But the word should be interpreted as wisdom at first. In life, kindness is the foundation, wisdom is the shield, and you can be kind to others and resist malice.
When I was young, I wandered in the society. Because I was not familiar with the world, I always wanted to be the first. Strive for achievements with your body and refute your mistakes with your breath.
These actions have brought me some small benefits, but they have also added many enemies to me. The job was quickly closed because it was squeezed out.
From then on, I began to sum up my mistakes. After reading some classic works about life, I finally understand that people who are really "good at calculation" often know these three ways of life, which are worth mastering.
"Laozi" has a cloud: "The husband does not dispute, and the world cannot compete with him." "indisputable" is an important part of Laozi's thought, which appeared eight times in the book Laozi with only 5,000 words.
Like Laozi's ideas of "softness" and "quietness", "no argument" is also the development of Laozi's ideas of "sex" and "inaction". It refers to not being competitive, not acting rashly, following the natural nature of things, taking "action", self-sufficiency and modesty.
When I was young, I didn't understand this truth. I think people's happiness is earned by themselves, so they act rashly, offend others everywhere, don't know how to converge, and are finally rejected by everyone.
I don't know. It's a better "struggle" not to argue with others.
Why not? Because everyone has their own self-esteem. When dealing with people, paying too much attention to your own interests and competitiveness will offend others' self-esteem and make enemies.
At this time, the best way is to take a step back, pay attention to making money with goodwill, satisfy each other's self-esteem and win the heart first, and the other party will naturally respect your idea.
For example, the story of Liuchi Lane:
During the reign of Emperor Kangxi in the Qing Dynasty, university students lived next door to the Wu family. At that time, the Wu family built a house and wanted to occupy the Zhang family's three feet of open space. Of course, the Zhang family refused, so they immediately built a wall and an area, and then a dispute occurred, which led to the government.
Because the two families are big families with deep backgrounds, the county magistrate dare not make a judgment easily, so he said that college students should make a decision.
Zhang Ying, a college student, saw the letter from her family and wrote a famous poem:
So, the Zhang family tore down the wall to make room for three feet. The Wu family was very moved and gave up three feet, and then formed the famous "six-foot alley", leaving a much-told story.
Zhang Ying's "indisputable" won the respect of the other side and contributed to the spread of a good reputation, which is much wiser than fighting for a broken head and losing both sides.
Seemingly uncontested with others, in fact, they just don't compete with others for petty profits, but they are uncontested with the world, and those who work hard seem uncontested. Our lives are the same. We should be modest, let go of what should be put down, don't show temporary ability, get along with others with harmony as the most important thing, and be a great soldier.
Laozi said: "People are born weak, but die strong. Everything is tender and crisp, and its death is withered. Therefore, the strong die and the weak live. "
It means that when a person is alive, his body is soft and elastic, and when he is dead, his body becomes stiff. Plants are soft and fragile when they are born, and dry when they die. Therefore, strength belongs to the property of death, and softness is the characteristic of life.
In fact, this sentence is not difficult to understand. As the saying goes, "when the water is full, it will overflow, and every month it will lose money." When a thing develops to the extreme, it will usher in decline, and the extremes will be reversed.
The same is true of treating people. The stronger a person is, the harder it is to get things done. Because others can't stand this strong attitude and feel offended, maybe this strong and tough attitude can get temporary results, but it can't last long.
Therefore, "Laozi" agreed to do things in a weak way. "Strong places, weak places." In other words, strong practices will lead to downward development of things, and weak practices will lead to upward development of things.
A strong and overbearing person will offend others. Even if his original intention is good, it is very likely that things will not be done.
But if a person is soft-hearted and shows weakness temporarily according to the needs of others, things will be handled more smoothly. This is the wisdom of strength and weakness.
It's best to be soft on the outside and hard on the inside. Flexibility is the way to do things, while rigidity represents the bottom line of principle. Therefore, weakness is not weakness, not blindly accommodating and giving in, but giving in within the scope of principle.
Let others feel that they are spring breeze in a soft way. As the saying goes, I can't see my fingers. We must understand that being soft on the outside and being strong on the inside can not only help people survive in the world, but also help bring peace and stability to the country.
"If you are straightforward, if you are smart, if you are arguing." -"Lao Zi" The above sentence means that true uprightness is like humility, true cleverness is like stupidity, and true eloquence is like dullness.
If a person wants to achieve something, he needs some calculations when interacting with others, but everyone prefers simplicity and frankness.
Therefore, if a person wants to be loved by people and realize his ambition, he needs to hide his scheming, learn to play the fool and be fully distracted, and show others with frankness.
At the end of the Yuan Dynasty, various rebel armies crusaded against the rulers of the Yuan Dynasty and rapidly expanded their power. At that time, Zhang Shicheng, Chen Youliang, Ming and other rebel leaders occupied Zhejiang, Sichuan and Huguang, calling themselves kings.
Only Zhu Yuanzhang continued to develop his power silently, and pursued the strategy of building a wall to accumulate grain and slowly becoming king. In the end, with this strategy, the Yuan Dynasty and all other competitors were defeated and the Ming Dynasty was established.
Zhu Yuanzhang's kung fu of "playing the fool and being fully distracted" is really great. Other forces did not regard him as an enemy, and even the Yuan Dynasty thought that Zhu Yuanzhang was not worth attacking.
Therefore, when others were attacking each other and wasting their military power, Zhu Yuanzhang quickly became strong. Others saw his threat, but they could no longer stop him from winning. This kind of behavior, there is a word to describe, called hide one's strength and bide one's time.
The above three points have positive reference significance for our life. When getting along with people, harmony is naturally more important; When dealing with affairs, it is natural to combine rigidity with softness; When the strength is weak but the heart is ambitious, it is natural to play the fool fully distracted, hide its strength and bide its time, and wait for the opportunity.
If you make good use of these three points, you can naturally live a harmonious and transparent life.
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