When encountering setbacks and failures in life, many people are used to complaining about social injustice and poor fate, thinking that there are problems with society, colleagues and unit leaders, and blaming their failures on external factors such as classmates, friends and teachers. Find a blatant excuse for your failure: if I have money … if I am young … if I was earlier … if I am 30 years old now … if …
Losers in life are always used to finding reasons from others or society. And the result? At his side, successful people and happy people are born all the time, but he turns a blind eye.
Throughout the ages, successful people are looking for ways to successfully transform themselves. The United States has conducted a survey on 4 1 10,000 millionaires. More than 98% of millionaires are over 50 years old, and their wealth was gained by working hard seven days a week for twenty or thirty years. Working seven days a week means working hard every day and never relaxing, letting go or indulging yourself. Look at those who have accomplished nothing, who are not looking for excuses for failure in complaining?
In life, those successful and happy people have one thing in common: doing one thing and loving another. Because they firmly believe that the solution is always more difficult than reality. A loser in life is doing one thing and complaining about another, thinking that unlucky things always make him stand, complaining about bad fate and social injustice.
Complain less about others and society, and check and reform yourself more. This is the true meaning of life.
The story of Wang, a laid-off female worker, further confirmed this principle.
Wang used to be a car stopper in a factory in Beijing. After being laid off from the factory, she didn't complain about her fate, but actually did what she could-cleaning the bathroom of the VIP building in Beijing. Because, at this time, she was very happy to find this job and felt that her competent job was cleaning staff. The cleaners are very strict with the cleaners, and they should keep wiping and cleaning for eight hours. At the end of the day, I am exhausted and don't want to eat, just want to rest. Not long after, the eight sisters who came with her could not bear the hard work of cleaning and resigned. The family advised the king not to suffer. She thought: As a laid-off woman worker, she has no other skills and has few opportunities to choose a job. When she does a job, she must love it. When she does a job, she must do it well. Because of her hard work, she was praised by the leaders and guests, and she was transferred from a cleaner to a salesman in the commodity department. In order to adapt to the new job, she studies commodity knowledge, sales skills and business English hard, and treats every customer warmly. Sales volume has increased month by month and has been rewarded by leaders for many times.
However, at this time, Wang's work unit closed for half a year and she was laid off again. When she was unemployed, she saw an advertisement for a waiter in a tea shop. However, the recruitment requirements are very high. I am 18-25 years old, and I know English and China tea culture. Wang went to apply for the job and tried to state his advantages and benefits of being old. Finally, the boss accepted her with doubts.
In order to learn to make tea, she repeatedly operated and burned a big bubble on her hand; In order to distinguish different tea properties, qualities and tastes, she repeatedly tried to soak and drink, and sometimes she was too flustered to sleep. Some guests came once and didn't come the second time, so she reflected on what she had done badly. Soon, she mastered the basic knowledge of tea and tea art, learned a set of skills to promote tea, and was promoted to manager by her boss two months after she joined the company.
During her two years in the tea shop, she constantly started to improve herself. Wang attended the 4th Tea Culture Exhibition and the 6th International West Lake Tea Party. Her Eight Immortals Tea won the first prize in this tea ceremony. A few years later, Wang partnered with others to open Jufulong Tea House. From a laid-off woman worker who is nearly 30 years old, in line with the life philosophy of "complaining less about others and society and remoulding more", she finally became an entrepreneur who recruited laid-off women workers.
In real life, everyone may encounter adversity and setbacks such as unemployment, illness, failure in exams and marriage failure. In the face of all kinds of setbacks, most people have a deformed psychology of paying less and gaining more. Therefore, when this psychology of always expecting more is not satisfied, they will complain about fate, family, others, government and society. When a person complains about opportunities, opportunities are slipping away from him. Success comes from hard work, and success comes from transforming yourself and positioning yourself. There are so many industries in the market economy. If you find the right position and locate it accurately, there will always be a job that suits you and a living method that suits you.
Sun Yat-sen said: "The purpose of life is to pay." When your mentality is "the world is for the public", you will have a sense of inner happiness worthy of the world or yourself, you will start your journey of creating wealth for the society, you will become a person who gains social respect and recognition in creation, and you will be a successful person.
Instead of losing opportunities in complaining, it is better to practice your skills in reforming yourself.
"I will curse when I encounter obstacles, and then move a ladder to climb over." This is an aphorism of American black billionaire Johnson.
Yes, there can be no setbacks and obstacles in life. The key is how you treat setbacks and obstacles. "Climb over with a ladder" may succeed. If you complain and curse endlessly, you can only be kept out of the successful group.
Complaining about others, and finally losing the opportunity is your responsibility.
How big a mind a person has, how big a career he has. Being open-minded, tolerant and generous is a sign of kindness. The Bible says: Treat others as you want them to treat you.
Before transforming society, the first thing to realize is to change yourself, and before changing yourself, the most urgent thing is to change your mentality. Because everyone can't choose his own destiny and master his own living environment, but he can master his own mentality and choose his own lifestyle, that is, control his own life.