In order to learn and really understand the application of growth thinking, I read this book, which introduces two kinds of thinking modes: fixed thinking mode and growth thinking mode, and reflects two basic mentality when dealing with success and failure, achievement and challenge. Only by looking at the problem with the correct thinking mode can we better realize our life and career goals.
Dwek reveals that we can make changes through our own thinking mode and cultivate our enthusiasm for learning in the simplest way. This book is divided into eight chapters, where you will see how the mode of thinking affects us in schools, sports, companies, interpersonal relationships and parents. You will see how the mode of thinking comes into being and how it changes.
What is a fixed mode of thinking? For example, I believe that my talent is immutable.
What is the growth mode of thinking? For example, your basic ability can be cultivated through hard work. Entering this mode of thinking is like entering a new world, a world where abilities can be changed, learning new knowledge and developing your talents.
Extract some well-understood golden sentences.
1. What is the first element of achievement? It is the persistent and persistent spirit of those who have growth thinking mode.
Even a genius can succeed through hard work. We appreciate talent, but we advocate hard work. No matter how strong your ability is, efforts can stimulate your ability and make you achieve ultimate success.
3. The peak is a place that many people with fixed thinking mode are eager to reach, but it is a by-product brought by the work passion of many people with growing thinking mode.
If one can learn something, so can others in the world, as long as they are provided with appropriate learning conditions in the past and now.
5. Fixed thinking patterns will limit people's achievements. It fills people's minds with disturbing information, makes people despise efforts, destroys learning strategies, and makes others become judges instead of our companions. Whether Darwin or ordinary college students want to achieve important achievements, they need clear focus, wholehearted efforts, endless strategies and study companions. This is what the growth thinking mode can give people, and it is also the reason why the growth thinking mode can help people develop their abilities and bear fruitful results.
6. Can anyone do whatever he wants? I'm not sure. But I think what we can agree on now is that people can do much more than you once thought.
7. Think about a time when others are better than you and you think they are smarter or more talented than you. Now think about this idea, they just used better learning skills, taught themselves more content, practiced more, and crossed obstacles. You can do the same if you want.
8. Grasping performance makes people rush to the peak and remain brilliant. No athlete with growth thinking thinks that he is special or should win by nature. They are hardworking athletes who know how to concentrate under pressure and can surpass their level when necessary.
9. What's the difference between a thriving company and other companies? The most important thing is to have a leader who can lead the company to Excellence under any circumstances. This kind of leader does not refer to those geniuses who are super-capable, charming, conceited and self-righteous, but refers to those who are modest, brave in asking questions, have the ability to face the cruel reality, stick to their beliefs and believe that they will succeed in the end.
10. When the leader of a company regards himself, not the current situation of the company, as the first priority of employees, then the company will definitely become mediocre or worse.
1 1. Welch Select employees: Choose employees according to their thinking mode rather than their background, and need employees who are passionate and eager for their work. A resume can't tell me what kind of desires these people have inside.
12, the most important quality of the company is development potential and passion, not excellent talents. Leaders with fixed thinking patterns are full of pain in the end, but leaders with growing thinking patterns are full of gratitude. They thanked their colleagues for making their wonderful journey possible. They called these colleagues real heroes.
13, group thinking means that people tend to be consistent in the process of group decision-making, and no one raises objections and adopts a critical attitude. This group thinking may lead to disastrous decisions. When people trust a talented leader and genius too much, group thinking may occur, such as the disastrous Bay of Pigs incident in the United States (the immature plan of the United States to invade Cuba and overthrow the Castro regime is caused by group thinking). British Prime Minister Churchill set up a special department to prevent such a thing from happening to himself. The job of this department is to report all the bad news about Churchill. Only in this way can Churchill know that he has not fallen into the illusion of security brought by group thinking.
14. Does your workplace encourage team thinking? If so, then the company's decision-making system is in trouble. Try to encourage employees to put forward different ideas and constructive criticism. Designate some people as their own opposites and let them raise objections to help you see your own loopholes. Let employees debate and discuss different aspects of a matter. Set up anonymous suggestion box to let employees participate in the decision-making process. Remember, people can work as a team while thinking independently. Help them do these two things.
15. What is the correct feedback in the workplace? Companies should not reward employees for a brilliant idea or clever behavior, but should reward them for their initiative, ability to solve difficult problems, continuous efforts to learn new skills, calm and accept criticism, and even reward them for their good work without frequent rewards.
16, it is necessary to establish an environment full of growth-oriented thinking mode so that people can grow up in it. This includes:
Let them know that their ability can be improved through learning;
Tell them that the most important thing for enterprises is learning ability and perseverance, not ready-made talents and talents;
Give feedback to employees, improve their enthusiasm for learning and make them more likely to succeed in the future;
Let employees know that managers can be their learning resources.
17, the company should be created as an enterprise that rewards the development of capabilities-then there will naturally be leaders.
18. Shy people with growth thinking mode regard this social occasion as a challenge. Even if they feel anxious, they will actively welcome this opportunity to meet new friends. Social skills can be improved, and social activities are used for learning and enjoying.
19, every relationship has many problems. Try to think from the perspective of growth thinking mode: problems can be a tool to promote mutual understanding and enhance intimacy. Ask your partner to disagree, listen carefully, and then discuss the problem patiently and sincerely. You may be surprised by the intimacy that this practice brings to the relationship between two people.
20. Slowly make yourself less likely to blame others. Don't always think about other people's mistakes and blame others.
2 1. Information about the failure. Elizabeth didn't win the floor exercise. What would you do if you were her parents?
You think she is the best: this statement is simply untrue. She is not the best-you know, she knows, it doesn't help her recovery and progress at all.
You think she has been treated unfairly: it's a way of blaming others. When the truth is that the problem lies in her performance rather than the referee, do you want her to be a person who likes to blame others for her shortcomings in the future?
Comfort her that gymnastics is not that important: this statement will teach her that it is right to belittle something when she can't do it well. Do you really want to tell her this?
She has the ability: this is probably the most dangerous piece of information. Is it ability that automatically leads you to success? If so, Elizabeth can't win this time. Why can she win next time?
Tell her she shouldn't have won in the first place: it's really cruel to say such things in this situation. Of course, you don't have to express it in such a straightforward way.
Growth-oriented way of thinking: "Elizabeth, I know how you feel. You put so much hope on the game and gave your best performance, but you still failed to win. You must be very disappointed. But you should know that you didn't put in 100% effort. There are many girls who practice gymnastics longer and harder than you. If this is what you really want, then you have to work hard for it. "
From the above examples, we can see that children need honest and constructive feedback. "Constructiveness" refers to helping children make up for something, create a better situation, or finish their work better.
22. Parents are sending messages to their children in every word and deed. How do we praise children? We can try to pay attention to the way they do things, the strategies they adopt, their efforts or choices.
As parents, teachers and coaches, our task is to help others develop their potential.
People with growth thinking mode will realize that if they want to succeed, they must learn some strategies that can help them and put them into practice. Take better study methods, carefully plan study time and keep learning motivation for a long time, and use all strategies to ensure your success.
25. The growth thinking mode has four steps: the first step is acceptance, the second step is observation, the third step is naming, and the fourth step is education.
26. The first step is to accept, that is, embrace your fixed thinking mode and accept it; The second step is to observe and clarify what motivates your fixed thinking mode. After finding the reason, don't rush to evaluate it, just observe it first. The third step is to name the personality with a fixed thinking mode. The fourth step is education, knowing the inducement, understanding the influence and having your own name. The next step is to educate it. In order to make growth thinking bear fruit, you also need to set goals-growth goals.
27. When considering how to spend the day, ask the following questions:
What opportunities do I have to learn and grow today? Where are the people around me?
(2) When, where and how will I start to implement this plan?
What else should I do to keep growing?