On the constituent materials of doting.
French educator Rousseau said:? Do you know how to make your child an unfortunate person? This method is to be obedient to him. ? Rousseau is talking about an irrational love between parents and their children.
I have seen such a cartoon, the title of which is "Loving Father", which left a deep impression on me. The content of this cartoon is like this: there is a loving father. In order to meet the requirements of children riding a wooden horse, he lay on the ground and let his son ride on his back. The child is holding a whip in the right middle and pulling the reins in the left hand, like a commander in chief. He waved a whip from time to time and smiled smugly. But his father, with a painful expression on his face, persisted in order to meet the children's requirements.
This loving father is typical of doting on children. The requirements for children cannot be met blindly. Only by distinguishing right from wrong can reasonable demands be met. If you make unreasonable demands, you should not agree.
In a piece of news, every time a college student eats an egg, it is after his mother peels it off. Once when he was eating in the school cafeteria, he ate an egg without peeling it. Also said:? What is the difference between this egg and the one at home? After reading this news, people will laugh at him for being too stupid, but this is the evil result of doting.
Hu Qin once said:? Overindulgence brings the child's callousness. ? It is parents' doting that teaches children selfishness and unfilial. It is the wish of many parents to expect their children to succeed and their daughters to succeed. But if we want to realize this wish, we must not spoil it too much. Only by letting children face setbacks correctly and constantly overcome suffering can they live independently and stand on this society.
Spoiled composition material II
In the dead of night, my son sat at his desk and kept writing. Guess what? What is the son's mother doing at the moment? Sleep? No. Watch TV? No. Knitting a sweater? Not exactly. She is now sitting at her son's feet and rubbing his feet. What a thought-provoking cartoon this is! Mothers want their children to succeed and only let them learn, not let them take care of their own lives and not let them learn life skills. Such a learning method is not desirable! ! !
Both parents want to give their children the greatest happiness. Therefore, the child is always protected by the whole, every requirement is met, and everything is done for him. However, spoiled children are not happy children. Spoiling is like a whirlpool, which makes children and parents get deeper and deeper. Get rid of it quickly!
As the only remaining fruit of the one-child family, everyone naturally put it down. If you leave it outside the door, you will be afraid of losing it. If you hold it in your hand, you will be afraid of breaking it. If you put it in your mouth, you will be afraid to melt it. Spoiling has become an inevitable social problem. The purpose of doting is naturally to turn the son into Jackie Chan and the daughter into a phoenix. Generally speaking, children with such a large family environment have their own personality weaknesses: self-centered and self-righteous at home; Selfish, do not know how to care and considerate others; Pursue enjoyment, not pain. Will not be modest and patient outside, not sociable; Encounter difficulties, setbacks and helplessness; The ability to adapt to the environment is poor, and the skills to live independently are low. As a successor who has suffered too many high hopes, he has lost too much friendship, childlike interest and childlike innocence since he was a child, and he has been aged and exhausted by various pressures wrapped in love.
In the past, people always attributed the root of drowning to the scarcity of resources. In fact, the mentality of parents is also a problem that cannot be ignored. I can't realize my wish, but can a pair of tender shoulders provoke it? The division of labor in modern society is becoming more and more detailed, all roads lead to Rome, and there are many roads to success. Why force children to squeeze into their own desires?
Spoiling children is often at the expense of depriving them of their innocence and childlike interest. Spoiling children often weakens their future life ability and life ability. I remember an article saying that Lenin fell to the ground while learning to walk. No matter how he cried, no one at home paid attention to him. He must be tired of crying and get up by himself. It seems incredible to our parents today! But it is this reluctance, embrace and cajoling that makes Lenin a great man with indomitable and strong will.
Clever parents, please take your child out of the honey pot, out of the greenhouse and out from under the egg wings. Give him a piece of sky, a piece of sunshine, and he will certainly grow up proudly for you in the tempering and beating of life! (article
Composition material about doting on San
Today, I was deeply touched to see such a cartoon in a cartoon called Little Tree Seedlings.
This cartoon depicts such a story with simple lines: hot summer, scorching sun. At this moment, Mother Tree thought, Look, this hot day has baked the earth red. Don't let my children get sunburned and get sick or something. So mother tree covered the sun with her lush crown, even though she was hot and sweaty. But she thought to herself, it is worthwhile for the child to thrive and grow into a towering tree. In late autumn, the cold wind is howling, and many birds have flown to the south for the winter. Soon they heard the roaring storm. Father Tree thought: Don't let my baby tree catch cold on such a cold day. If you are ill, you are in trouble. So, Father Tree resisted the pouring rain with his huge body. In this way, day after day, year after year, Father and Mother Tree have been protecting their children. Over time, Father Tree and Mother Tree were surprised to find that their children were still a small sapling, and they were extremely sad. I thought: why is this?
Yes, why? Why didn't the baby tree grow into a towering tree? Why didn't it grow into what they expected under the careful care of Father Tree and Mother Tree? Father and mother tree, don't you know this is a symbol of love? Spoiling will do us great harm. How can you grow into a towering tree by accommodating the baby tree in everything and not letting him suffer a little setback? I am lucky because my parents' love for me is true love.
In fact, at first, I didn't understand why my parents signed me up for so many extracurricular classes, such as electronic piano, mathematical olympiad writing and watching other people's children. Want the wind to get the wind, want the rain to get the rain, just clothes to reach out and eat! Now I understand, I really understand! Do you really love me and don't take me seriously? Little ancestor? Look at it, don't treat me like? Flowers in the greenhouse? Come here for a hug. I'm afraid that when I'm independent in the future, I'll always rely on you and I won't do anything myself. Here I want to say to you: Thank you? .
I thank you, thank you for your true love for me, and let me be? Cold plum struggling with winter; Seagulls flying on the sea; An eagle walking in the sky? . This should be a sentence: how can you see a rainbow without experiencing wind and rain!