People with high emotional intelligence are not emotional. When encountering problems, they will rationally analyze the reasons and solve the problems as soon as possible, instead of complaining and accusing. Don't be controlled by negative emotions, lead all kinds of emotional problems to rational thinking, and improve your ideological realm with these new angles after reflection.

2. Understand other people's point of view

Man is an island. Everyone likes to express their opinions, but they may not be heard and understood by others. From different angles, people will have different views on this issue. Therefore, to handle a matter well, the most important thing is not to argue until you are red-faced, but to find a balance point of interests and achieve mutual benefit and win-win results.

3. I know enough

Some people are impatient and do or speak rashly, causing unnecessary trouble to themselves. If you know that you have such shortcomings, you should learn to reflect on yourself, know enough is enough, and then act rashly or speak.

For example, when you are angered by a person and suddenly have a strong impulse to hit the other person, remind yourself to calm down and you may avoid a conflict with irreparable consequences. Although self-control is easier said than done, it is a sign of a person's strong self-control and will benefit you for life.

4. Pay attention to others' reactions

When communicating with others, don't express your opinions blindly, but also be good at observing the other person's reaction to ensure that the other person can understand you. After all, the chicken told the duck that it was obviously not the duck's fault. Especially face-to-face communication, whether you can achieve the ideal communication effect depends to a great extent on whether your observation is meticulous and your speech actions are accurate.

5. Be good at changing the way of thinking.

"You can't stop a bird from landing on your head, but you can stop it from nesting on your head." When a person is in a negative situation, it is difficult to control his instinctive emotional reaction, but you can control what happens next. Learn to change your thinking mode. Don't dwell on negative emotions and complain about how unfair the situation is, but focus on the positive and decide what to do next.