Model essay on frustration education 1: On students' frustration education
Frustration refers to the obstacles and interference people encounter in the process of purposeful activities to achieve a certain goal, which makes their personal needs unsatisfied. Setbacks are inevitable. Students are the main body of our education, and they are the apple of their parents' eye at home. They have always been cared for by their parents and loved by their grandparents. With the development of social economy and the improvement of family living standards, modern students grow up in a very smooth environment and are soaked in honey water. Therefore, this generation of students are more likely to suffer setbacks in life and study. For them, when they encounter setbacks, they are often at a loss and often suffer heavy losses. After being frustrated, it is often manifested as: aggressive behavior, fleeing behavior, sloppy behavior, stubborn behavior, and various revenge behaviors. I think it is necessary to educate students about setbacks in primary school, so that they can know and understand setbacks. When educating students about setbacks, teachers should teach students to enhance their frustration ability, which is particularly important in mental health education.
Unfortunately, frustration education has not been valued by parents and teachers. Some teachers go to an extreme, that is, they use various means to scare and force students. The original intention is to arouse students' initiative, but it often turns into a blow to students' self-esteem. Frustration education is actually "anti-frustration education". Today, with the relative improvement of material conditions, frustration education may be more reflected in the cultivation of psychological quality.
Today, I will analyze the universality of mental health and the seriousness of the problem with you, in order to arouse the attention of the majority of educational peers to students' mental health. First of all, help students correctly understand setbacks and make them understand that setbacks are inevitable in life and study. For example, some students' exam results are not ideal, and they are criticized, resulting in negative emotions that they don't want to study; Some students are tired of learning because of the weak conditions of some courses. For example, in physical education class, some students are fat, have poor quality, have no self-confidence and are tired of learning. They don't want to play sports with everyone in the class. At this time, the teacher needs to pay more attention to her, guide her, discover her advantages with her classmates, encourage her, cheer her up, help him build up confidence and avoid "broken pots and broken falls". Tell him that setbacks are not terrible, and turn them into a driving force for progress. With the help of teachers and classmates, he finally made progress.
Secondly, consciously create frustration situations for students. In recent years, more and more people realize that it is necessary to create certain frustration situations for students as a way to hone them and get what they can't do. Our children are too fragile to stand a little setback now. The ancient method of "hanging the beam from the head and stabbing the stock with a cone" is worth learning. There are some frustrating situations,
Students will always get exercise. Is it not true that the Japanese advocate "hardship education"? It is an exercise to let children walk in shorts in winter. Of course, it is not to say that our classmates should do the same, but it is worth taking as a way of exercise and a means. In the usual education work, I consciously educate students. Consciously give students a little frustration in their usual study life, let them suffer a little and benefit for life.
Finally, let students treat setbacks correctly and understand that they will always encounter setbacks in the process of progress. Educate students to work hard when encountering setbacks, sum up experience in failures, take setbacks as the driving force, overcome many difficulties and achieve success. One of my former students, after entering primary school, usually studied hard and his parents had high expectations of him. I hope he can be admitted to a key middle school. To this end, he made efforts. However, the results of further studies are not ideal. From then on, he was devastated and very depressed. Seeing all this, I chatted with him and told him that failure is not terrible. We must bravely overcome setbacks and stand up. I told him the story of Liu Xiang and the story of Paul. After many heart-to-heart talks, he began to calmly analyze the reasons for his failure and cheer up. After entering middle school, through my own efforts, my academic performance has been among the best. Some students are competitive and want to be the first in everything. Such students are most vulnerable to setbacks.
I want to be an educator, how to educate students about psychological setbacks;
1. Create a relaxed and pleasant atmosphere and reduce the frustration factors.
Although minor and less setbacks have tempering effect on children's growth, they will do harm to children's self-esteem and self-confidence, which is negative and should be avoided by all means. Creating a relaxed and happy growth environment is the first condition to reduce setbacks, which requires educators to: (1) expect students to be realistic, and the requirements should not be too high or too strict; (2) full of love and warmth for students, without sarcasm or abuse; (3) Teachers should treat all kinds of students fairly.
2. Infiltrating frustration education in teaching, the key lies in how to treat setbacks correctly. Infiltrating ideals in teaching is beautiful, but realizing ideals is a long, tortuous and arduous education. Encourage students to have the courage to overcome difficulties, not afraid of difficulties and setbacks. For example, when teaching a text, use the content inside and outside the classroom to educate students: after Galileo questioned Aristotle's words, many people accused him of violating human truth and being bold. Galileo suffered great setbacks under heavy siege, but he pulled himself together and won through many experiments with his diligence and authority.
3 to carry out a variety of activities, in the activities of collective counseling.
(1) Carry out advantage inspiration activities to cultivate self-confidence. In the activity, other students found the advantages that they didn't find, and expanded the advantages as much as possible to make them shine. Cultivate self-confidence (2) Carry out accompanying activities with outstanding talents and set an example. Students like to imitate and are good at imitating. Once they have an example, they will imitate the behavior of the example, compare, find out the gap and make clear the direction of their efforts. Educate students with examples of typical figures who have become successful in setbacks in ancient and modern China and abroad, encourage students to cheer up in adversity, and turn pressure into motivation. The role model you choose must be convincing far and near. Beethoven, who suffered from deafness, worked hard and finally became a world-famous musician. Zhang Haidi overcame setbacks with tenacious perseverance, mastered many foreign languages, mastered a lot of medical knowledge, published many books, and made brilliant achievements in his career, which is a far-reaching example and shocked his heart. At the same time, many examples of overcoming setbacks in our lives are more vivid and instructive. For example, laid-off workers find their life coordinates again, and those who fail in the college entrance examination become self-taught and so on.
4. Strengthen psychological counseling and attach importance to individual education.
(1) Understand and trust students and eliminate opposing emotions. Objection is a kind of rebellious psychological reflection after students are frustrated. Teachers should improve their ideological understanding and strengthen their rationality through positive education and heart-to-heart talks. Because every teenager has strong self-esteem and self-motivation, and is eager to get respect, trust and encouragement from others, it is necessary to seek their opinions and safeguard their self-esteem when something happens; At the same time, I believe that students will make progress. We should create a relaxed and harmonious environment and eliminate opposing emotions. (2) Praise encourages students to eliminate inferiority. Teachers and parents should not be too eager to educate students, let alone criticize them in public. Instead, we should put forward goals and tasks in accordance with the principle of teaching students in accordance with their aptitude and step by step, so that students can always feel that they can jump and touch, let them experience the joy of success, enhance their confidence and perseverance, and eliminate their inferiority. At the same time, he is good at discovering the bright spots of students, and using the law of migration to transform students' achievements in A into confidence in B, that is, the so-called stones from other mountains can attack jade. (3) create a frustrating environment and hone your strong will. Without hard training, like flowers in a greenhouse, there is no exuberant vitality. The edge of the sword comes from sharpening, and the fragrance of plum blossoms comes from bitter cold. When designing educational activities, we should specially design some military training, cross-country and hiking projects, so that students can feel pain, hone their will and increase their ability. The same is true of subject teaching. When students are intoxicated with their achievements and get carried away, teachers can consciously design some difficult topics to give students a failure and let them hone their will in a depressed environment. Every student will encounter setbacks, which requires our teachers to give them appropriate guidance after they encounter setbacks. The road ahead is tortuous. As long as you find the right direction and persevere, you will succeed. Marx said,? There is no royal road to science, and only those who climb along steep mountain roads can hope to reach the peak of glory. ? I think this sentence will always push us forward.
In short, as teachers, only by paying attention to the psychological development of each student will our education become more and more distinctive.
On frustration education of middle school students.
Executive summary:
The journey of life will always encounter all kinds of bumps and setbacks. In the process of education, it is very necessary to educate the educated about setbacks. In real life, it is not uncommon for some children to run away from home or even commit suicide because of setbacks. The reason is that children's lives are too happy now. Many parents are afraid of their children's hard work and put them in honeypots for training, which is caused by being too spoiled and obedient to their children. It can be seen that it is particularly important for parents to re-examine the way of family education and pay attention to the frustration education for the next generation. Schools, families, teachers and parents should consciously strengthen students' frustration education, enhance their psychological endurance, and make students physically and mentally healthy and develop in an all-round way.
Keywords: frustration psychological education, tolerance and understanding
Text:
In today's urbanization and information society, parents' education for their children is very weak. Children's mental health problems are becoming more and more serious, and school education is becoming more and more difficult. As a parent and teacher, I am deeply aware of the importance of psychological education. Especially in difficulties and setbacks, it is the best university for growing children. If a child has not experienced difficulties and setbacks, he will not taste the joy of success, nor will he feel what happiness is without suffering.
Frustration education is a good medicine as the saying goes: Advice when you are unhappy is good for action, and medicine when you are in pain is good for illness. ? We should combine appreciation education with frustration education at the same time, so as not to make students deviate from the right track.
At present, the psychological problems of teenagers have become one of the focuses of attention from all walks of life. Many people have realized the importance of protecting the young minds of teenagers and are unwilling to hurt them. But as a person, he can't live in a vacuum, and his growth process can't be smooth sailing. He must go through ups and downs and setbacks. First of all, he must bear the criticism and education of his parents and teachers. If he can't stand the criticism and education of his parents and teachers, how can he accept the test of society? How to become a high-quality and useful talent? To this end, our education should do the following:
First of all, parents should take care of their children correctly.
You can't give him whatever he wants, and let him do whatever he wants. Even because of doting, you regard your child's shortcomings as advantages and nonsense as wisdom, and often consciously or unconsciously protect your child's shortcomings and mistakes. This is easy to form selfishness, willfulness and timidity, and the result can only make children lose the will to develop their lives. As parents, to achieve true love, we should not only show respect for children's personality, be willing to listen to children's opinions and meet their legitimate needs, but also be kind to children's unreasonable demands, patiently cultivate their civilized behavior, good moral character and living habits, never give in and give in unprincipled, and never let their children's wrong thoughts and behaviors. When my child was eight years old, she had an emergency at home. One day, I gave her ten yuan to make her breakfast. When I came home from school, I asked her what she ate in the morning and how she spent it. She can't answer my question. I severely criticized her children for spending money indiscriminately, and she also admitted her mistake. I never tolerate children's wrong behavior. Since then, she has developed a good habit of thrift.
Second, teachers should be clear about the purpose of criticism and pay attention to the art of criticism.
1, the fundamental purpose of our criticism of students is to alert students, overcome shortcomings, correct mistakes, educate and enlighten other students, let students distinguish right from wrong, distinguish beauty from ugliness, know good and evil, raise awareness, raise awareness, improve ideological quality, and become moral and cultured, so as to achieve the goal of * * * progress and * * improvement, just like the Czech Republic is great. People who make mistakes should be punished, but they are not punished because they made mistakes, but because they didn't make them again. ? Therefore, before criticizing and educating students, we should first understand the ins and outs of students' mistakes, make appropriate criticisms in line with reality, allow students to defend themselves, help students analyze the ideological roots of mistakes, recognize mistakes, point out ways to correct them, and inspire students to consciously correct them by putting facts and reasoning. At the same time, we should fully estimate the possible reaction of the criticized person and try our best to prevent the negative aspects of his reaction. Based on the desire to care, we should respect students' personality, encourage students to correct themselves, and strive for their collective support, so as to strengthen the role of critical education. Pay attention to students' future performance. If you are educated from criticism, you will be more sure and encouraged to make progress, so that students will make persistent efforts and form a virtuous circle. If you don't get education from it and your grades are not satisfactory, you should do patient and meticulous work, educate students to treat their shortcomings and mistakes correctly, don't be afraid of doctors, and don't lose confidence in making progress because of criticism.
2. Pay attention to the discretion of critical language. It varies from person to person, from time to time and from thing to thing. It is better to use positive, inspiring and enlightening words and sentences in students' education, and it is better not to use them or seldom to use them? No? 、? No? 、? Can't? 、? No? Such as negative language, is not conducive to maintaining students' enthusiasm and cultivating students' initiative and independence. Will. But? Change to? What if? . On several occasions, when I criticized students, I always followed the principle of praise before criticism. When I praised them, they all looked at me full of energy. But? At a turning point, when I want to criticize, the students are like deflated balls. I stopped at once. Students feel that the previous praise is insincere, a prelude to criticism, and will be disgusted after a long time? Will be understood by students as insincere, and later, I put? But? Change to? What if? , the effect is different.
3. Turn the questioning tone into a peaceful tone. Criticism with doubts often embarrasses students, who can only bite their lips and treat criticism as if they were on trial. When the question mark appears, the criticized person will instinctively develop psychological defense, refuse to accept critical education, and change idioms into calm sentences to eliminate the resistance of the criticized person. Teachers pay attention to the use of language when criticizing and educating students, and constantly improve the skills and abilities of denying, restraining and correcting students' wrong behaviors with language, so that students can receive education wholeheartedly.
4. Criticizing students should vary from person to person, from time to time, from place to place, and from thing to thing. For students who are good at thinking, introversion, self-esteem, mature in all aspects, and capable of thinking and accepting, it is advisable to question and criticize, put forward questions in a targeted manner, and pass critical information to them, so that they can think for themselves, know themselves, educate themselves and correct themselves; For students who are depressed, unresponsive and have poor grades despite their efforts, they should be particularly patient, avoid impatience, and point out more problems and ways to correct them. For students who have a bad temper and are easily influenced by emotions, they should be treated coldly, discussed, and so on.
Education without criticism is incomplete. We should combine the current education reform, try to explore the correct ways and means of critical education, and improve the artistry and effectiveness of critical education. Therefore, when educating students, teachers should have certain flexibility and mobility, be more rational and wise, fully affirm students' advantages, criticize and correct students' shortcomings at the same time, so that students can give full play to their advantages, accept criticism more convincingly and correct their own shortcomings. Teachers should treat children's growth process with appreciation, so that children can constantly improve themselves, learn to be human and learn to live.
Third, it is necessary to cultivate children's good ability to bear setbacks and cope with setbacks.
Madame Curie is the pride of women all over the world. She once said: I have never been lucky, and I never expect to be lucky in the future. My highest principle is: never give in to any difficulties! ? Her indomitable spirit in the face of setbacks and difficulties is really convincing. We should let children learn how to live in adversity and let them sharpen their strong will in a tough environment. See the light in the dark? Confidence and skill. As parents, we don't want our children to go through hardships. We always try our best to design a tomorrow full of smiling faces and flowers for our children. But life is ruthless. There may be thousands of sufferings waiting for your children. You don't let your child face misfortune, but these misfortunes will take the initiative to face him. As parents, we should let our children live in difficulties and setbacks. Only after experiencing the hardships of difficulties and setbacks will we have the confidence and endurance to overcome them. How to encourage when encountering difficulties and setbacks? Face it? Thus enhancing children's courage and confidence to overcome difficulties and setbacks. Only a firm belief is the basic condition for overcoming difficulties, so that children can learn to solve all kinds of setbacks that cannot be solved. For example, if they fail in the exam, they will have to work hard in the future; How to face it correctly if you are not admitted to the university; When you encounter difficulties that you can't solve even with your best efforts, talk to the closest person; If you encounter setbacks that can't be solved at that time, you must change opportunities or adjust your mood. So after encountering setbacks, don't panic and be helpless, but make the right choice and solve it in the best way.
Fourth, let children learn how to deal with setbacks.
1, to cultivate children's indomitable tenacity, parents should tell their children to take care of their bodies from an early age. What should I do if I get sick? You should be responsible for your own affairs. What if you lose it in the street?
2. Let children participate in more practical activities and taste the hardships; Always accompany children to climb mountains and travel far, broaden their horizons and hone their will.
Montessori, a child educator, said: Modern education is an education suitable for children, not an education suitable for children. ? The ancients said? Read thousands of books and take Wan Li Road. ? It is not enough to overcome the femininity of children at home. Get out. Martyrs Park, Zoo, Window of the World, Underwater World, Yuelu Mountain, Juvenile Hall, Kaihui's former residence, Ren's former residence, Nanjiao Park, Beijing Forbidden City, Great Wall, Hainan Island and Beidaihe all left their footprints.
Several rock climbs benefited her a lot. Especially when climbing the heroic slope of the Great Wall, she was deeply touched and wrote in her diary:? I want to thank my mother, who encouraged me; I am very grateful to Badaling for exercising me. I gained a lot from this trip to the Great Wall, honed my will and saw the most beautiful scenery of my motherland. ? The joy of success in her heart extends infinitely to exercise, and the child is strong; Strong will; There are many materials for composition; When I am not at home, I can take care of my parents. Her father and I are happy to see it in our eyes.
3, to cultivate children's will to overcome difficulties and setbacks, you can't give up halfway, for example, children pick apples under the tree, but they are too high to pick how to increase their height;
4. Cultivate children to learn to adjust their psychology. If you can't solve the difficulty, just let them go if you give up, right? Hit the wall and never look back? As the saying goes: failure is the mother of success? Children should be made to understand the truth.
Fifth, children should learn to love and cherish life after encountering great setbacks.
Nowadays, children's awareness of survival is very weak, and their parents should shoulder the responsibility of teaching their children to learn to survive. And let children know that their life is not entirely their own, not only their parents', but also the country and society. They should cherish, cherish, not self-mutilation, not self-mutilation, not suicide. My physical and mental health is not only a very important thing for myself, but also gratifying and pleasant for my parents and beneficial to society. On the contrary, my body and mind are unhealthy, my life is fragile and I feel pain and sadness all the time. My parents are also worried about myself, which will also increase the burden on society. I can't think that my life and death is a personal matter and has nothing to do with others. No child has the right and reason not to take care of his life, or even ruin it. If some children encounter great setbacks and psychological obstacles, it is extremely wrong to have suicidal thoughts and behaviors, but let the children understand whether setbacks can be exchanged for life. Obviously it is not desirable. Therefore, there is no reason to make such extreme suicidal behavior by educating children to cherish their lives that are not entirely their own.
Everything has two sides. Although setbacks make us uncomfortable and hinder our study and development, they are also valuable wealth in life and a necessary condition for promoting growth. Recognizing this, we will have the courage and confidence to face setbacks bravely. As the old saying goes, Jianfeng Bao comes from tempering, and plum blossom fragrance comes from bitter cold. If you don't freeze, you can't smell plum blossoms. A life without setbacks is a pale and illusory life. Without setbacks, there is no joy of success and happiness of life. Happiness is not a smooth and straight road, nor a carefree and luxurious life, but the fruitful results you have achieved by stepping on the peak under your feet with your tenacity and hard work after struggling to climb. No one can avoid setbacks. Frustration is a positive factor to promote the growth of middle school students. It can sharpen our will, enrich our experience and increase our ability.
Balzac said: Suffering is a stepping stone to life, wealth to the able and abyss to the weak. ? A person can't stand injustice, can't stand setbacks and is afraid of difficulties. It is impossible to face the fierce competition in the world. Which parent can guarantee that your child will not be frustrated all his life? For today's children, it is particularly important to cultivate the ability to endure hardships and not give in to setbacks. Our parents should try their best to cultivate their children's ability to resist setbacks, so that they can face any difficulties and setbacks calmly, remain optimistic, and strive to cultivate their resilience, endurance and resilience after setbacks. In order to better adapt to society, be a person who is beneficial to society.
References:
Mental Health Education of the Ministry of Education
Types and standards of students' common psychological problems
Identification and Treatment of Students' Common Psychological Problems