In fact, our life is always full of "gain" and "loss", which are not absolute extremes, but often accompany each other and are a dialectical relationship.
"People leave the bow, people get the bow" should be the most open-minded view of gain and loss. As far as we are concerned, there are gains and losses. But in real life, there are very few people who can face "gain" and "loss" calmly. According to what I have seen and heard, the following examples are the most common phenomena in society:
Corrupt officials are rampant because they care too much about the gains and losses of personal interests. They just want to scrape the fat and paste from the people all the time, and don't want to benefit the people.
Thousands of students study with the mentality that "score is the lifeblood of students", completely ignoring the true meaning of reading, and the final stage is often a thought-provoking tragedy. Because he failed the college entrance examination, he committed suicide by taking poison; It is not uncommon to run away from home because of poor grades and unbearable parental blame. Seeing only temporary "gains" and "losses", we are willing to give up a bright future for which we are striving. The wrong choice in an instant makes our hearts bear endless regrets.
Face "gain" and "loss" with an open mind, and life will become an eternal star. Laozi once said: "Those who share the gains are happy; those who share the losses are happy.". This is a warning to people, "If you get what you deserve, you must lose what you have to lose. Happy is happy to lose. If you lose it, you will get it. So why should we ordinary people dwell on gains and losses, close our eyes gently and comfort our own gains and losses!
These are some simple reasons. Why do people still lament that little loss without thinking about what they have and deserve to cherish? Is this greed and ignorance of human nature? When a person gets more, he will begin to take it for granted, and the pleasure of achieving his goal will vanish. But a little loss will give it a sense of frustration, making him immediately afraid, as if afraid that everything he has will leave him immediately, which is simply waiting for the prelude to the end of the world. In fact, everything in the world is always in the cycle of interests. Winners and losers have very different endings because they look at gains and losses from different angles. Losers, as I said before, are no longer happy if they get more; If you lose something, you will feel sad and resentful, which is no different from raising slaves. Those who win, in turn, lose more, and if they lose again, they will regret it. If he gains something, he will be happy. This is the process that he knows how to cherish gains and losses, and he can see through the threshold between gains and losses.
Cherish the gains between gains and losses, ignore the lost gains, treat the right and wrong gains and losses sincerely, and don't worry about the loss is the source of happiness in life.