Cultural relativism and ethnocentrism are two sides of the same coin, which are both opposite and unified. In my opinion, there should be no opposition between them. The so-called opposition is only the opposition of content. Cultural relativism: it emphasizes the relativity and diversity of culture, or it does not look at different cultures from the standpoint of ethnocentrism, and regards each culture as a human choice. Ethnocentrism: A nation takes itself as the center of the world and discriminates against other nations, leading to ethnocentrism. The cultural strategy of realizing group identity by distinguishing "us" from "them" is realized at the expense of giving positive comments to one's own group and negative comments to other groups. Pushing Hands is a film that reflects the cultural inadaptability of Americanization in China. Mr. Zhu Lao, Mrs. Chen and Martha are all "severe patients" who are not adapted to culture. Culture can be said to be a collection of environments in which individuals live. Some behaviors and thoughts in a specific environment may not be understood in another environment. It is because of this incomprehension that these three major cultural misfits are in trouble. Mr. Zhu Lao and Mrs. Chen live a lonely life, and they can only find the microenvironment that can best restore China culture to improve and alleviate the symptoms of maladjustment; Martha is in a family composed of Chinese, in a small heterogeneous culture, which also causes Martha's inadaptability. The difference in cultural environment is an objective existence of historical development and cannot be avoided. The main contradiction of the characters in the film lies in the cultural differences between Martha and Mr. Zhu Lao. On the surface, this difference is caused by language barrier and lack of communication. I think ethnocentrism is at work in essence. Ethnocentrism is to promote oneself and suppress oneself. Both Mr. Zhu Lao and Mr. Martha feel that their culture has been suppressed, such as the argument about the proportion of meat and vegetables at the dinner table and the argument about children watching cartoons. Because of this mutual suppression and attack, the growth of ethnocentrism in their hearts has been accelerated. The growth of this ethnocentrism is ultimately that both of them refuse to compromise with each other. Mr. Zhu Lao chose to run away from home and escape from different cultures under the pretext of "being old, that's it"; Martha excused herself from leaving Zhu Xiao by saying, "I have tried my best". In the end, the film still didn't give us a perfect ending, and the existing problems remained unsolved. Faced with this contradiction of cultural differences, the film gives a compromise solution through the dialogue between Mr. Zhu Lao and Mrs. Chen. Ethnocentrism, in the eyes of some people, is a manifestation of the lack of cultural relativism, just as some people explain that cultural relativism "just doesn't hold such a nationalist position", and the two are a trade-off relationship. The most striking point of my article is that the two are unified, not contradictory. Ethnocentrism mainly plays the role of unity and cohesion within the culture, forming the concept of "we" (of course, it may also form the concept of "them"); Cultural relativism treats different cultures equally, and a correct understanding of "us" and "them" is one of the choices of human development. Ethnocentrism and cultural relativism are just like individualism and collectivism to some extent. "Individualism is conducive to the realization of individual interests and is the basis of collective interests. Collectivism must fully affirm individual interests in order to create value for the collective. " Between different cultures, we should make full use of some characteristics of ethnocentrism to do a good job in the construction and development of our own culture, but in the communication with other cultures, we should see the existence of cultural relativism and fully respect and understand the existence of heterogeneous cultures. If ethnocentrism and cultural relativism are put into interpersonal communication, we can obviously return to "being friendly and kind to others will never hinder personal development" Ethnocentrism and cultural relativism are theories that can better deal with the interaction between various cultures, groups and people in the world. The premise is to look at the relationship between them from the standpoint of cultural relativism. If we look at the value of nationalism, we will only see either/or, the arrogance of nationalism center and the confusion of cultural relativism. The above is my final composition question. Welcome to vomit.