? In daily life, I have also heard some old people say that "a lonely living environment will inevitably lead to spiritual loneliness", and I have also seen some old people who have lost their spouses, and they have indeed not escaped the evolution from loneliness in life to spiritual loneliness, and passed away quickly and prematurely.
? In fact, the phenomenon of widowed elderly people is the normal natural development law of "birth, old age, illness and death". He and his wife were not born on the same day in the same year, nor could they die on the same day in the same year. Widowhood will happen sooner or later, which will bring great pain to the living party. Even if you have a very filial child to take care of you, it can't replace the company of a completely different wife. As the saying goes, "A room full of children is not as good as a half-assed couple". Therefore, the occurrence of widowhood will not only bring pain to the living elderly, but also cause the "bankruptcy" of a normal family, lose the normal living environment, disrupt the normal pace of life and change the normal psychological activities. Some elderly people are overwhelmed by this kind of pain, losing their self-control ability for this change and losing their direction for the next step. Stick to one day at a time, and spiritual loneliness will follow. Before long, they will be mentally exhausted and unwell. In a few years, they will be called away by their dead wives.
? I am an empty-nester who often appears in the cultural square of the community. I am nearly 80 years old, widowed 1 1 year, and live in a lonely living environment. I also found many old people like me dancing, singing, playing cards, playing chess, boxing and doing exercises happily in the square. I often hear them say, "I can't control my loneliness in life, but I can improve my spiritual loneliness by myself." They are broad-minded and far-sighted, controlling the pain after losing their spouses, overcoming one difficulty after another and spending one difficulty after another. In the lonely living environment, they are looking for fun and hobbies in life, looking for spiritual support and support, and living a lonely and spiritually enriched old age.
? When I lost my spouse, I really realized the pain brought by the law of natural development, and I really tasted the bitterness of the lonely living environment. But with the help of my children, I found a spiritual bosom friend who insisted on reading books and newspapers. Inspired by my partner, I have the idea of writing, and I want to leave my life experiences and experiences to my children. It is this belief that has enabled me to complete four memoirs with more than 300,000 words in just six or seven years. It is this belief that makes me pick up a frying spoon and improve my life; It is this belief that makes me walk out of the building, insist on sports activities and start to take care of myself; It is this belief that enriches the spiritual space in my lonely living environment; It is this belief that has made me spend eleven years in a lonely living environment, healthy, happy and full of spirit.
These eleven years have made me realize that the elderly living in a lonely environment must have the belief in life if they want to spend their spiritual loneliness.
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