At the beginning of communication, the duration of emotional maintenance produced by dopamine depends on the stimulation brought by this hormone.
Women were initially attracted by men's face value, high-profile confession and some sweet words from men. It may also be because of the good feelings at first sight that two people can play together and attract each other, but it is not enough to "attract" for a longer time.
Emotional intelligence is high, and speaking is indeed an emotional advantage. There is not a girl who doesn't like sweet words, but speaks well. In fact, she can't even support her own life, and life can't go on happily.
There is a saying: "all the beautiful things are the same, and there is no interesting soul."
Most people think this sentence applies to women, but it also applies to men. If a man loses everything, he can't attract a woman for long.
We are tired because we often wander between persistence and giving up, indecisive.
Xue Rui and her boyfriend broke up in college, and some people who knew them felt sorry for them. But only Xue Rui knows that there is no coordination between two people.
Two people who became lovers in college are attracted to each other instead of pursuing each other. Xue Rui likes each other's carefulness and freedom, and chatting with him always makes him feel better. Boys like Xue Ruiwen's jade-like personality and his eyes full of tenderness and admiration.
After graduating from college, they chose to drift north together. It becomes less important to behave well in society on campus, and boys can resign freely if they are slightly unhappy in the company; Xue Rui is no longer as gentle as jade, but with the encouragement of the company, she has become results-oriented.
The gap between the two is getting bigger and bigger. Three years after graduation, Xue Rui has been paying attention to financial figures, hoping that the two can buy a 40-apartment in Hebei to pay the down payment; Boyfriend has changed countless jobs in three years, lost his job at home countless times, has zero deposit and a series of credit card deficits.
In the end, the relationship between the two people is white. Xue Rui said that he really thinks that boys are attractive and can attract himself. But with the pressure of life and their maturity, the other party stagnated and could not "attract" themselves for a long time.
It's not difficult to find an instant spark in feelings. The difficulty is that men can continue to "attract" girls, and these men often have these characteristics:
First of all, I am responsible, independent and can handle things.
Women want to find a man to rely on, which is related to the happiness of a woman's life. Therefore, a man with flexible mind, decisive action and decision-making ability will make women feel more secure.
The attraction of men to women is also largely reflected in their sense of responsibility and ability to handle things. Women get married to find a man who can fight life together. Who wants to find a "son" in love marriage?
No woman wants her other half to be a Ma Bao man, a weak man who can't express clearly. If this happens, she will have to bear the wind and rain in her marriage and resist the life and survival of another adult man.
Second, it has a certain social status and economic strength.
A person can be poor for a while, but not for life. You don't have to have a lot of money, but you always have the ability to support yourself and make yourself better off.
Although it is no longer the era of "marrying Han, dressing and eating" in the past, women have to shoulder the responsibility of supporting their families, but men with better economic quality are bound to be more secure in the scope and quality of marriage.
Economic ability and social status also affect your right to speak in the family. It is never too late to grow up.
Harvard has a famous theory: the difference between people lies in their leisure time, and the change of fate lies between 8 pm and 10. If you can spare two hours for reading, studying and thinking every night, you will see a different self in a few years.
Third, the three views are consistent, single-minded, and somewhat talented.
Personality and outlook on life determine the length of a relationship to a certain extent. If two people solve problems in two directions, then the friction in life is definitely increasing day by day. Don't expect anything to attract you when you are too tired.
Women like a warm man, but the key is that this man can't be a central air conditioner, only one woman can be warm. Only in this way can we have a lasting attraction to women, not just a temporary affection.
If this man can inadvertently reveal a little talent, women will be concerned and curious about this lover, and will be surprised at their good eyes and want to know more about the man in front of them.