On August 20, 2020, a video of a man holding a baby went viral on major networks. The baby in the video looks about 2 years old, being held high and thrown on the sofa, and the baby is crying.
The video caught the attention of the Public Security Bureau of Baoji City, Shaanxi Province, and immediately filed a case for investigation: after investigation, it was an unmarried male and female friend. Because of the contradiction in raising children, the opening scene took place, and the video shooter was the mother, which made people feel embarrassed. They haven't grown up, how can they be parents!
There is also news that a young mother took her son to the mall. When children are playing, they deliberately touch the young woman's body, even her thighs. After the mother found out, she not only refused to let the children apologize, but also said that others touched porcelain and hit others. There is no doubt that what this young mother has done has both positive and negative effects on "educating" her children. It is conceivable whether the three views of children are normal when they grow up.
These parents all have the characteristics of "giant baby" parents, and they are destroying our next generation.
The different ways of education between Chinese and foreign parents lead to a much higher proportion of "giant babies" parents in China than in foreign countries. The author roughly analyzed the following reasons.
The first reason is that parents' efforts make children lose the ability to live independently. In China tradition, parents should not only provide for their children, but also provide for their education, employment, marriage and even their grandchildren.
It is difficult for children to graduate from college, and I have to worry about their jobs. I broke my leg by going through the back door for my child's connections. After my children work, I want to find someone for them, build a house for them or invest in buying a house. After the children get married, my grandchildren are left unattended, so I have to take them.
It is in this cycle that China's parents repeat stories from generation to generation, which makes the endurance of modern children worse and worse. Once they encounter setbacks or blows, they will lose confidence and be full of negative energy.
According to media reports, a sophomore in north university of china, Shanxi Province committed suicide by jumping off a building after being found cheating in the exam by a teacher, and confiscated the test paper and informed the whole school. I sent a short message to my parents before jumping off the building, "Mom, I'm sorry, don't miss me, I don't deserve it."
Coincidentally, in July 20 12, a freshman girl from Gansu Agricultural University was also found to have cheated in the exam and jumped to her death. The occurrence of this series of events is really regrettable. Young and lively life withered, and college students were blessed by heaven. Then, under the arranged upbringing and education of parents, the psychological quality is extremely fragile. Flowers in a greenhouse will wither once they are placed outdoors in complicated conditions.
As an advanced animal, man is a complex emotional combination. The formation of independent personality is the evolution of long-term behavior habits.
Some people choose to escape in the face of difficulties. If they have the first time, they will have the second time. Over time, they will form a negative personality. Others ask their parents for help when they are in trouble, and their parents will help them for the second time. The domino effect formed by long-term accumulation will eventually destroy a person's basic will and courage to overcome difficulties.
There's an old saying in China that you can't be rich for three generations. Children don't understand the hardships of starting a business and squander their parents' wealth accumulation. After a long time, they will lose their savings at home and never start a business again.
The second reason is that parents put too much pressure on their children, and Chinese-style cramming education leads to insufficient adaptability of children. Parents often say: whose children are always the first in the exam, how sensible their children are, and your neighbor's eldest brother has been admitted to Tsinghua Peking University, and you will be admitted to Tsinghua Peking University in the future.
Many children in China have been living under high pressure. They have always been afraid to compare with other children. Although they are taken care of in life, they are extremely depressed and fragile in the center of reality. Too much pressure makes children lose their happy childhood and become quite normal and insecure. Once they encounter setbacks, negative thoughts immediately dominate their inner world and make actions that ordinary people cannot understand.
The third reason is the lack of social moral consciousness and selfish outlook on life. Now that the social economy is enlivened, some people get rich first. From then on, it should be time for the rich to take the rich first, but some people are arrogant and look very rich. Under the influence of such parents, future generations will also believe in money theory. Other officials, who were originally serving the people, put on official airs, and their behavior seriously affected the next generation.
On the night of 20 10, 10, 16, a black car knocked two girls several meters away in front of the supermarket in the new area of Hebei University, causing one girl to die and another girl to be seriously injured.
In the face of this tragic situation, the perpetrators not only refused to admit their mistakes, but spoke wildly and said, "Tell me if you have the ability, my father is Li Gang." Their arrogance is beyond words, and the second generation of officials has become a generation of derailed fathers. Although these children are hateful, the "baby-like" parents who raise their children have an unshirkable responsibility.
There are more and more old people, and it is only natural that children are old. No news reports? A Ding 'apo in Shanghai took the child who was gnawing at the old to court.
Ding Apo in the news is 82 years old and should have lived a happy old age. However, because my son has been gnawing at the old and suffering, the child got a master's degree in engineering from a university in Canada. Once proud of his parents, he never worked after graduation. Ding Apo was helpless and sued her son for not supporting the elderly. Later, my son refused to repent and scolded his old mother.
Not only ordinary people have the phenomenon of gnawing at the old, but also the descendants of celebrities. A few years ago, the grandson of a generation of literary master XXX carved words on the tombstone to insult his ancestors. Future generations' evaluation: only capital does not see culture. More rich second generation and official second generation will also destroy their parents' wealth and reputation, and more seriously, they will corrupt social values and moral values, mislead social value orientation, and cause distortion of social humanity.
Not long ago, it was reported that a college roommate poisoned his classmate, resulting in his death. This is for a little fame and self-esteem, regardless of the lives of others. This distortion of human nature has seriously caused social unrest.
In the west, parents and children are independent personalities, and children belong to nationals after birth. /kloc-After 0/8 years old, parents have no obligation to support them. Children abroad have been independent for a long time, and they are proud of it. The whole society has also formed an independent and self-reliant personality atmosphere. The school does not discriminate against those students who have difficulties in life, but only respects those who are self-reliant.
Western parents believe in children and attach importance to their personal cultivation. When a child falls, China's parents will immediately help him up, while foreign parents will not help him up, but encourage him to stand up by himself with encouraging eyes.
Parents of western children never force their children to succeed. They will not deliberately design their children's future, but let them develop freely. The focus of family education is to cultivate children's pioneering spirit and tenacious will, cultivate their ability to live independently, and let children do it themselves and share housework from an early age. In order to cultivate children's strong character, even in the cold winter, children will get up and deliver newspapers door to door.
Western parents attach great importance to emotional communication with their children and psychological quality education. Through entertainment and education, children are willing to regard their parents as partners and confidants, and parents and children share the joys and sorrows of life together. Children's minds have been trained, even if they encounter any big mistakes in their future growth, they will stand up and will not be intimidated by difficulties.
Let's compare our neighbor Japan: In June 20 17, a survey report on the results of a comparative study on the physical health of children and adolescents between China and Japan showed that Japanese adolescents of the same age were taller than Japan, and their basic education level was higher than that of Japan, but their etiquette level was much higher than that of China, and their public morality and collective consciousness were much higher than that of China.
Our country pays too little attention to the ideological and moral education of teenagers, focusing on exam-oriented education. In this way, our next generation will be at a disadvantage in the future world competition, which deserves our vigilance.
Fortunately, some parents in China have realized this problem. While cultivating children's learning, they also began to pay attention to cultivating children's strong character and comprehensive ability. Not only let children experience the hardships of life, but also pay more attention to the cultivation of children's collective consciousness.
Children belong not only to parents, but also to the country. "Giant Baby" parents are not only ruining our next generation, but also ruining the future of the country.
Liang Qichao's "On young chinese" mentioned: "The country is rich when young people are rich, the country is strong when young people are strong, the country is superior to Europe when young people are superior to Europe, and the country is superior to the land when young people are superior to the land". The future and hope of China lies in teenagers. We hope that China will have fewer "giant baby" parents and more enlightened and responsible parents, not only for ourselves, but also for the future of the country.
We hope that the future of China: the red sun rises, the avenue is bright, the dragon hides, and the scales fly. China needs a vibrant young generation in China, as well as enlightened and far-sighted parents.
Lu Xun said: If you don't break out in silence, you will perish in silence. We hope that parents who "hold their children in their hands and hold them in their mouths" will give up arranged education as soon as possible, so that their children can have more freedom and think more, and let them face difficulties independently, overcome difficulties and enjoy the joy of success. "Sunshine always comes after the storm", then our children can really grow up.