Xiaoqi, a girl in 1994, graduated last year and works in the property customer service department of our company. She looks gentle and lovely, and she is a smart and aura girl. Very appreciated by the boss, so he was promoted to the head of customer service department in one year.
The main job is to manage and train the hospitality etiquette of the sales center attendants.
We have much contact with each other at work. She smiles at a blooming white orchid, which is bright and warm. Young people in our marketing department like to chat with her.
Last weekend, I was on duty and met Xiaoqi in the teahouse. Instead of calling me Sister Cat with a smile as before, she made coffee in the corner with a sullen face.
I walked up to her and saw the tears in her eyes. I patted her on the shoulder and asked what was wrong.
She said that I have been thinking a lot about my work recently, and I am very entangled. I can't sleep well at night, so I can't lift my mental work. I can only drink coffee in the afternoon to refresh myself.
I said, work is for a better life, just be happy.
Hey, by the way, Sister Cat, do you think I can do marketing planning? What skills are needed for planning? I feel that the planning is better, the technology content is high, and the development prospect is broad.
I looked at her innocent eyes and said with a smile that every profession has its own characteristics, and marketing planning tests comprehensive ability.
But you are so young and so smart. Of course, you can do planning work. Then I told her the basic content of the planning work.
Xiaoqi, listen carefully. After listening, she said, I feel so difficult, but I can't do anything. Can I really do it?
Everyone starts from scratch, take your time, I said.
Xiaoqi told me what happened to her recently.
Recently, she has been thinking about what career she will do in the future and which career is more suitable for her. Everyone says that choosing is very important for the industry, but she is not satisfied with her present job because she can't see the development prospect.
She saw that human resources, designers, planners and many other jobs felt better than her own, but she didn't know how to start. Thinking about what kind of job to choose every day can better face the future, which is a headache.
I am surprised, because at this age, Xiaoqi is engaged in property management with a team of more than a dozen people. She has a strong sense of responsibility and is positive, like a little sun. How can there be such confusion and entanglement?
I summed up the problems that Xiaoqi is facing at present.
First, I don't like what I'm doing now. I don't see the prospect of development in the industry.
Second, I am at leisure at present, and I panic at the thought of the future. I chose comfort when I felt I should struggle.
Third, I want to change careers. I have no experience. I am also worried that it will not be as good as it is now after changing industries.
After all, for her who has just graduated for more than a year, the treatment and position are still ok, at least compared with her classmates who graduated in the same period.
She is struggling with what she should do in the future.
Dissatisfied with the status quo, afraid of the future. Spend a lot of time thinking, confused, confused and tangled. The whole person is also gloomy.
Xiaoqi frowned and told me how to move the chess pieces in the "future" step, so we must be careful.
Looking at her frown, I remembered that when I first worked, I was as tangled and helpless as Xiaoqi.
I majored in advertising design. I graduated from two ordinary universities in second-tier cities. Compared with the key institutions of 2 1 1 985, I am not competitive at all.
When I was at school, I thought designers were a very awesome profession. Only after graduation did I know that most graphic designers have become drawing tools. Behind every work, there is an awesome Party A who points the way. He was in high spirits and scolded Fang Qiu, and the background color turned red for me. Hey, that border is really ugly. Change it for me.
Then I began to wonder whether I should stay in the design industry for a long time.
When I was an intern, I was in a newly established real estate agency, and I was still in the early stage of no business.
In fact, my job is to design business cards or leaflets for potential customers. I am the only designer in the company, and I don't need a post.
We had almost no clients, and after two months, I found that my work had no substance at all. I'm beginning to get confused. Work is very leisurely, and there is no sense of existence.
I want to change my job, but my mind is blank. Two months after graduation, I still don't know anything, have no experience and ability. You may not find a job with the same salary after resigning.
But if you don't resign, you always feel that you haven't made progress, because you are very free and spend a lot of time doing administrative work.
I don't know what career planning is and what I can do in the future. But I always feel that this will delay myself.
I just want to have a good future, because I have no ability, which is typical.
My predecessor told me that if I want to stay in the design industry, I must quit my job and work for a 4a advertising company.
Rack one's brains every day thinking about whether or not to resign, how to resign, what should I do if I have no money to pay the rent after resigning, and what should I do if I have no money to buy new clothes? What if the job you are looking for is not as good as the current salary? What if I don't get promoted in a few years? What should I do if I can't afford a house with less salary? What if life is much worse than friends?
All kinds of confusion, all kinds of hesitation, all kinds of entanglements.
I felt particularly stressed at that time. I think the quality of a job can determine my future, so I can't make mistakes.
What happened afterwards? I still quit my job and submitted a lot of resumes, but I still didn't get a four-a job. In the end, I didn't do long-term tangled design work, but silently made real estate planning.
Looking back now, I found that most of the things that were entangled before did not happen, and that small part of it was spent peacefully when it happened.
Everyone's experience is unique and cannot be copied. I don't know how to comfort Xiao Qi. With my shallow experience, I can't answer her tangled questions.
But I know very well that I have been obsessed with the future. Entanglement can't solve any problems, and people who often entangle the future have no future.
We are still so young, we spend every time struggling, reading a book, writing an article, listening to music, watching a movie, traveling or learning a new skill. Constantly enrich yourself, expand your thinking in many different directions, broaden your horizons, improve your ability and enrich your heart. Self-confidence will naturally stop worrying about the future.
It's good to feel a little dull while watching Junichi Watanabe's Insensitivity recently.
Do a good job today, why think so much. Whether tomorrow is good or bad will be known the day after tomorrow.
Have a strong sense of dullness, do not dwell on the future, do not dwell on the past. The most important thing is to live in the present, do what you should do now and have a happy life.
Zeng Guofan said: the future is unpopular, then I didn't mix, and I didn't love in the past. In other words, I don't want to think about what will happen in the future. What I'm doing now won't make a mess. I can do whatever I want. When it is over, I will never miss it.
In this long river of life, we are all pawns crossing the river. Then focus on the current thing, be a chess piece with a strong sense of urgency, and strive to move forward. Whether it is sunny or stormy tomorrow!
Hey, girl, we are so young, do what we like and love the people we love. Regarding the future, don't meet, don't struggle, live in the present and cherish the good times!