Photo: Newspaper headlines-Young writers become unmarried mothers.
Voice-over: "Young writers become unmarried mothers"! From August 30th to September this year14th, Tianjin Daily reported a story for two weeks and fourteen days in a row.
Photo: newspaper
Moderator A Qiu: Pang Xiuyu! If you are not in Tianjin, it is hard for you to imagine the surprise you will get from hearing this name and seeing those titles. (Photo: Pang Xiuyu's photo with her children) Pang Xiuyu, an unmarried mother who is struggling for three children alone today. It was once the object of fanatical worship of many boys and girls in Tianjin. Pang Xiuyu, who published an article in the third grade of primary school,/kloc-published a personal anthology (the cover of the anthology) at the age of 0/4, and gave a report to primary and secondary school students everywhere in his teens. Ba Jin, the youngest member of Tianjin Writers Association, wrote to her, and Lei Jieqiong wrote an inscription for her, which was known as "prodigy and talented woman".
Photo: Pang Xiuyu and her children's difficult living environment and giving them water.
Pang Xiuyu: If many people feel sorry for me after reading the report, I thank them. They are all people who care about me, but we should also understand that writers are different from others, and a poet should be wary of prosperity. This is absolutely correct. If I had been paying attention to winning prizes everywhere and then kept walking on this road, I would definitely be sitting in a coffee shop and drinking elegant coffee now, but it's different now. This experience made me see the truth of life that a writer should see.
Photo: supplies and details of Pang Xiuyu's home.
Schreiber: This year, Pang Xiuyu is 26 years old. She lives with a 6-year-old son, five-year-old twin daughters and a sickly mother. The father of the child has long since disappeared. It is far from the urban area, and the monthly rent is 100 yuan.
Pang Xiuyu: Actually, I don't care much about my personal feelings and experiences. Now I hope my family can settle down as soon as possible so that I can start my professional writing as soon as possible. I have a lot to write down. The biggest trouble now is that we live in the same place and often change places, because our neighbors will definitely talk about it after living for a long time. I am a young girl, with my mother, and then I have three children. After a long time, you will gossip.
Moderator A Qiu: Young writer, unmarried mother, is associated with the word "Cheng Jing". I thought it was a little awkward. Seeing these pictures, I am also very emotional. From a young writer to an unmarried mother, how did fate accomplish such a very logical thing?
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Voice-over: (Pang Xiuyu)
At 1980, I came into this world with my mother's pain, and I will be greeted by the mental pain that accompanied my whole childhood.
All the memories of the 26-year-old girl's father are sealed. He grabbed his mother's hair and dragged it from the bed to the ground to be beaten. Sealed the blue left by the long sole of the little girl; Sealed the New Year's Eve, other people's homes are happy, and my family can still play, sealing the insults between relatives.
Moderator A Qiu: These are some words published by Pang Xiuyu on the Internet not long ago. These words are no longer as light as when she was a child. In these words similar to self-study, in her own words, they are familiar and old-fashioned stories that are almost boring: she was tired of fame and fortune and neglected her studies prematurely; The misfortune of my childhood family made me too eager for emotion.
Reporter: When you saw your father beating your mother, did it always have an impact on your later life?
Pang Xiuyu: That's for sure, far-reaching and significant. He even makes his family have a misunderstanding that this is something that family members do.
Reporter: When someone is at peace with you, do you believe it easily?
Pang Xiuyu: Yes. It gets stuck easily.
Reporter: You are involved in this relationship largely because of the lack of fatherly love at home?
Xiuyu: Yes, that's right. He and I know this best. Once I foolishly asked him if he could call him dad. My favorite food is shredded pork with fish flavor. Every time he goes to a restaurant, he will order this dish. To tell the truth, every time he orders this dish, his friends will laugh, but he will remember it every time. In fact, very few people at a table will eat it. He will accompany me for a few bites. I still thank him.
A Qiu, the host: The loneliness and sadness accumulated in my heart and nowhere to talk finally broke out in an encounter with a strange man. That strange, unexpected but long-awaited warmth made Pang Xiuyu trust everything without reservation.
Reporter: You have been in contact for so long that you don't even know your last name. What do you do?
Xiuyu: I know my last name.
Reporter: But you don't know what other information does.
Xiuyu: I don't know, it was very simple at that time. Maybe, until this lawsuit, the court took me to collect evidence. I was even more surprised than the judge when I got the evidence to tell me about my property.
Reporter: You knew nothing about him at that time. How can you entrust yourself to him?
Xiuyu: It's a misunderstanding, a misunderstanding of life. How can I put it? The general situation of girls is different, because when I was famous, many strangers cared about me, so I didn't have much preparedness in this respect. Until today, I may not have learned this very well, but I am still growing up slowly.
Moderator A Qiu: After her parents divorced, Pang Xiuyu, who dropped out of school, got a job as a waiter in a restaurant, where she met a gentle and decent middle-aged man who was 16 years older than her.
Voice-over: It is in this trusting, undefended and peaceful atmosphere that the cliches of the boss and the girl were staged after I drank too much wine. It is also accompanied by crying after waking up, as well as confusion, regret, shame and even death. Of course, the only thing that can calm everything down is Wang's promise to my marriage. But he has to go through the process of divorcing his wife first. I can't tell you how upset I am.
Reporter: Before that, you felt warm and beautiful?
Xiuyu: Warm and beautiful.
Reporter: Have you ever thought of another woman in a warm and beautiful time?
Xiuyu: I thought of it long ago, and that's why we broke up. Passivity is also a third party.
Reporter: Do you think this is a disgraceful name?
Xiuyu: No, but I hope everyone will not use the word mistress in the future.
Reporter: Is there a difference between the two?
Xiuyu: I think ordinary people know how big the difference is.
Reporter: What do you think?
Xiuyu: Most third parties may have feelings between two people, and keeping mistresses is often just a transaction.
Reporter: But all of them may lead to the same result.
Xiuyu: Not quite the same. On the contrary, most mistresses are at least rich, and that man is unlikely because there is no emotional input, most of them. So they are unlikely to affect the family, as long as he is smart enough, skilled enough, and the girl is obedient enough and honest enough. The third party is the hardest. He often has feelings, but they are deep and the biggest threat to marriage. But sometimes it's beautiful. It's often true feelings. You can't mix it with money or anything else that involves trading.
Reporter: But there is a boundary here. Doing it badly may lead to the same result, which may lead to injury.
Xiuyu: Right, so I can't think of any particularly good solution. I just hope that when we have a threesome, everyone will be kind and that man will be more responsible. It's best not to act rashly or play with fire without thinking about how not to hurt both sides. This game is not fun at all.
Reporter: Is this line so clear and easy to grasp?
Xiuyu: I think it depends more on the man in a threesome, right? Mainly him. Often the bottom line is in his hand.
Reporter: What about the other woman?
Xiuyu: Personally, I don't think there is such a thing as wild flowers to seduce him outside. If he is not a bee, then this wild flower has no effect on him at all. Maybe I was too arbitrary.
Reporter: How do the flowers outside keep control? Does she also need to grasp this boundary?
Xiuyu: I think it's best to let her know what kind of bees to look for if possible.
Reporter: Are people's feelings that clear?
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Reporter: Have you ever thought about exercising restraint in your feelings and avoiding such an outcome?
Xiuyu: Yes, many of them are, so I apologize. Whether I said I was cheated or not, I was selfish when I knew the truth. He promised to divorce me. After I hesitated, I thought I should let him leave and marry me. Like the father of the child, of course, it is even more wrong. His mistake should be the biggest.
A Qiu, the host: A young girl got pregnant unexpectedly while she was still watching the distant wedding! According to Pang Xiuyu, the father of the child was very excited when he saw the baby born, because people had no children in middle age. Since then, he has given Pang Xiuyu and his mother three or four thousand yuan a month to take care of them more meticulously, and promised Pang Xiuyu to get married as soon as possible. Who knows, the novelty of motherhood has not faded. Soon, when Pang Xiuyu felt unwell and went to the hospital, she was told that she was pregnant with twins for nearly four months. The doctor admitted that if she had an abortion, her body would be unbearable. ...
Documentary paragraph: the life of Pang Xiuyu and her children
Moderator A Qiu: Just when Pang Xiuyu thought that three children were enough to keep the man, the other party became preoccupied and seldom came to see her. Seeing that the child was going hungry soon, Pang Xiuyu thought of many ways: going to a man's company and going to court, but she just didn't dare to try to find a job herself.
Pang Xiuyu: It's not speculation or imagination, nor has it happened, but a scene that normal people can think of with their brains. You can imagine that you have such a colleague around you. Can you control yourself from talking about him and asking about him? That's impossible.
Reporter: Are you afraid of this?
Pang Xiuyu: Definitely, definitely afraid.
Reporter: Why not just laugh in the crowd?
Pang Xiuyu: This kind of harassment may not be as simple as whispering behind the backs of ordinary people. Almost face to face, all I can do is quit.
Reporter: This is just your imagination.
Xiuyu: Yes, that's right.
Reporter: Why do you imagine it will happen?
Pang Xiuyu: I already have this in the process of finding a lawyer.
Pang Xiuyu: To tell you the truth, in the process of hiring a lawyer in my capacity, I really felt a little unfriendly, just like putting a label on it. He thinks that a girl with your status will have a messy private life, and there are some lawyers, but of course there are few.
Reporter: Did he have such doubts at that time?
Pang Xiuyu: He didn't suspect harassment.
Reporter: What did he do?
Pang Xiuyu: Not much. He said I could help you. I don't even need your lawyer's fee. Stay with me. Therefore, I can imagine that if I go out to work like this, I will probably be worried by my colleagues and boss. Coupled with physical reasons, I have not been able to go out to work.
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Moderator A Qiu: From different perspectives, in 200 1 year, Pang Xiuyu won the monthly maintenance fee of 1200 yuan for the children. To the judge's surprise, Pang Xiuyu learned from the judge during the trial of this case that the father of the child is the boss of a company with 7 million assets.
In July this year, Pang Xiuyu, who has always avoided crowds, wrote an article entitled "How far is it from a famous writer in Tianjin to an unmarried mother" and published it on the Internet.
Reporter: Then why do you have the courage to write a letter to the newspaper and publish it online, so that more people can know that it will be more difficult for you in the future?
Xiuyu: Yes, because there is no livelihood, after transferring 7 million yuan there, there is almost no guarantee for this money, and there is no guarantee for the monthly living expenses.
Reporter: Can't you write it?
Xiuyu: Yes, but as you know, other places are not clear. Anyway, it is difficult for you to write a manuscript in China. It's hard to make a living simply by code words, and I'm not alone. This burden is too heavy.
Reporter: But is this what you are good at?
Xiuyu: Yes, that's right. Moreover, what I don't like most is that writing is associated with fame and fortune. He is not a tool for changing food. He is sacred in my mind, and he should play a certain social effect.
Reporter: But you have three children waiting for dinner?
Xiuyu: Yes.
Reporter: That is unwilling to give up the sacred ideal?
Xiuyu: Let's just say that if I write some books that may sell well from Pang Xiuyu's works, those works will be more difficult to accept than the true stories I tell today.
Reporter: What do you want to do after that?
Xiuyu: I don't know. If this case is really like what some people told me, even if the unjust case can't be turned over, I will ask for marriage, in other words, I will betray myself and my marriage. Don't look at me like that. You know, with such a heavy burden at home, it's really just an illusion that I can be worthy of myself no matter how good I am.
Documentary paragraph: Pang Xiuyu plays with children at home.
Moderator A Qiu: We finally asked Pang Xiuyu: If you had another chance to choose, what would you choose at that biggest turning point in your life? She didn't answer us directly, only said that she would definitely choose children! Such an answer is hard to understand. After experiencing all kinds of mental and physical pain, I should choose it! What makes Pang Xiuyu so obsessed with this pain and so eager to ignore it? Is it because a person with strong literary psychology naturally yearns for a complicated fate and a turbulent life? Or do you have more subtle and complicated feelings about that relationship? Or is it simply self-defense under strong character? What I still can't figure out is why a person who can't live without love has the idea of getting married in a hurry. Colleagues also told me that feeling when they came back. When listening to Pang Xiuyu's voice, sometimes they couldn't even tell whether this strange woman was using the writer's logic or the ordinary woman's life logic. She is very quiet, as if telling other people's stories. ...
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Pang Xiuyu: I don't particularly care about these things. Otherwise, I won't say that I am so confident and brave in front of others, even very happy, very happy and normal. I care more. I don't want more people to go through these things like me. I can resist, but not everyone can resist. This price almost ruined my life. In fact, most people can't resist such pressure now, which will ruin many people.
A Qiu, the host: Yes, we are surprised by this unusual calm, but maybe we should also feel a little gratified. In the final analysis, calmness is a kind of harvest, and it is the initiative won after a long period of passive life. Bless Pang Xiuyu, bless her children, and even bless her literary dream that she started very early. ...