The Analects of Confucius condensed Confucius' life sentiment and ideological essence, and influenced China society for more than two thousand years. The essence of The Analects of Confucius is to melt the essence of the size of the sky and the thickness of the earth into people's hearts, and heaven, earth and people will become a perfect whole, and the power of people will become extremely powerful. Even in today's society, we in China often say that favorable weather, favorable geographical location and harmonious people are the basis for our country's prosperity and success. Is this the inspiration of the essence of the Analects of Confucius to us modern people?
Today, China society has undergone earth-shaking changes. For modern people, can the ideas contained in The Analects of Confucius more than two thousand years ago still shine with wisdom? How can we use the wisdom of The Analects of Confucius to solve the impetuosity and boredom in our hearts? In the complicated interpersonal relationship of modern society, what kind of warm persuasion will The Analects give us? Yu Dan told us a lesson in The Analects: the way of heaven, earth and man.
As the saying goes, life is often unsatisfactory. So what kind of mentality should we adopt to treat life when there are shortcomings and dissatisfaction in life? Professor Yu Dan believes that one of the essences of The Analects is to tell us that the power of the mind is infinite! In fact, everyone's life will inevitably have some shortcomings and unsatisfactory places. If you magnify this regret and disappointment, you will live in the shadow forever. The power of this psychological suggestion will seriously affect your quality of life.
Yu Dan told several short stories. A girl died of a heart attack while her mother was treating her teeth, leaving a serious psychological shadow. Forty years later, before the dentist could treat her teeth, she died. And another girl who thinks she is poor and self-abased suddenly becomes a happy and proud little princess because of a headdress. There is also a Japanese tea master who has no martial arts. With his calm and brave heart, he defeated an arrogant Japanese ronin. These short stories tell us that maybe we can't change the shortcomings in life, and maybe we can't avoid the suffering in life. But if you treat the shortcomings and sufferings in your life with a different attitude, you will have a completely different life!
Experience from the Analects of Confucius (1) The Way of Heaven, Earth and Man
1, idealism and realism are our worlds.
2. The power of faith is enough to unite a country.
Our eyes look at the outside world too much and our hearts too little.
4. Be tolerant and leave yourself a vast sky.
5. Caring for others is kind; It is wisdom to know people and be good at their duties.
In modern society, facing the complicated and changeable social environment and all kinds of different people, we often feel powerless. In fact, as long as we have a calm heart and spiritual courage, we can become strong and show our courage. Can the Analects of Confucius, written more than 2,000 years ago, really untie the hearts of modern people?
Yu Dan told us the second lesson of The Analects: the way of the heart.
Meng Mu's Three Movements and Mencius' Sexual Consciousness
Mencius received an "excellent" childhood education when he was a child. Mencius' mother deeply realized the importance of "prenatal education". She said: "When I was pregnant with Mencius, wow, I didn't sit upright and eat well. It was also prenatal education."
Meng's mother used to live in the ghost village under Zou Maanshan, and there were graves everywhere. The children in the village chase and play with each other. Mencius also dug around with a small fire shovel to simulate the performance of building a tomb and burying a coffin, which was naturally lovely. His mother was unhappy, took this lively child, moved outside the wall of the farmer's market and rented a house.
So Mencius learned to behave like a businessman, bargaining, making noise and being very lively. Meng Mu was worried that his children would get into the habit of haggling over trifles, so he soon moved to a government public school.
Every day, there are a bunch of idiots here who learn to advance and retreat and play with bean festivals. Meng Mu uneasy heart finally settled down. My son can finally be full of "elegant charm, calm behavior" and "the ability to obey the rules."
This is the story of Meng Mu's three steps.
However, Meng Mu was too self-centered and deprived children of their innovative nature and talent prematurely.
The son educated by his mother inevitably lacks rebellious spirit and masculinity. When this filial, dignified and quiet child grows up, he will never be able to jump out of the conventional life thinking mode, and he also requires future people to be sheep like him.
Of course, Mencius once resisted in the process of growing up, but was suppressed by his mother. Mencius played truant, and Meng's mother was so angry that she smashed and smashed the sewing machine (the child stopped learning and the machine broke down), which scared Mencius to shrink his neck and hold his neck. Meng's mother scolded him for a long time, and I don't know if Meng Zi understands it. Mencius followed Nuo Nuo and agreed with trepidation. From then on, he lost his mind and finally became an excellent two-legged bookcase.
When Mencius was in his early twenties and his wings hardened, he went to the door of Confucius' grandson Zisi's students and studied for five years. He made rapid progress in learning morality and finally came in handy. Once, Mencius came into the bedroom, which surprised him. It turned out that his wife was trying on a topless cicada yarn, naked and facing the mirror. Mencius' daughter-in-law thought is quite trendy, thinking that wearing short, transparent and revealing fashion will definitely add some beauty and win her husband's praise. I don't know that Mencius' thought is extremely old and conservative. He said: "I swear by the reputation of Confucian disciples that I will never tolerate women topless." Say that finish, angrily turned and left, and went outdoors to suck his "noble spirit".
His wife was in a hurry and asked for a divorce. She said to Meng Mu, "Today, I have nothing to do at home. I wore a casual dress in my room. I didn't expect my husband to be very unhappy. How can I get along in the future? " ? I'd better go back to my family! "
Meng Mu also felt that Mencius was possessed. He scolded Mencius and said, "According to etiquette, you should ask who is inside when you enter the door to remind others; When pushing open the inner door, look down to avoid invading others' privacy. You don't understand this, it depends on others! "
Mencius snorted and pretended to admit his mistake.
Meng's mother must regret how to educate her children into such a nerd with rigid brains and no parental approval, and her sexual consciousness is completely gone. (In fact, it is the bitter fruit planted by Meng Mu himself)
The road to the soul
1, be a brave man
Use the power of your life to resolve the regrets in life.
2. Courage without moral constraints
Is the biggest disaster in the world.
3. Courage is sometimes a kind of calmness and self-confidence under rational constraints.
Only those with virtue and benevolence are truly brave.
The pride of a gentleman is the inner strength of character.
Experience from The Analects of Confucius (3) The way of life.
The relationship between people in modern society can be said to be closer or farther, but in any case, interpersonal relationship is a problem that everyone must face. We often have such confusion in our lives. Parents take good care of their children. Why do children resent it? Close friends, why do you hurt each other? I try my best to make friends with leaders and colleagues. Why do you always have to be kind? The Analects of Confucius warns us to keep a certain distance from our friends and leaders, and to master intimacy. So, can you be intimate with your closest family? Do parents and children, lovers and lovers also need to keep a proper distance? Should we be more enthusiastic about our work? Whether it's our own job or extra work, shouldn't we do as much as possible?
The reason why The Analects of Confucius has been circulated for more than two thousand years lies in its understanding of the most basic essence of human heart. So in modern life, how should we grasp the discretion in dealing with people? How can we maintain good interpersonal relationships in a complex social environment?
The relationship between people in modern society can be said to be closer or farther, but in any case, interpersonal relationship is a problem that everyone must face. We often have such confusion in our lives. Parents take good care of their children. Why do children resent it? Close friends, why do you hurt each other? I try my best to make friends with leaders and colleagues. Why do you always have to be kind? The Analects of Confucius warns us to keep a certain distance from our friends and leaders, and to master intimacy. So, can you be intimate with your closest family? Do parents and children, lovers and lovers also need to keep a proper distance? Should we be more enthusiastic about our work? Whether it's part-time or overtime, shouldn't it be done as much as possible?
Kong said to him: Too much is too late. In Confucius' view, doing things too much has the same effect as doing things badly. We often hear people complain about social injustice and difficulties in life. Professor Yu Dan of Beijing Normal University believes that instead of complaining about heaven and worrying about people, it is better to respect and introspect. If you can really grasp the sense of proportion, be cautious in words and deeds, reciprocate, cultivate one's morality and cultivate one's character, you will have less troubles and naturally know how to be a man.
philosophy of life
1, life is limited
Put limited feelings
Stay where you belong.
Place of use
2, the most suitable distance is
Don't hurt each other
Keep warm.
3. Distance and independence are
respect one's dignity
Between the closest people
It should also be maintained.
4. I want to see more.
Less blame
Complain less
Less regret
Experience from the Analects of Confucius (IV) The Way of a Gentleman
When Confucius educates his disciples, he often distinguishes right from wrong by distinguishing villains from gentlemen. So what is a gentleman, what is a villain, and what is the difference between a gentleman and a villain? "Gentleman" is the ideal personality standard in Confucius' mind. In the Analects of Confucius with just over 20,000 words, the word "gentleman" appeared 100 times. And the corresponding is "little people." Confucius said, "Be open-minded, a petty man is anxious and worried.." An upright man is open and poised is open-minded, but the villain is often worried and afraid. Even today, people still want to be a gentleman rather than a villain. So, how can we become a gentleman instead of a villain? What are gentlemen and villains in Confucius' eyes?
When Confucius educates his disciples, he often distinguishes right from wrong by distinguishing villains from gentlemen. So what is a gentleman, what is a villain, and what is the difference between a gentleman and a villain?
"Gentleman" is the ideal personality standard in Confucius' mind. In the Analects of Confucius with just over 20,000 words, the word "gentleman" appeared 100 times. And the corresponding is "little people." Confucius said, "Be open-minded, a petty man is anxious and worried.." An upright man is open and poised is open-minded, but the villain is often worried and afraid.
Even today, people still want to be a gentleman rather than a villain. So, how can we become a gentleman instead of a villain? What are gentlemen and villains in Confucius' eyes?
Yu Dan told us: In Confucius' view, a gentleman is called "harmony without difference" and a villain is called "harmony without harmony". For example, if we argue together, we can't all agree. A gentleman can communicate peacefully with everyone, but he will stick to his own point of view and he will not disagree with others. A villain has no opinion, and what others say seems to be right, but he often fights with others. This is called disagreement. A gentleman is good, it is difficult for you to please him, but he knows people accurately and can measure talents. It is difficult for a villain to do things, but you can please him easily, but he often complains.
Yu Dan thinks this phenomenon described by Confucius is far away? This is definitely not an ancient thing. In fact, all these phenomena often appear around us today. If you want to understand this standard, you will find that Confucius gave us a standard to test our character. Confucius also said that a gentleman has three precepts: less precepts, middle precepts and old precepts. Why do teenagers "abstain from color"? Why should people "quit fighting" when they reach middle age? What does "abstinence" mean in old age? In this lecture, Professor Yu Dan will explain in detail the contents of these three commandments and their important influence on life.
Experience from The Analects of Confucius (5) Ways to make friends
People often say, "Depend on your parents at home and your friends when you go out." Friends are very important in people's social environment. We all know the saying: "Birds of a feather flock together, and people are divided into groups". Friends are our best environment, you can see your own shadow from him, that is to say, what kind of friends you make, what kind of person you will become. Professor Yu Dan told us that the Analects of Confucius has very clear criteria for making friends, saying that a person's friends are three friends who have benefited and three friends who have lost. There are three kinds of good friends and three kinds of bad friends. What is a good friend? Tell your friends to be honest, forgive them and listen to their opinions. Being honest, tolerant, forgiving and knowledgeable. These three are good friends.
People often say, "Depend on your parents at home and your friends when you go out." Friends are very important in people's social environment. We all know the saying: "Birds of a feather flock together, and people are divided into groups". Friends are our best environment, you can see your own shadow from him, that is to say, what kind of friends you make, what kind of person you will become. Professor Yu Dan told us that the Analects of Confucius has very clear criteria for making friends, saying that a person's friends are three friends who have benefited and three friends who have lost. There are three kinds of good friends and three kinds of bad friends. What is a good friend? Tell your friends to be honest, forgive them and listen to their opinions. Being honest, tolerant, forgiving and knowledgeable. These three are good friends.
But there are three kinds of bad friends. This is called the loss of three friends, as the saying goes: "Friends are easy to break, friends are soft, and friends are easy to lose." A friend is a friend who has a particularly bad temper and explodes when he gets angry. It's impossible to be soft-handed, especially indecisive, thinking about something. You wait and see, waiting for the opportunity to pass. There is a special metaphor in South Korea, saying that opportunity looks strange. Its front face is covered with hair and the back of its head is bald, so you will never see who it is when you meet it head-on, until you know who it is and reach for it, it has no hair. Therefore, people who are too indecisive are not good friends. Third, this is the worst character, and friends are the kind of people who flatter and are cunning. In this world, such a small person will do whatever it takes to achieve his personal goals. You must never pay such a person. On the surface, he gave you an official position and some ill-gotten gains, but your future is full of thorns. With this,
So how do we distinguish good friends from bad friends? What kind of influence will good friends and bad friends have on our life and career?
The art of making friends
Beneficiaries have three friends: honest friends, tolerant friends and knowledgeable friends.
Friends who have lost three friends: withdrawn friends (overly irritable friends)
Friendly and soft (an indecisive friend)
Friends are friends (friends with ulterior motives)
Three psychological principles of making friends:
Don't grab the words.
There is nothing to say.
Don't close your eyes and talk nonsense.
art of making friends
1, excessive criticism
The power of tolerance.
More durable
2. Make friends with happy people
Be able to enjoy life
Friends who live in poverty and happiness.
Step 3 replace
Fight with others
unequal to
Struggle with one's own abilities
Three obstacles in life:
The juvenile ring is colored.
Middle-aged abstinence is fighting.
It's good to say goodbye to the old and welcome the new.
Experience from The Analects of Confucius (6) Ideal Way
Almost everyone has an ideal in his heart, but it can be big or small. Perhaps the ideal lies in his official career, what level of official he wants to be, his occupation, what kind of person he wants to be, and even some ideals lie in money and status, being a big boss, living in a big house, driving a limousine, and so on. And this ideal is the driving force and direction of a person's struggle. So what is the ideal standard in The Analects? Namely: cultivate one's morality, keep one's family in order, govern the country and level the world, which are the traditional moral ideals of China people.
Confucius said: people can't seize the ambition. A person with ideals and ambitions will have the motivation to struggle and the direction of progress. When Confucius talked about ideals with students in The Analects of Confucius, he did not think that the higher the ambition, the better. What really matters is a person's inner strength and belief. Professor Yu Dan believes that no matter how big or small your ideal is, the basis for realizing all your ideals lies in finding your true feelings. A person's inner feelings are always more important than external performance. Each of us has our own ideals, but when we pursue our ideals in our busy work, we often ignore our inner feelings. What is the relationship between a person's inner feelings and the ideals we pursue? In the fierce competition of modern life, can we still pay attention to our hearts?
Yu Dan believes that whether a person can achieve something depends not on how high a goal he has set for himself, but on whether he can have a calm idea and grasp himself. Ideal is not necessarily a recognized power or money, but what one cares most about in his life, and it is a spiritual sustenance. But why do people always pursue an ideal? What kind of influence can the ideal road bring to our lives? How should we understand the meaning of ideal today? What advice and persuasion are there about ideals in The Analects of Confucius? In the competitive modern society, is there a contradiction between Kong's viewpoint and modern people's pursuit of ideals?
Experience from The Analects of Confucius (7) The Way of Life
Confucius once said that my life can be roughly summarized into several stages. At the earliest, I began to learn from others. "I have five out of ten to learn to govern the country." At the age of 65, 438+05, I started naive learning, and then "I stood at the age of 30, I was not confused at the age of 40, I knew my destiny at the age of 50, I was obedient at the age of 60, and I didn't want to be afraid at the age of 70." This is a description of his life. Yu Dan, a professor at Beijing Normal University, believes that, in fact, the life of each of us is just a period of time borrowed from the years. What do you think of this period of time? Finally, your name was engraved on the epitaph. This period of time has been given a person's meaning. From the beginning of study, everyone is basically the same at this starting point, but after that, from the age of 30, the differences between everyone are worlds apart.
Everyone's life is just a period of time borrowed from the years, and your life is what you make it look like. Confucius summed up his life as: "I'm five times out of ten, but I'm good at learning, standing at thirty, not confused at forty, knowing my destiny at fifty, listening to my ears at sixty, and doing what I want at seventy, not exceeding the limit." So what is "thirty years old"? Where is the "forty not confused"? What is the destiny in Fifty Fates? What is "obeying at sixty"? Is the so-called "seventy from the heart, not exceeding the moment" the highest realm of life? What is the significance of Confucius' division of life stages to us modern people? Can we really understand the meaning of this?
Standing at thirty is the most familiar sentence. Almost every young man will ask himself at the age of 30, have I stood up? So how can we stand up? Do we have to have a car and a house, or do we have any jobs? Standing at thirty and standing at forty is the best time in life. However, modern society is full of variables. Forty-year-olds are old and young, and the work pressure is very great. In such an environment, how can you not be confused?
Yu Dan believes that the coordinates of this life are representative, but they are not absolute. In fact, life has physiological age, psychological age and social age. A truly efficient life is to let us realize the realm of forty or fifty years old in advance, perhaps in our twenties or thirties. We don't have to wait until we are 70 years old to reach the highest level pursued by a living individual. What can we do to reach the highest level of life as soon as possible? Can we really understand the meaning of this?
It is precisely because there are few people who pursue the soul that there are so many troubles. Think about it carefully, troubles are actually the product of pursuing material desires. Yu Dan told us that after the age of 30, people should learn to subtract from life, subtract what we don't need, and move forward lightly!