This may be the experience that most people have had:
We always have all kinds of worries and anxieties when we do things.
I am afraid that I can't do it, and I am afraid that others will question and deny it.
In the end, endless internal friction will drag us down completely.
But in fact everyone's energy is limited.
Instead of being tortured by mental internal friction, it is better to heal yourself with action.
The more you think, the more you will overdraw your mental and physical strength. The more you do, the more you can resist pressure and overcome difficulties.
The writer Uncle Nanchuan once told such a story.
He has a cousin who sent him a message one day saying that he wanted to apply for Huawei.
Uncle Nanchuan asked, "Have you started to submit your resume?"
My cousin faltered and replied, "Not yet. I haven't figured out which position to apply for. "
Uncle Nanchuan advised his cousin to look for some information on the internet first, see what jobs can be recruited, screen them one by one according to his own ability, and then make a comprehensive analysis.
After listening to this, my cousin nodded and said that he should study hard next.
But a week later, my cousin went to see him again.
It turned out that my cousin didn't apply because I heard that Huawei's interview was very strict and demanding. Even if he successfully passes the interview, it is difficult for him to adapt to the fierce internal competition.
Uncle Nanchuan asked him, "Tell me first, have you submitted your resume?"
Cousin replied: "Not yet. I'm not sure if I can do it. "
Uncle Nanchuan sighed after listening: "You haven't tried it at all, and you are scared by the imaginary difficulties."
Matsuura Yataro, a Japanese writer, once said, "Those who are often caught in anxiety and anxiety often have the bad habit of thinking too much."
The most difficult thing to overcome in doing one thing is not the difficulties you will encounter, but the difficulties you imagine.
I don't know if you have this feeling:
I want to go to the gym, but I think I will be very tired. The more I think about it, the more tired I get, so I won't go at all.
I want to study, but I think I will be sleepy. The more I think about it, the more sleepy I get. I'll just stop reading.
I want to write, but I think it is difficult. The more I think about it, the harder it is. I just stopped writing.
In the book "Running", there is a saying:
"People are like this. They think about it, hesitate to go, and feel that they are not ready and have not enough courage. In fact, as long as they take that step, they will find that everything is ready. "
Many times, what makes us tired is never unprepared, but too much anxiety and hesitation.
Thinking too much will not only consume more physical strength and energy, but also disintegrate your determination and willpower to do things.
Only by letting go of too much mental internal friction can we lose the heavy ideological burden and move forward lightly.
The philosopher Schopenhauer once said:
"One of the most special weaknesses of human nature is to care about what others think of you."
The more you care about the negative comments of others, the more you will lose the courage to move forward.
Only by letting go of excessive sensitivity can we reduce the burden on our hearts.
Japanese writer Junichi Watanabe once knew a very talented Mr. O.
This Mr. O is a newcomer in the literary world. He has published novels in literary magazines and has great potential in the future.
However, due to an ordinary rejection experience, his self-esteem was greatly hurt and he never recovered.
Junichi Watanabe called to comfort him and said, Don't worry.
He just replied weakly.
On another occasion, Junichi Watanabe visited him at his residence. He either scratched his head or sighed, and he had no desire and fighting spirit to create.
A few years later, Mr. O gradually ruined his future and completely disappeared in the literary world.
There is a saying in One Piece:
"The world is not in the hands of those mockers, but in the hands of those who can stand ridicule and criticism and keep moving forward."
Facing the doubts and disappointments of others:
If you are strong, it is your stepping stone.
If you are timid, it is a stumbling block to your progress. ?
The late architect I.M. Pei was appointed by the French President as the designer of the Louvre reconstruction project, but almost all French people opposed this decision.
Members of the design institute scoffed at I.M. Pei's design draft: "What the hell is this!"
He was walking in the street when a Parisian woman spat at him on purpose.
But from beginning to end, he didn't lose his temper because of other people's unreasonable words and deeds, nor did he give up his design concept because of these negative events.
Later, under great pressure, I.M. Pei finally made the Louvre the proudest building in France with its pyramid design.
There is a saying: "Being too sensitive is a meaningless self-consumption."
How many grievances can be swallowed, how much can be achieved.
Can withstand several blows and become a few talents.
When you finally make achievements, all misunderstandings will be broken and all the blows will disappear.
Last year, there was a very popular video called "Strike first".
In the video, in the face of the sudden epidemic, many people have made difficulties.
A young man, writing his worries on paper, resigned before the outbreak. Can he still find a job?
A middle-aged man, doing livestock business in the countryside, asked himself, chickens can't live without fences. What should villagers do if they have no income?
A restaurant owner, looking at the way the employees in the store looked at her, wondered, can the store continue to open after three months without income?
After a short period of chaos and struggle, they took action one after another.
That young man, before he found a suitable job, chose to be a network car driver.
The middle-aged man, in order to promote the chickens raised by villagers, began to try to broadcast live with goods online.
The owner of the restaurant turned the store into a side dish market, selling cheap vegetables with all the employees.
In the end, they all survived the most difficult stage.
When you are in deep trouble, the more entangled you are, the more desperate you will be.
When you take action, you can better find a way out.
There is a question in Zhihu: "37-year-old unemployed at home, under great pressure, super painful, what should I do?"
A netizen named "the sea" replied:
First of all, confusion can't solve any problems. Again, emotions don't help.
What would you do if God put ten blind boxes in front of your eyes and told you that one of them contained what you wanted?
You should open them one by one.
Don't waste any more time, try and make mistakes quickly, it's no use thinking too much.
One word, fuck. No, change. Do it again. No, do it again.
There is a proverb: "Empty talk is the foam of water; Implementation is a bit of gold. "
Perhaps, action can't bring you a turn for the better immediately, but it can help you get out of the predicament slowly.
Thinking is the question, doing is the answer.
1983 American sociologist hochschild mentioned a theory called "emotional labor".
In addition to daily physical and mental work, there is also a neglected labor, that is, emotional labor.
When a person falls into excessive anxiety and entanglement, it will consume a lot of physical strength and energy.
That's why, when doing one thing:
Afraid that I can't do it, I feel more tired than I really can't do it.
It's even more embarrassing to be afraid that others will say that you can't do it.
Many times, the biggest difficulty we face is not from external pressure and external force, but from emotional and spiritual internal friction.
Whether confused or questioning, the more you think about it, the more painful it is.
When you abandon your distractions and troubles, the more you do, the calmer you will be.
One's greatest self-discipline is not to compete with oneself.
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Many times, the biggest difficulty we face is not from external pressure and external force, but from emotional and spiritual internal friction.
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The world is not in the hands of those mockers, but in the hands of those who can stand ridicule and criticism and keep moving forward.
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If you are strong, it is your stepping stone.
If you are timid, it is a stumbling block to your progress.
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The more you think, the more you will overdraw your mental and physical strength. The more you do, the more you can resist pressure and overcome difficulties.
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One's greatest self-discipline is not to compete with oneself.
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Facing the doubts and disappointments of others:
If you are strong, it is your stepping stone.
If you are timid, it is a stumbling block to your progress.
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Yes, it's all problems,
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Instead of being tortured by mental internal friction, it is better to heal yourself with action.
The more you think, the more you will overdraw your mental and physical strength. The more you do, the more you can resist pressure and overcome difficulties.
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Finally found a cure for the current confusion, this article came at the right time! Next, it's over!
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One's greatest self-discipline is not to compete with oneself.
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Reject internal friction and it's over. By the way, I didn't pay attention when I watched Run Wild. Brush it again.
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The greatest cost of life is self-exploration and internal friction.
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When a person is caught in too much anxiety and entanglement, it will consume a lot of physical strength and energy!
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Many times, what makes us tired is never unprepared, but too much anxiety and hesitation.
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Confusion can't solve any problems. Emotions don't help.
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If you beat yourself, you will be invincible.
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Only by planning can we win a thousand miles. Thinking is planning. Act if you don't want to be good. Too blind, often get twice the result with half the effort.
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Inadvertently clicked on this article, and while listening, I felt that I had been suffering from internal friction recently. I'm worried that I can't do my job well, that I'm being surpassed by others, that I'm not appreciated by my boss, and that I'm concerned about what others think of me recently. I just woke up after listening to this article. Next, we really need to get rid of distractions and get down to business.
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If you don't compete with yourself, you're finished!
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I have a deep understanding of this, and I will look back every time I do something; Afraid of this, afraid of that, afraid to move forward. In the end, I didn't do anything, which made my life at a loss and more confused. It turns out that internal friction is too serious. If you don't think much, just do it. If you lose, this is never the way to get rid of it. Oil; Fuel filling; Make greater efforts
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I wonder if there are any solutions to two situations? First, there are actions, and there are successes and failures as a result. The total number of failures is more than the number of successes, which overcomes the confidence brought by success and falls into a haze; Second, one of God's ten blind boxes is what you want, but I tell you, you can only choose three (just like the limitation of time and money at hand, all blind boxes have no possibility of analysis, pure luck), and you can't start to decide which three to open.
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"The world is not in the hands of those mockers, but in the hands of those who can stand ridicule and criticism and keep moving forward." I'm great to be my strong inner self.
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Thinking is the question, doing is the answer.