, do new things, buy a house, and gather the strength of the whole family. How many families can digest this colorful gift? Perhaps, after marriage, the relationship between relatives and in-laws is different?
Wenxianju, the capital of Quancheng,
Qilu is the birthplace of Confucianism.
There are two counties in the tenth district of Jinan.
The population is less than 8 million.
Economic development is average,
Worse than the coast.
A vast area, rich or poor,
It is not appropriate to divide points into regions.
The gap between counties is too big,
How can we broaden the whole situation?
Qilu civilization has been spread all over the world.
Getting married should not be a big deal.
From a horizontal perspective,
Don't exceed 100 thousand in cash.
Now the bride price has come out of a strange circle.
The poorer you are, the worse you are.
On average, each city has 10 Wan Li,
The difference is as close as possible.
Most of them are indisputable,
Some people are stupid.
Most garages are left by men.
Parents support each other.
What are you going to do,
Whose money is this?
89 thousand is too little for you,
Don't look at what people don't want.
There are tens of thousands of songs,
Not enough for my parents to make up for it.
The exact number is still uncertain,
I am so stupid that I have to go back to accompany you.
It doesn't matter if you don't accompany me or send me.
Let people say that the sale is not shocking.
Nobody cares how much you accompany,
High bride price is a shame.
Choose seven, you don't want it,
You must surpass everything.
Ruyi Dashun hasn't done it yet,
You're not finished until you get married.
Hearsay is nonsense,
Live or die, whether you get there first.
The loyalty, filial piety and stability of Qilu people,
Don't let the bride price be enchanting.
Freedom also obeys Taoism,
Adhere to justice and safeguard justice.
Let me answer this question. After all, I have lived in Jinan for 30 years and witnessed the weddings and funerals of countless people. I still have a say.
Regarding the bride price, there is really not much in Jinan now, but there is a form, about1-30,000. Many men here give 10.8 million, and almost all women have gone back.
As early as 20 years ago, that is, in 2000, 65,438+0,000,65,438+0, commonly known as one in a million, became popular in Jinan, and this custom continued for the previous 65,438+05 years. Until recent years, this 10 1 has become less and less. After all, 1000 yuan is really out of reach now.
When relatives 20 12 got married, the bride price was 28,000. 20 16 years, friends got married, and the bride price was 36,000. Last year, my colleague got married, and the bride price was 1.8 million.
Does it feel low at first glance? Come on, buying a house has cost a lot of money …
The man with good conditions pays the down payment directly, and the two pay the mortgage together after marriage. For the man with poor conditions, both parties will make a part of the down payment, and the two will repay the mortgage together after marriage.
As the capital city of Shandong Province, Jinan is still relatively avant-garde in terms of weddings, funerals and weddings. For ordinary people, the bride price is really becoming more and more formal, just a formality. It is not unrealistic to say that the bride price will be cancelled in the future.
By the way, speaking of bride price, there is a place in Shandong that is really pleasing. Boys looking for girlfriends in that place should pay attention. It is popular there that marriage is not called marriage until the husband's family owes 600 thousand. ...
How much is normal, how much is brought back, generally about 65,438+10,000, depending on their family conditions, the family conditions are good, 65,438+10,000 bride price is brought back, and the mother-in-law's family wants to give 65,438+10,000 and marry a car.