Being a man is measured, and if you grasp it properly, you are mature and educated, otherwise you are shallow and immature. It is naturally very particular to grasp the sense of proportion. I think it seems appropriate to handle the relationship between "big" and "small".

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"Less is not a gentleman, more is not a husband", "A general can walk on his forehead and a prime minister can punt on his stomach" all mean that people should be generous and not petty. Generosity, in the final analysis, is to tolerate others, their strengths and weaknesses. "The Warring States Policy" says: "People who have things to forget, people who cannot forget." When you get along with others, some people may offend you and oppose you. Those unpleasant things passed as soon as the wind blew and were forgotten. On the contrary, we should think more about the good of others and remember them for a long time. "The scenery should be long and the eyes should be wide", the heart should be wide and the eyes should be wide. The natural sky is high and the road is far. Generosity is not easy for everyone. "the bottom of my heart is selfless and broad." Only when a person thinks less about the small "I" and more about the big "I" can he have a big mind.

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"Mules and horses are valuable, but people are not." It's ugly, but it makes sense. The bigger the shelf you hold, the more you raise yourself and highlight yourself, and the more people look down on you. The ancients said, "If you have a threesome, you must have a teacher." Think of yourself as a student and others as teachers. This shelf is small, and this position is right. Dong said that he is a patch cloth and he can patch it anywhere as long as he needs it. Dong Lao is a big shot, but he thinks he is so "small" that people see his greatness. There is a saying that "humility is light". The more humble a person is, the more noble he appears. Look down on yourself, look down on others, and look up to others. Not only will you not lose your status, but you will win the respect of others.

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"Don't be a little good, don't be a little evil." It is said that people should accumulate small virtues and become great virtues, and abandon small evils to prevent great disasters. Pursuing noble morality and noble personality, people have a smooth career, a smooth career, a bumpy and difficult future and a mediocre and unknown life. In any case, one should be moral-oriented, stand at attention, be decent and be upright. Perseverance, adherence to morality and soul, value, and appreciation of the "atmosphere" of being a man.

You can be a big official, a big man and a rich man, but only when you become a great virtue at the same time can you stand tall and be respected in the world; There is no virtue in being an official, no quality in writing, no sense in doing business, and it is getting bigger and worse.

To be a person with high moral character and noble personality, you must take the road. What is a boulevard? Those who are on the road are on the right path. -Excerpt from Thinking and Wisdom