In Caigen Tan, it is said that a gentleman should keep a small amount of dirt, and should not be pure and lonely. It means that a gentleman should be tolerant of vulgarity and generous in forgiving others, and never feel lonely because he thinks he is lofty and doesn't associate with anyone.
Ni Zan, a famous figure in the late Yuan Dynasty, was good at painting and versed in poetry. He was very clean. His Four Treasures of the Study is managed by a special person, and should be kept clean and tidy at all times.
There is a buttonwood tree in front of his yard. He asked his family to wash it with clean water twice a day, and the result was so tossed to death.
Zhang Shixin is the younger brother of Zhang Shicheng, the leader of the Anti-Yuan Rebel Army. He liked Ni Zan's paintings so much that he sent for them. But instead of painting, Ni Zan lost his temper and said, "Ni Zan can't be a painter of Wangmen." Let Zhang Shixin hate straight teeth.
One day, Zhang Shixin and a group of literati went boating in Taihu Lake. When the boat reached midstream, a strange smell came from a boat opposite. Zhang Shixin said, "If it is so extraordinary, there must be an elegant person among them." Then he ordered the boat to come and have a look.
Unexpectedly, it was Ni Zan who got on board. When Zhang Shixin saw Ni Zan, he was furious and drew his sword to kill him. After much persuasion, he replaced Ni Zan with a board. Ni Zan was badly beaten, but he didn't say a word.
Later, someone said to him, "It hurts, you should call!" " Maybe the person who hit it will be lighter. "But Ni Zan said," It's too vulgar to scream. Can I still call celebrities? "
As the ancients said, it is called cleanliness to be honest and secretive. However, some people are conceited, narcissistic and even just in the name of "lofty", and their inner cultivation and life realm are quite limited. In fact, a high-level person will never lack tolerance; A wise man will never be alone and let himself be inseparable.
Lofty, to a great extent, is a kind of meanness and disrespect for others; Bona, on the other hand, is a virtue and wisdom of being kind to others. Abandon lofty, in order to make your life by going up one flight of stairs!
Only those who can tolerate the world can be tolerated by the world.
Therefore, we stand in the world, when we have clear and inclusive elegance, when we have the mind of "carrying things with integrity".