It is lucky to have branches to rely on and have the confidence to carry them.

I once read a question on the Internet: "What is the sign of a person's maturity?"

A highly praised answer is: "less pretentious and more desperate."

Come to think of it, it is.

When we were young, we liked to exaggerate our grievances and longed for someone to understand us.

For the rest of our lives, we have become our own ferrymen, not crying or making trouble, and put all our emotions into silent mode.

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Exit blx.

In the TV series Anjia, Fang is a real estate agent.

In such a big city, she has no background and needs to support a large family, so she can only rely on herself all the way.

With excellent business ability, she became a store manager.

There is such a scene in the play that I feel very sad.

Fang took the old couple to see the house. Before and after running, he bought tea and water, but he was overwhelmed by various difficulties.

When they met for the second time, Fang took the old couple to sign the contract and took the initiative to hold an umbrella for the old couple when they got off the bus.

But before her hand left the door, the customer closed the door.

Her hand was bleeding from the car door, and the pain was unbearable, but she didn't complain.

When the two old people saw this, they not only didn't care and apologize, but impatiently urged:

"Hurry up, we are pressed for time. You are so young, but so slow. We old people are waiting for you!"

If you are an ordinary person, you may have collapsed inside.

The room was like a brocade, but with pain and a smile, they completed the formalities.

Back in the store, she raised her hand wrapped in gauze and calmly said to the clerk:

"The customer smashed the door in my hand and didn't even have a word of comfort. In the eyes of customers, we are just tools for them to find a house. They think we won't get hurt, we won't starve, and we won't even have flesh and blood. "

In short, transparency is distressing.

In real life, everyone has to bear a lot of grievances.

Perhaps it was made difficult by customers, squeezed out by colleagues, or made a lot of efforts, but it was still criticized and questioned.

When we are in high spirits, we may have the confidence to leave.

But at a certain age, you can only silently sort out your emotions and clean up all the pieces.

Because we know that no one's life is not hard, and no one has the obligation to understand our sadness.

In an adult's life, it is not full of worries and grievances, but pretending to be innocent and facing all difficulties alone.

In the repeated polishing of life, turning your blx into a diamond heart is the only way for a person to mature.

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Give up the desire to speak

Have you ever had such a time?

When you encounter a little frustration or suffering, you can't help but want to talk to someone, hoping that someone can share your suffering.

Later, I found out that few people in this world can feel the same way with you.

Many times, those wounds that have been festering in our hearts for a long time are just dust brushed away by others.

Liu Zongyuan, a poet in the Tang Dynasty, was born in a rich family and became famous at a young age. He was in a high position before he was thirty.

When the scenery is good, the home is full of traffic and guests every day.

At that time, he wrote an article "Six Inverse Theories", trying to persuade Tang Shunzong, who was seriously ill, to succeed the Prince.

However, the "Yongzheng Revolution" failed completely, and Liu Zongyuan's life-long exile began.

In exile, he was acclimatized, all kinds of diseases were collected, and he soon became invisible.

Afraid of dying in this wasteland, he turned to everyone he knew for help, wrote letters to his former friends and told his tragic experiences.

However, I didn't get a word back.

The wedding is in the past, but it's too late today to avoid it.

There is a saying on the Internet that is very good:

Sometimes, you try your best to show others your wounds and tell them your experiences, in exchange for not understanding, but others' indifference.

Growth is an isolated process. You have to walk step by step and stutter.

In those days when nobody cares, you must swallow grievances and complaints.

When you go through all the hardships alone, you can always welcome your own smooth road.

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Quit dependence

There is a topic on Douban: At what moment did you realize that there was no one around you to rely on except yourself?

Some people say that in the year when I drifted to the North, most of my savings were cheated to rent a house, leaving less than 300 yuan on me.

I can only live in a crowded and dark basement, and it is difficult to turn over.

During that time, I worked as a part-time waiter, handed out leaflets and ate only one steamed stuffed bun every day, so I worked hard for a month.

In the most difficult time, I thought about telling my parents, but the thought that they would be too worried to sleep, I finally decided to report good news instead of bad news.

Some people say that my husband works more than 0/000 kilometers away from home, and I take care of two children at home alone.

One morning, Dabao had a fever, Bao Xiao was crying, and there was no one around to help him.

I don't trust Bao Xiao to stay at home, so I can only hold Bao Xiao and carry Dabao to the town hospital.

It's a few degrees below zero, and the cold wind hurts my whole face.

The next day, my husband called, and I held back my grievances and told him calmly: Everything is fine at home.

Others said: I was unfortunately laid off by the company last year because of the downturn in the industry.

My wife was pregnant at that time. Knowing the news, I was completely afraid to tell her.

I can only go out on time every day and pretend to go to work normally.

In fact, I found a park far from home and stayed for a whole day.

That week, I was frantically refreshing the recruitment website every day, but I sent resumes to all promising positions.

I have heard a saying: "On the road of life, it is lucky to have a branch to rely on, and being strong is emboldened."

When we are young, we always rely on the care of people around us. Even if the sky falls, someone will carry it for us.

With the growth of age, parents will get older, friends will gradually alienate, and partners will have their own difficulties.

No one can bear the heavy rain for you.

No amount of suffering can only be digested silently; No matter how hard and tired you are, you can only carry it alone.

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Mr. Ji Xianlin wrote in "Regret for the Past":

"On the road of life, everyone is a lonely passer-by. There are thousands of scenes in the world, with ups and downs. Others can't help except crossing by themselves. "

In the second half of life, all affectation is useless.

It's better to find someone else's shelter than to carry everything yourself.

Abandon the unnecessary blx, lose the habitual desire to speak, and quit the sense of dependence on the people around you.

When you learn to be independent, you will have the confidence to stand on the world.

Click a compliment, be a quiet person, and boil all the hardships into sweetness.